Almost exactly 1 year ago I have met someone from here. The whole thing only lasted 2 days. Ever since, I haven't met anyone as a date , not from here and neither from anywhere else.

I met one woman on each of the 3 sites I was on, here, okcupid, and pof, none of which were successful long term. In fact, I have created accounts on multiple sites, deleted them and recreated them in protest of my feelings for one woman, ultimately surrendering my heart intact to her. I'm pretty confident that the protest phase has ended.

The most notably ironic was in August, being noticed on a business trip to N. Ireland on pof. On the drive home from Dayton, I was texting her my status, looking forward to getting home, and quickly getting ready and the first thought? "Great. I'm in love with one woman, and about to go on a date with another". We met within a half hour of me getting home, still raw from the 22 hour flight and 1 hour drive home. Yea that one didn't work out well, and that's when I knew I was owned, and being on any dating site at all was an exercise in futility. For my next business trip, a few weeks later in New Zealand, I kept in touch with the right woman and now we have a direct line, and it's been getting better ever since. These dating sites served their purpose, if only to provide distraction so I don't notice my heart being stolen right out from under me.

Ultimately, I created and destroyed my pof account 4 times, okcupid account 3 times, and for several months, deactivated this account. I hope to never go through all that again.

One date from another site....One date from Mingle-and have been seeing her ever since-almost 6 months now.

I have but, it always turns into friendship.

I have not met anyone in person, as of today.But there always tomarrows right?Have chatted with a few,But truly I know what I am looking for, not going to settle for less. Communication,communication communication... sometimes it takes months to know if it's workable.
We are all guily of saying things that others might want to hear, also as well ,leaving things out that we disagree on.When you get past that,and trust is built,truly you have better hopes that it's workable.
"relationship under construction"
I would add in my profile, so others would know.

Met someone from here lasted a few months.

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Just another story of duplicity, betrayal, war, treachery and survival ...

... ... what does not kill us makes us stronger!


GL in the trenches ...

sounds like its getting better, what type of adjustments were made to improve the situations/circumstances?? i.e. reducing expectations..taking it slower/faster...ect..

Yes,,,,,and it was just fine,,,or shall I say.
The ones I have dated in the past three years on here...
Have all been good people,,,just a mix of not working out as to why I am still single and here..its like meeting in the real world,,
and with the same feelings as wanting to feel a certain click, or chemistry?
If it had all came together,,I would be a WE...lol
As it must feel the same to them, so life is trying to meet one who relates all around with your over-all living and thinking..
So you meet,,and see if you might then want to try a date..?
If that seems like a good idea for ya both,,,you make plans and see how it goes....
Dates have turned to many marriages on here from them meeting on here..
And I have witnessed MOST of them,lol..
So love can be found here if you meet your CLICK..wink,lol

I've met one person in the flesh so far. Been out a couple of times. Still working on it. Really cool person though. I just have to keep trying!

nope, cant even get anyone to acknowledge my mails.Online dating seems more difficult to me

For starters, this was the first time escape was not an option, which is something I haven't experienced before, ever. Time, love, and understanding. While I've been waiting, I've been learning more about her, and her kids favorite things. There's never a shortage of mountain dew, orange crush, potato chips, chocolates, and reeces peanut butter cups, with surplus in storage. I know exactly how she likes her coffee, and I've also slowly been getting to know her kids, what they like and what they need. The last time she got roses before me, it was as an apology for being abused and that was 4 years ago. In my last marriage, there was never a shortage of roses, and I'm grateful to be inspired again. It's been 12 years since she was in a relationship where she felt cherished, and that part comes natural also. The most obvious in her life is not being treated as she deserves to be. Little things, like appreciating her as a person, and compliments. Then there's the other bonuses of getting to know her children, what they need, and what brings out their best. That's a bit of work in progress, but it is progressing and all of them are really starting to express themselves and are becoming comfortable with me.

She's pretty much in charge of the pace and the most promising pace indicator is in less than 12 hours, when we have our first serious discussion about our future, with her being the one to initiate it. The kids all love me, and she's admitted to it also. There have also been some poetic moments, such as my birthday last month. Baby girl and her mother went to the store to buy me a present and unknowingly, later that night, I bought the little one a stuffed pony, better than the one she was crying about when they were picking out my present. Appreciating our journey together, each moment, each day, yea it's been wonderful.

YEP! WE met on Jan. 12th '09- been 2gether ever since