in love and war.

We have all heard this saying, but what about when you suspect you SO is cheating?

How far would you go if you suspect your SO is cheating? Would you just walk away even though you don't have proof? Would you try to get proof? Would you stay even with these suspicions

Unless you're really paranoid, if you think they're cheating, you're probably right and it's time to leave.

Edited to add: Once you start getting suspicious, it will only go downhill from there, and your relationship is over anyway.

not healthy, relationships are built on trust. and if you dont have it it wont work. there is no grey area in that.

Communication, communication, communication. I would let them know of my suspicions and why I had them and hope they were mature enough to discuss the underlying causes and come up with some solutions with me. If not, than comes the time to leave, because a lack of trust is a dealbreaker for me. If I cant trust you, and you dont care to make an EFFORT to understand why and correct it,,we wont have much emotional intimacy in our relationship and it may as well end sooner than later.

see trust, it all comes down to that

I got the idea for this when I was flipping through channels. Both Cheaters and Sex Decoy are on.

Would anyone ever use these shows to bust someone? What do you think the mind set of someone that uses these shows be?

I'd be too embarrassed to make a fool out of myself on tv like that. Talk about attention whores.

pissed off, would be their mind set. I'm going to catch them on tv,thats scary

but it's better than Jerry Springer

you mean the one that thinks the SO is cheating would have to be pissed off?

Why would someone without proof though be pissed off?

Oh gawd, those people are like something from another planet.....

springer fake

my life's motto is....no matter how bad my life might be...at least I'm not on Jerry Springer

or

Life is a Jerry Springer show and I'm just here for the Jerry beads

Jerry!!! Jerry!!! Jerry!!!

Yeah, if my life was anything like an eppy of Jerry Springer, I'd be trying to jump off the nearest cliff where I live.

I think alot of times, they dont want to make sure the cheater takes the blame for the break up. Without the proof, the cheater can make up all types of stories putting the blame on the one they cheated on. Especially in marriage, its hard to use lack of trust as a reason to leave, if adultery is the only reason your faith allows.

i didnt have to hire anyone when my ex hubby was cheating... for i had friends or family members telling me they saw him, in fact my ex hubby was kissing a friend of his in front another friend in my house. and my friend told me, and of course he denied it.
when i was pg with my son, i let my bestfriend stay with us for she was having issue in her marriage and that nite he tried to get down her pants, she pushed him off all nite, and the next day she had a class she had to go to and she called me and told me what went on and i confronted him while i was still on the phone and he cracked up laughing over it.. i told him while i was still on the phone that i belive her more than i did him. for i knew he was lying... and also to prove he was cheating he had a son that was born 3months before our son was born, and while we were separated the lady he was with they had a son together he actually has a total of 6kids. i wouldnt be suprised if he doesnt have any more

I would think if it got down to where a person felt the need to hire one of these shows, a PI or your own investigation (aka stalking)....that would be a clear sign to get out of a relationship.

If I suspect that someone I was with was cheating, I would talk to her, let her know I was suspicious and why and the relationship would be over.

wow queen...I'm sorry to hear that and glad you got out of that.

msharmony....good point

what if they deny it?