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One of the worker whom working with goes out with one of exboyfriend. Should I tell her or keep it down low? Can you be friends with your exboyfriend? I think she is a great person but I have a feeling he will do her as he did with me. What could I do? I do not want to affect anyone who I value as a friend.
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If you are her friend, and she is yours, I don't think it would 'hurt' if you just gave her a 'heads-up' on what he's like. She may or may not listen to you, but that is her choice JMO
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She's dating one of your ex boyfriends? I don't see why it matters, as for him doing her as he did you, not necessarily. I've known men to treat one woman like crap and then go on to treat another as a princess. Every situation is different.
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Just mind ya beeswax
Its between them whatever happens really |
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If she is just a work associate I would say let it be but if you are friends at least let her know that he is your ex. If she wants to know about him she will ask.
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eh, let the cards fall where they may. Ya get in the middle of it and you'll end up being the bad guy, let her figure it out on her own.
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Just mind ya beeswax Its between them whatever happens really |
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Edited by
jpmari
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Mon 01/18/10 06:33 PM
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Thank you for helping me you all are great..
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Even if you tell her he's done it to you, that won't lessen her hurt. It's hard to see someone being mistreated, but it's up to her to decide what she's willing to put up with.
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Even if you tell her he's done it to you, that won't lessen her hurt. It's hard to see someone being mistreated, but it's up to her to decide what she's willing to put up with. |
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Its been done to me too!!
Sometimes friend or not Women have to go through the ******** to learn on their own JMO |
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Its been done to me too!! Sometimes friend or not Women have to go through the ******** to learn on their own JMO |
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Its been done to me too!! Sometimes friend or not Women have to go through the ******** to learn on their own JMO Yep, that's how you learn. Once the friend is over being treated like ****, she'll put a stop to it and won't put up with it in the future from anyone else. |
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Its been done to me too!! Sometimes friend or not Women have to go through the ******** to learn on their own JMO Yep, that's how you learn. Once the friend is over being treated like ****, she'll put a stop to it and won't put up with it in the future from anyone else. |
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Let it be .And come to me
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Let it be .And come to me |
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<<<Incomming Newspapre Article>>>
Here we go... 1. Concerning friendship with ur ex. Its v. tricky. In most cases the feeling of sex attraction is still around and even in low quontity can leads to jealousy or even to a passionate moment without control. Still, friendship can exist but its a dangerous road to take. 2. About telling ur friend about ur ex. Personality is a very complicated characteristic of humans. You can be with someone and live together for many years, and still there are moments where he/she can still surprise u. Something like hobbits from Lord of the Rings. Besides that, every personality can be received by another human from different point of view. For example, you find X characteristic of your ex, negative, while another woman receives the same characteristic as positive. This phenomenon doesnt happens allways but it happens a lot. For these reasons, i personaly suggest not to tell your friend anything about ur ex. Let her "explore" him by her self. Besides that, you dont know how ur ex can treat her. He may treat her like you, but there is the option that this woman has something special that draws ur ex interest to her, and so receive much better treatment than u did. So.. let them be. Keep an eye on her, by asking her how she is doing with her new relationship and if u spot signs of unhappiness, just advise her from ur personal experience without letting her know that he is ur ex. By telling her that he is ur ex, u putting limits in her judgement about his actions (coz she will ask u about it) and maybe u make her to feel uncofortable in front of u. Give them the freedom to discover themselves and only take action if u are 100% something bad will happen. PS: To predict the future leads to fault results in many cases. PS: The best doctor for a relationship is TIME |
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<<<Incomming Newspapre Article>>> Here we go... 1. Concerning friendship with ur ex. Its v. tricky. In most cases the feeling of sex attraction is still around and even in low quontity can leads to jealousy or even to a passionate moment without control. Still, friendship can exist but its a dangerous road to take. 2. About telling ur friend about ur ex. Personality is a very complicated characteristic of humans. You can be with someone and live together for many years, and still there are moments where he/she can still surprise u. Something like hobbits from Lord of the Rings. Besides that, every personality can be received by another human from different point of view. For example, you find X characteristic of your ex, negative, while another woman receives the same characteristic as positive. This phenomenon doesnt happens allways but it happens a lot. For these reasons, i personaly suggest not to tell your friend anything about ur ex. Let her "explore" him by her self. Besides that, you dont know how ur ex can treat her. He may treat her like you, but there is the option that this woman has something special that draws ur ex interest to her, and so receive much better treatment than u did. So.. let them be. Keep an eye on her, by asking her how she is doing with her new relationship and if u spot signs of unhappiness, just advise her from ur personal experience without letting her know that he is ur ex. By telling her that he is ur ex, u putting limits in her judgement about his actions (coz she will ask u about it) and maybe u make her to feel uncofortable in front of u. Give them the freedom to discover themselves and only take action if u are 100% something bad will happen. PS: To predict the future leads to fault results in many cases. PS: The best doctor for a relationship is TIME |
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<<<Incomming Newspapre Article>>> Here we go... 1. Concerning friendship with ur ex. Its v. tricky. In most cases the feeling of sex attraction is still around and even in low quontity can leads to jealousy or even to a passionate moment without control. Still, friendship can exist but its a dangerous road to take. 2. About telling ur friend about ur ex. Personality is a very complicated characteristic of humans. You can be with someone and live together for many years, and still there are moments where he/she can still surprise u. Something like hobbits from Lord of the Rings. Besides that, every personality can be received by another human from different point of view. For example, you find X characteristic of your ex, negative, while another woman receives the same characteristic as positive. This phenomenon doesnt happens allways but it happens a lot. For these reasons, i personaly suggest not to tell your friend anything about ur ex. Let her "explore" him by her self. Besides that, you dont know how ur ex can treat her. He may treat her like you, but there is the option that this woman has something special that draws ur ex interest to her, and so receive much better treatment than u did. So.. let them be. Keep an eye on her, by asking her how she is doing with her new relationship and if u spot signs of unhappiness, just advise her from ur personal experience without letting her know that he is ur ex. By telling her that he is ur ex, u putting limits in her judgement about his actions (coz she will ask u about it) and maybe u make her to feel uncofortable in front of u. Give them the freedom to discover themselves and only take action if u are 100% something bad will happen. PS: To predict the future leads to fault results in many cases. PS: The best doctor for a relationship is TIME Totally agree. |
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The truth WILL come out sooner or later....Believe me, it is a small World after all.
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