Work on getting over the ex before you start trying to date again, it's not fair to you or the other person.

yea your right but i have to move on but easier said then done. wouldnt be as hard if we didnt have a baby together but she moved on so fast hasnt even been two whole months.that says alot tho

posting in the forums and being active helps. It helped me when I went through it

Even though your words are harsh (fat and ugly) never, ever apologize for your preferences!

We have to be attracted to who we date. Attractive is subjective to each person and you do not have to justify what you like!

Heal yourself before you start dating because you don't want baggage from a prior relationship infecting a new one.

Relax and have fun first!

It sounds like she is rebounding. Do not rebound! It's not fair to you or the person you date and dump.

Besides, with a baby -- you or your ex should never bring new people around children like a turnstile. Children shouldn't be aware of their parent's dating lifestyle at all until things get serious (like marriage). I don’t have kids but I know enough to caution people against introducing a child to casual dates.

I wish you the very best!

you guys are really nice and helpful. thank you everyone for the advice. my brother says where still young and trying to find ourselfs. i told him should i forgive her if she comes back after being with another man?? he was like yes be the bigger person and think about your child

With all due respect, I disagree.

Just because you were in love doesn't mean you are right for each other.

Parents can "parent" better if they are healthy and that doesn't always mean staying together. You can raise a healthy child -- mind body and soul -- by NOT being together.

Early childhood development suggests kids pick up on negativity as early as 12 months old; some earlier.

I hate saying this because I don't know you, but if you are so young and still finding yourself -- having kids was probably something you should have waited to do.

Stability is your goal now; for you and your child.

Hello and Welcome,
Looks like you need quite a bit of healing first.Your child should be your first concern.Your needs now are second.As for dating, try just having new friends(for talking), then size, looks and color are all the same.

I do hope when your little girl grows up, someone treats your her better than your clear lack of respect for women.

no matter what i say or ppl say there will always be someone out there doesnt like what you said. im not trying to offend ppl with my opinions but remember thats all they are n u have them to

Everyone has preferences and opinions, and I for one, am not offended by either.

I agree! Calleigh! BTW, you are such a tease with all the Manson pix. Are you trying to flirt with me?

BrownJ has a great attitude. Mellow ... fellow ....

I love Manson's pics, they're all amazing. Of course I'm trying to flirt with you.....

Well, you know he is my undying obsession. I have all of his music, videao, books, some of the reprints of his paintings and anything else I can get my hands on ...

Forget flowers and candy -- woo me with Manson!

That's cool. I basically love his look, he's very creative. I love creativity.

i get offended so often I've resorted to drugs. at least that's what i tell my self, welcome mate lol.

Hello and good luck