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Topic: I Do Want To Hurt No one I Value
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Mon 01/18/10 06:18 PM
One of the worker whom working with goes out with one of exboyfriend. Should I tell her or keep it down low? Can you be friends with your exboyfriend? I think she is a great person but I have a feeling he will do her as he did with me. What could I do? I do not want to affect anyone who I value as a friend.

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Mon 01/18/10 06:23 PM
If you are her friend, and she is yours, I don't think it would 'hurt' if you just gave her a 'heads-up' on what he's like. She may or may not listen to you, but that is her choice:heart: JMO

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Mon 01/18/10 06:25 PM
She's dating one of your ex boyfriends? I don't see why it matters, as for him doing her as he did you, not necessarily. I've known men to treat one woman like crap and then go on to treat another as a princess. Every situation is different.

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Mon 01/18/10 06:26 PM
Just mind ya beeswax

Its between them whatever happens really:heart:

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Mon 01/18/10 06:26 PM
If she is just a work associate I would say let it be but if you are friends at least let her know that he is your ex. If she wants to know about him she will ask.

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Mon 01/18/10 06:27 PM
eh, let the cards fall where they may. Ya get in the middle of it and you'll end up being the bad guy, let her figure it out on her own.

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Mon 01/18/10 06:32 PM

Just mind ya beeswax

Its between them whatever happens really:heart:
I was not saying I am in her beeswax is that it hurts when she says he is not returning her phones calls or has no idea where is he..That's hurts I been there and he done it to me.

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Mon 01/18/10 06:32 PM
Edited by jpmari on Mon 01/18/10 06:33 PM
Thank you for helping me you all are great..flowerforyou

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Mon 01/18/10 06:33 PM
Even if you tell her he's done it to you, that won't lessen her hurt. It's hard to see someone being mistreated, but it's up to her to decide what she's willing to put up with.

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Mon 01/18/10 06:35 PM

Even if you tell her he's done it to you, that won't lessen her hurt. It's hard to see someone being mistreated, but it's up to her to decide what she's willing to put up with.
That's Very True but that's kills me

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Mon 01/18/10 06:35 PM
Its been done to me too!!

Sometimes

friend or not

Women have to go through the ******** to learn on their own


JMO:heart:

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Mon 01/18/10 06:36 PM

Its been done to me too!!

Sometimes

friend or not

Women have to go through the ******** to learn on their own


JMO:heart:
True

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Mon 01/18/10 06:37 PM

Its been done to me too!!

Sometimes

friend or not

Women have to go through the ******** to learn on their own


JMO:heart:


Yep, that's how you learn. Once the friend is over being treated like ****, she'll put a stop to it and won't put up with it in the future from anyone else.

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Mon 01/18/10 06:40 PM


Its been done to me too!!

Sometimes

friend or not

Women have to go through the ******** to learn on their own


JMO:heart:


Yep, that's how you learn. Once the friend is over being treated like ****, she'll put a stop to it and won't put up with it in the future from anyone else.
The one problem is holding myself together and act cool..

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Mon 01/18/10 06:41 PM
Let it be .And come to meslaphead

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Mon 01/18/10 06:44 PM

Let it be .And come to meslaphead
okey...lol thanks

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Mon 01/18/10 06:56 PM
<<<Incomming Newspapre Article>>>

Here we go...

1. Concerning friendship with ur ex.

Its v. tricky. In most cases the feeling of sex attraction is still around and even in low quontity can leads to jealousy or even to a passionate moment without control. Still, friendship can exist but its a dangerous road to take.

2. About telling ur friend about ur ex.

Personality is a very complicated characteristic of humans. You can be with someone and live together for many years, and still there are moments where he/she can still surprise u. Something like hobbits from Lord of the Rings. Besides that, every personality can be received by another human from different point of view. For example, you find X characteristic of your ex, negative, while another woman receives the same characteristic as positive. This phenomenon doesnt happens allways but it happens a lot.

