Where do I start? Controlling, manipulative, mean ... all wrapped up in a cute package with 3 children! While I tried so hard to be the good step-mom and new wife I didn't realize I no longer had friends or the ability to spend time with them. Took me awhile to realize that his verbal and emotional abuse was taking its toll on our daughter but once I realized that I filed divorce papers. Sometimes it does take awhile for your own personal fog to lift...

More bothered by myself.

That I hung on for so long.

Never again.

The abuse and that he tried to control me.

Actually I was a bit bothered that our marriage was nothing but a lie. It was bad enough when the other woman called me and told me how much she liked my bed! BUT when I actually filed for a divorce what the real killer was when all my so called friends told me about the 7 other women he had on the side! So yep he had 8 girlfriends total...so when you work different shifts, its a little hard to see whats really going on in your so called perfect life!!
Needless to say I am happily divorced now for 13 wonderful years AND he is one less headache for me!!

OMG, that is beyond sick. I am so sorry that's happened to you. But I am happy that you escaped that wretched excuse for a human being and moved on with your life. My story was equally as bad, but different circumstances. "J" was an alcoholic, emotionally abusive bi-polar. I thought I could change/help her, and tomorrow was going to be better. I found out too late, this was never going to happen. In addition to her twisted mental stability, she started lying and cheating. I demanded that she stop if our relationship meant anything to her. She did, for about 8 months, and then went back to it, and the drinking got worse and worse, which fueled her rage, and lack of remorse for hurting me and others. It finally came to a sudden abrupt end at the end of August, and she's out of my life for good. She's someone else's problem now, I no longer have to deal with it.

hahahaha gf :-) (soufiehere)
Mine, gee, let's see.
It might have been the child porn he..used.
It might have been the automatic weapons he
chose to clean when arguing.
Maybe the theft of everything I owned..

Nah.
It is that breathing thing that Gossipmpm
mentioned above.
Amen.

That she complained her chain didn't reach as far as the telephone.

The biotch!!!!!!!!!
hahahaha

Is anybody finding their soul mate here.

Thank you BUT you are right, we can not make people change. We can set demands but in the end our best bet would be just to turn out and walk out in the beginning of the situation. I am sure that you are so much happier now without any of that? I know the first thing I thought was OMG I am finally FREE OF HIM!! Life is funny BUT we are the only ones that can take charge of our lives :-)

Found out she was a Lesbian

He was too needy and smothered me. We lived together and he still had to call me 20 times a day when either one of us went on business trips alone.

belittled me

selfish cheating workaholic

no remorse

I gotta' admit. I was the major a$$hole to my wives. All three exes.
They were all good women. I was a bad boy. So, if I were to try to fault them, I'd be lyin".
Dat's just da' way it was.

Not many people can or would admit that. Good for you.

Instead of telling the long horrible story,all I am going to say is I am so glad he is the EX!!!

His not working. His mental abuse. His childishness.