So, I've messaged roughly 30 girls on two dating sites. (This being one of them.) I did have one of them who I thought would be the last one to message me, actually replied to my message! She is on here, and she loves to dance!

I think I scare people from writing too much. Like, I will relate to their profile, but ends up being a paragraph. So as a forewarning to you guys out there, keep it simple! Lol

Anyway, after the 2nd reply, I'm sure my long reply threw her off. Let's just say I'm right, do you think they could ever change their mind about me?

Also this is generally speaking. I'm not hung up on this matter, lol.

you can always change her mind

just send a bunch of lovey emails and start calling her around midnight

leave stuffed animals and roses on her porch at night

and tell her "I'm watching you"

it never fails

you would need to say something pretty interesting that would grab her attention and make her want to reply. Funny sometimes works

nah girls like guys that can talk about something other than themselves and really hold a good conversation. just count how many references you put in about your self if its one paragraph and 3 sentences yeah you may have ****ed it up

Dude it's funny you wrote this because I have been wondering the same thing. What do you say and how do you say it? As far as you blowing your chance, man it's hard to say. At least you got a resonse. I have kept all of mine short and simple and haven't gotten reply one yet and I can't understand it. Ok women, how do we do this right? What is it that catches your eye on sites like this and what pushes you away? Or...is it all b.s. and women really get on here just to be on here?

Man this is a good topic and I hope that a few gals can get on here and shed some light on this topic.

What??? Sorry, lost you after the first sentence...I'll say...yes to the question...I think...

I appreciate when a man writes something more than "Hi", "How are you", "I think you're hot". I appreciate when a man has READ my profile and writes making reference to something I wrote. I can appreciate paragraph writings from men. When I get a long, intelligent email from a man, I sometimes need to pause and think about what they've said in order to get my thoughts together and write back. This can take 5 minutes to two days depending on what was said and what kind of time I have to chew on what was said. So, don't give up the thought she'll write back. She may just want to give you the proper attention in the form of a response. If she doesn't write back in a day or so, email her again to ask if she got that last email, that you really look forward to hearing from her. Then if no response, get the hint.

But, if it was an "all about me" or they just like to see themselves type benign diatribe, not good.

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A paragraph!
A novel!


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its a done deal no reply means no interest

Please have more to say than you have a great smile/body/rack. If you read something in my profile that we have in common or interest you, talk about it. I for one hate the...you have a great body, wanna chat...emails. I will politely respond to almost any email but those.

Depends. If she had a big butt, she's through with you. If she's got two kids and a Ferrari, you go into a monastery NOW.

So, that's why you never returned my mail!!

It doesn't matter how long or short your email is. It depends what it says. It's that simple. If you are rambling about nonsense and telling me show nice and good looking and everyne says how funny your are, then no. Try humor next time.

I don't know what you mean, "let's just say I'm right"...about what? Were you having a disagreement by the second email? Well why should she speak to you if you insist on being right about whatever it is. Anyway, at 22, try not to be so stubborn...girls are always right...keep saying that over and over and over...and it will benefit you in the long term.


First thing I look at is the height. I'm tall so it matters to me. If the guy is short, it won't make a difference what his profile says or what his pics look like. So if he is tall enough, I look at his relationship status. Separated to me is married, so I click next. I could write the rest of my application process but that would be selfish of me.

Also, the question has been asked tons of times before.

This is very common, don't sweat it, but also don't rely on these types of sites to get a date, they are a long shot at best!

Are you telling me the 'Miracle of Mutual Match' is a fraud???

At this time I am unable to comment on this, however improvements are being made daily.

Just write like your talking, your personality will shine through... and thats how i decide.

Yeah, K.I.S.S. especialy in the begining. IDK, I don't do do overs, second chances, etc. I just give it one shot, and move one.

Totally agree!When someone writes me a letter,and not a copy and paste one.I usually write back, with information on myself.To find out if there is still an intrests.I'll wait 3/4 days.., If I don't hear a reply...deleted...Unless I get a quick note,they will get back to me, because their busy etc.Then they get another week.