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I feel I need more information. I agree. One can be cautious without jumping in, but just because they are separated doesn't mean that they have no plans to get a divorce. Maybe their ex is playing legal games with them, making it hard for the divorce to go through. I'm not going to assume anything. As long as there is good honest communication, and all of their cards are on the table, I have no problem with this. |
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I like to stay clear of that personally...one person I met from here had said he was divorced, and come to find out he was still legally married, so I felt fooled, and didnt appreciate that...  This has happened to me SEVERAL times. It can be quite frustrating.  It took me several years to get over my divorce and get back into the dating world. IMO I don't think it's a good idea for anyone to date while separated or who have just gone through a divorce. It's a time for reevaluating and finding your way on your own. I am a firm believer that no one can complete you, you have to find that in yourself.This takes time. I could be wrong, but I feel like I would just be used as a tool in helping someone through their separation/divorce if I dated them during that time. |
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If I see separated I keep on going.
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Edited by
msharmony
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Tue 02/16/10 11:58 PM
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time and effort hold more weight than divorce papers for me....there are people in marriages which are open and agree to see other people, there are also people who have agreed to go their separate ways but found no immediate need or desire to go through the legal hassles,,,,
I was 'seperated' for nine years,,never planned to get remarried, never put paying for a divorce at the top of my responsibilities for my hard earned money either. Hubby and I split consentually, kept separate homes and seperate lives, most of those I went out with got to know me well enough to understand there was no 'going back' but there was just no motivation for 'making it legal' since I wasnt planning to marry again during those years. |
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I think the same thing as I do when I see "married" or "divorced"- yuck and goodbye.
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time and effort hold more weight than divorce papers for me....there are people in marriages which are open and agree to see other people, there are also people who have agreed to go their separate ways but found no immediate need or desire to go through the legal hassles,,,, I was 'seperated' for nine years,,never planned to get remarried, never put paying for a divorce at the top of my responsibilities for my hard earned money either. Hubby and I split consentually, kept separate homes and seperate lives, most of those I went out with got to know me well enough to understand there was no 'going back' but there was just no motivation for 'making it legal' since I wasnt planning to marry again during those years. |
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time and effort hold more weight than divorce papers for me....there are people in marriages which are open and agree to see other people, there are also people who have agreed to go their separate ways but found no immediate need or desire to go through the legal hassles,,,, I was 'seperated' for nine years,,never planned to get remarried, never put paying for a divorce at the top of my responsibilities for my hard earned money either. Hubby and I split consentually, kept separate homes and seperate lives, most of those I went out with got to know me well enough to understand there was no 'going back' but there was just no motivation for 'making it legal' since I wasnt planning to marry again during those years. I know I personally wouldn't be involved with someone in an open relationship. Friends yes, intimacy, Hel no! |
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