I am VERY new to this, I met a guy here yesterday, we talked on the
phone last night, he lives 30 minutes from me, works 15 minutes away
from me. He said he wanted to get together today after work, and that he
would call me, well he never called. I am wondering how I should take
this, as brush off?

yA YOU MUST BE NEW TO THIS........I SEE THE TURNIP TRUCK RIGHT BEHIND
YOU!!!!

who is to say

maybe something came up

maybe his wife showed up

maybe he is scared

maybe he had to work late

maybe he fell asleep

could be any number of things

play it by ear and see what happens

good luck

I know stupid me......

Maybe something came up? Do you have his number....if so, call him and
just say something like hey, what happened to you today? Then you should
be able to tell if it was a brush-off or not. I myself think that you
are kind of rushing things, I think you should really talk a bit longer
then just the short time that you have...why do you have to meet him so
fast?
All could things come to those who wait

not sure stupid is the correct word to use

WELL I WAS A BIT RASH.......BUT YOU HAVED TO BE A BIT MORE SMART THAN
GIVING SOME GUY YOU JUST MET ON THE NET YOUR PHONE NUMBER!!!

OK IVE SAID TOO MUCH!!!

why would you give your number to a guy that you just met? well, he may
have gotten cold feet or was just seeing if he could get your number and
had no intention of meeting you.

either way, you might want to think twice about giving your number to a
guy you just met.

awwwwwwww , that happens
I think aliens come and abduct them or something ..
it is one of those unsolved mysteries...
but you never know ..he MIGHT call ..

& there is freaks on here!!! Gurl, don't give out your ## until
you've chatted in IM on site for a bit..

yes unsure I have his number, it was his idea to meet , I was a little
shocked myself that he asked

not rushing it persay

what is differnt from meeting the guy in the bar and talking

so they meet online first

they could go to the same place for a casual drink

and talk

not a big deal

but let a friend know what is going on

thanks guys you all have opened my eyes a great deal. much appreciated!

& there is freaks on here!!! Gurl, don't give out your ## until
you've chatted in IM on site for a bit..

give him about a month--he might before then if not write him
off

I agree with Herewego, get to know someone before giving out personal
information - you don't know who is on the other side of the computer.
He could use your phone number to track down where you live, etc. I
would never give a phone number out that quickly, even a private e-mail
address, make them write over this site until I was comfortable that I
knew them and then if I felt comfortable for a meet, meet in a public
place, and possibly take a friend along. You don't know if they are a
sexual predator or what. Always, always err on the side of safety and
protecting yourself.

Sorry, worked in the prison system for 17 years and typed a lot of
criminal history summaries and saw the lengths that men would go to to
get women. Be safe, take care of yourself.

see what happens, maybe he was scared. Dont take it to personal you
don't even know him yet :) give it some time

Steph, He obviously knows where you work from your post. Please
be careful and KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN for anything that is not normal. I'm
sorry Steph but if you are smart enough to operate a computer you should
not have done this.

Hi, Steph,

No harm, no foul.

But there are some good general rules that I practice...

1. Get to know a person via JSH emails. If the relationship is going to
go anywhere, a good bit of emailing won't stop it, no matter how eager
the other person is.

2. Talk on the phone, several times. Get a sense of the PERSON who is
behind the voice and the emails. Again, no hurry; if it going to be a
solid relationship it isn't going to go away.

3. Planning the meeting: make sure you have all his contact info before
agreeing to meet. Phone number, address, etc. And do not give him your
address. If he is savvy, he will understand why you are being cautious
and won't object.

4. Meet in a public place at a time there will be plenty of other people
there. A quiet place is best, with few distractions. (I once met a lady
in the bookstore at my suggestion. Boy, was that a mistake, I got caught
up in looking at books and forgot about her. At least I got some good
additions for my library, and had plenty of time to start reading when I
was alone that evening

5. A good time to choose is one that makes it possible to continue the
date if it is clicking, or to leave gracefully if it isn't, e.g. 10:00
am, or 3:00 pm.

Hope this helps....

Stay safe, and enjoy life!

Oceans

I agree he could just be shy but be safe please.