For these reasons, i personaly suggest not to tell your friend anything about ur ex. Let her "explore" him by her self. Besides that, you dont know how ur ex can treat her. He may treat her like you, but there is the option that this woman has something special that draws ur ex interest to her, and so receive much better treatment than u did.

So.. let them be. Keep an eye on her, by asking her how she is doing with her new relationship and if u spot signs of unhappiness, just advise her from ur personal experience without letting her know that he is ur ex. By telling her that he is ur ex, u putting limits in her judgement about his actions (coz she will ask u about it) and maybe u make her to feel uncofortable in front of u.

Give them the freedom to discover themselves and only take action if u are 100% something bad will happen.

PS: To predict the future leads to fault results in many cases.

PS: The best doctor for a relationship is TIME

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Mon 01/18/10 07:02 PM

<<<Incomming Newspapre Article>>>

Here we go...

1. Concerning friendship with ur ex.

Its v. tricky. In most cases the feeling of sex attraction is still around and even in low quontity can leads to jealousy or even to a passionate moment without control. Still, friendship can exist but its a dangerous road to take.

2. About telling ur friend about ur ex.

Personality is a very complicated characteristic of humans. You can be with someone and live together for many years, and still there are moments where he/she can still surprise u. Something like hobbits from Lord of the Rings. Besides that, every personality can be received by another human from different point of view. For example, you find X characteristic of your ex, negative, while another woman receives the same characteristic as positive. This phenomenon doesnt happens allways but it happens a lot.

For these reasons, i personaly suggest not to tell your friend anything about ur ex. Let her "explore" him by her self. Besides that, you dont know how ur ex can treat her. He may treat her like you, but there is the option that this woman has something special that draws ur ex interest to her, and so receive much better treatment than u did.

So.. let them be. Keep an eye on her, by asking her how she is doing with her new relationship and if u spot signs of unhappiness, just advise her from ur personal experience without letting her know that he is ur ex. By telling her that he is ur ex, u putting limits in her judgement about his actions (coz she will ask u about it) and maybe u make her to feel uncofortable in front of u.

Give them the freedom to discover themselves and only take action if u are 100% something bad will happen.

PS: To predict the future leads to fault results in many cases.

PS: The best doctor for a relationship is TIME
wow!! Thank you....lol

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Mon 01/18/10 07:11 PM

<<<Incomming Newspapre Article>>>

Here we go...

1. Concerning friendship with ur ex.

Its v. tricky. In most cases the feeling of sex attraction is still around and even in low quontity can leads to jealousy or even to a passionate moment without control. Still, friendship can exist but its a dangerous road to take.

2. About telling ur friend about ur ex.

Personality is a very complicated characteristic of humans. You can be with someone and live together for many years, and still there are moments where he/she can still surprise u. Something like hobbits from Lord of the Rings. Besides that, every personality can be received by another human from different point of view. For example, you find X characteristic of your ex, negative, while another woman receives the same characteristic as positive. This phenomenon doesnt happens allways but it happens a lot.

For these reasons, i personaly suggest not to tell your friend anything about ur ex. Let her "explore" him by her self. Besides that, you dont know how ur ex can treat her. He may treat her like you, but there is the option that this woman has something special that draws ur ex interest to her, and so receive much better treatment than u did.

So.. let them be. Keep an eye on her, by asking her how she is doing with her new relationship and if u spot signs of unhappiness, just advise her from ur personal experience without letting her know that he is ur ex. By telling her that he is ur ex, u putting limits in her judgement about his actions (coz she will ask u about it) and maybe u make her to feel uncofortable in front of u.

Give them the freedom to discover themselves and only take action if u are 100% something bad will happen.

PS: To predict the future leads to fault results in many cases.

PS: The best doctor for a relationship is TIME


Totally agree.

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Mon 01/18/10 07:19 PM
The truth WILL come out sooner or later....Believe me, it is a small World after all.

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