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A goat... Everything you just said I understand..except the goat part. Is that your perspective of what these women wanted you to be like? Like a goat? If I could turn a man into any animal of my choice..I'm just thinking goat wouldn't be my first choice. 
It's a not-so-subtle piece of imagery to depict what most of my previous girlfriends (as well as my ex-wife) wanted me to be. A domesticated farm animal. Oh, I could have picked any number of other animals, I suppose....but there's just something about the goat concept that appeals to me -- perhaps it's the Pan/satyr overtones, perhaps it's my fond memories of the Andy Griffith episode where the goat swallowed a bunch of dynamite, perhaps it's just the idea that I'd like to eat tins cans if given the option. I don't know. I am tracking with you...as far as what your saying though. Maybe because my children are a result of my past horrible mistakes(the relationships, not my boys) I am able to not want to erase the memory..maybe not. I still cherish some of those memories, that don't include my boys. I can understand that. I have some good memories, too. But, in the overall context of things, there are a dozen bad memories for every good one, and the bad ones run deeper -- much deeper. |
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Is It Worth It What You Had ??
The 1st Time : No, Ended in Div The 2nd Time : YES, Absolutely - Ended in widowhood. |
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A goat... Everything you just said I understand..except the goat part. Is that your perspective of what these women wanted you to be like? Like a goat? If I could turn a man into any animal of my choice..I'm just thinking goat wouldn't be my first choice.
It's a not-so-subtle piece of imagery to depict what most of my previous girlfriends (as well as my ex-wife) wanted me to be. A domesticated farm animal. Oh, I could have picked any number of other animals, I suppose....but there's just something about the goat concept that appeals to me -- perhaps it's the Pan/satyr overtones, perhaps it's my fond memories of the Andy Griffith episode where the goat swallowed a bunch of dynamite, perhaps it's just the idea that I'd like to eat tins cans if given the option. I don't know. I am tracking with you...as far as what your saying though. Maybe because my children are a result of my past horrible mistakes(the relationships, not my boys) I am able to not want to erase the memory..maybe not. I still cherish some of those memories, that don't include my boys. I can understand that. I have some good memories, too. But, in the overall context of things, there are a dozen bad memories for every good one, and the bad ones run deeper -- much deeper. Seems we hold onto the bad easier than the good.. the mind grasps them better, not sure why. I have heard we have to do 10 good things to make up for one bad thing..I tend feel there is a fair amount of truth in that. Doesn't it seem all the qualities that one finds attractive in the beginning are the things they end up wanting to change about you? Seems so for me. I wonder why, sometimes. |
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Doesn't it seem all the qualities that one finds attractive in the beginning are the things they end up wanting to change about you? Seems so for me. I wonder why, sometimes. Yeah, that has always puzzled me, too. They always tell me "I love everything about you!" for three months; then they decide they suddenly need to CHANGE everything about me. You could set your watch by it. |
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Just a thought....perhaps a change of strategy may be worth considering.
Think about it........be some fake shmoe for three months then, when it is time "for you to change"...change to the guy you are now. Hell.......I need to try that approach! |
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Just a thought....perhaps a change of strategy may be worth considering. Think about it........be some fake shmoe for three months then, when it is time "for you to change"...change to the guy you are now. Hell.......I need to try that approach! This is pure brilliance! Absolutely pure brilliance in it's strangest but most sane form!!! |
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Time for chocolate....love, s-x, talk of one reminds me of the other and I have neither now nor for awhile so....TIME FOR CHOCOLATE!
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Just a thought....perhaps a change of strategy may be worth considering. Think about it........be some fake shmoe for three months then, when it is time "for you to change"...change to the guy you are now. Hell.......I need to try that approach! This is pure brilliance! Absolutely pure brilliance in it's strangest but most sane form!!!  ... That is SO brilliant, ... that it is almost beyound scope! ... 
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Oh hell yea!
Taught me so much about: myself men love in general relationships 
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Just a thought....perhaps a change of strategy may be worth considering. Think about it........be some fake shmoe for three months then, when it is time "for you to change"...change to the guy you are now. Hell.......I need to try that approach! Sounds like a lot of work -- I mean, I can do a passable fake British accent, and I suppose I could pretend to be a radio ventriloquist from the UK or something, but three months is a long time to be "in character".... |
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Just a thought....perhaps a change of strategy may be worth considering. Think about it........be some fake shmoe for three months then, when it is time "for you to change"...change to the guy you are now. Hell.......I need to try that approach! This is pure brilliance! Absolutely pure brilliance in it's strangest but most sane form!!! ... That is SO brilliant, ... that it is almost beyound scope! ...
I'm actually diggin' this idea too. Don't normally go for the fake out routine, but this has merit. I hope Lex takes advantage of this strategy.....Kudo's to Krupa! |
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Just a thought....perhaps a change of strategy may be worth considering. Think about it........be some fake shmoe for three months then, when it is time "for you to change"...change to the guy you are now. Hell.......I need to try that approach! This is pure brilliance! Absolutely pure brilliance in it's strangest but most sane form!!! ... That is SO brilliant, ... that it is almost beyound scope! ...
I'm actually diggin' this idea too. Don't normally go for the fake out routine, but this has merit. I hope Lex takes advantage of this strategy.....Kudo's to Krupa! Sure, all I need is somebody to try it on! 
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Just a thought....perhaps a change of strategy may be worth considering. Think about it........be some fake shmoe for three months then, when it is time "for you to change"...change to the guy you are now. Hell.......I need to try that approach! This is pure brilliance! Absolutely pure brilliance in it's strangest but most sane form!!! ... That is SO brilliant, ... that it is almost beyound scope! ...
I'm actually diggin' this idea too. Don't normally go for the fake out routine, but this has merit. I hope Lex takes advantage of this strategy.....Kudo's to Krupa! Sure, all I need is somebody to try it on!
and when you find her - you don't need a fake accent or any of that, just fake being a selfish creep often enough that she notices, be nice and charming (yourself) most of the time to keep her on the hook...then for a month or so be extra selfish and moody and less of the stuff that keeps her on the hook....she will at that point have THE CONVERSATION with you....Tada - you get to "change" into yourself and live happily ever after!!!! Oh the brillance of this!!!!! |
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Just a thought....perhaps a change of strategy may be worth considering. Think about it........be some fake shmoe for three months then, when it is time "for you to change"...change to the guy you are now. Hell.......I need to try that approach! This is pure brilliance! Absolutely pure brilliance in it's strangest but most sane form!!! ... That is SO brilliant, ... that it is almost beyound scope! ...
I'm actually diggin' this idea too. Don't normally go for the fake out routine, but this has merit. I hope Lex takes advantage of this strategy.....Kudo's to Krupa! Sure, all I need is somebody to try it on!
and when you find her - you don't need a fake accent or any of that, just fake being a selfish creep often enough that she notices, be nice and charming (yourself) most of the time to keep her on the hook...then for a month or so be extra selfish and moody and less of the stuff that keeps her on the hook....she will at that point have THE CONVERSATION with you....Tada - you get to "change" into yourself and live happily ever after!!!! Oh the brillance of this!!!!! Hey I am not saying that this 'off the top of my head' plan doesn't need refining and expanding...just a jumping off point.... Krupa takes the cake again!!!! |
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Speaking of love...: Is it really worth the hurt or heart ache, to experience love? Is the time you spent in love, and happy, really worth the price, you pay... should you end up going separate ways?  
I don't think a broken heart is worth it, but it's the price we pay in order to not be alone. It has always been difficult for me to view a failed relationship positively. The memories of good times only fuel my contempt, but time does seem to heal the wounds and still talk to a couple of my ex's from time to time, but I don't miss the relationships. |
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I think I will try the morally repressed shy type. Let some poor bird coax me from my shell then BAM! Put my stuff in her face and just be me. This is just stupid enough to work!
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Speaking of love...: Is it really worth the hurt or heart ache, to experience love? Is the time you spent in love, and happy, really worth the price, you pay... should you end up going separate ways?
I don't think a broken heart is worth it, but it's the price we pay in order to not be alone. It has always been difficult for me to view a failed relationship positively. The memories of good times only fuel my contempt, but time does seem to heal the wounds and still talk to a couple of my ex's from time to time, but I don't miss the relationships. Well there you have a great point, miss the person, not the failed relationship! Each failed relationship leaves a void and sometimes it is nice to able to touch base with the person. |
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I find new relationships like a buffet you have never been to. Somethings you can tell by looking at them you don't want any part of it, others you need to taste to get a feel for. Sometimes something that looks scary tastes awesome and other times you get food poisoning but can't figure out exactly what the culprit was. I think that if you at least try it you know what it was and wasn't. I would never boycott buffets just because one was crap though. I wouldn't stop eating bacon just because one buffet burnt thiers... yeah. That's my take on it.
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I think I will try the morally repressed shy type. Let some poor bird coax me from my shell then BAM! Put my stuff in her face and just be me. This is just stupid enough to work! [/quote Oh please Krupa rethink this strategy! You have to able to maintain the facade for at least a few weeks!!!! |
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I find new relationships like a buffet you have never been to. Somethings you can tell by looking at them you don't want any part of it, others you need to taste to get a feel for. Sometimes something that looks scary tastes awesome and other times you get food poisoning but can't figure out exactly what the culprit was. I think that if you at least try it you know what it was and wasn't. I would never boycott buffets just because one was crap though. I wouldn't stop eating bacon just because one buffet burnt thiers... yeah. That's my take on it. That was a good answer! 
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