I am who I am, an accurate representation and I've lost friends because of who I am. I'm not an infactuation, I'm not the cause of your obsession. I don't change and don't plan on wavering who I am in light of who you might be.

I lost a friend because of that, and I don't want to lose anymore. So please, don't expect me to change...

No change expected from me....

You like Chuck Norris....so you better not change.

WWCND.

If your friend expected you to change, he/she wasn't really your friend to begin with.

I would not expect anyone to change for one person, A person is who they are and if they are happy with who they are then that is who they are.

I've lost "friends" because of who I am too. We like you exactly the way you are.

Not really, they just thought I wasn't who I was. I'm really no different in real life than I am here. They were a good friend at one time, things change...people don't.

Just be who u are,never change for anyone.

Those who ask you to change aren't normally worth changing for.

I like you just the way you are Fear.

Don't know the situation enough to comment.

No real situation honestly. Just putting it out there that I am pretty much the same in real life, don't want any confusion on that. I think people just think that I am not really this morbid in real life, but I really am.

I don't know how to not be me!

You had damn well better change!!!!! Cause when your shirt starts to smell like your underwear, don't expect me to hang out with you, you nasty sob.

Change can be a good thing!

Hehehehehe

My answer is ... suck on this!

What was the question again?

Was there a question?

thanks for sharing

Well there could be a number of different things influencing why people think others can and will change...

There could be the hope/assumption if someone cares for other enough that they will 'come around'... if it's in terms of being more than friends.

People do change over time, but not everything changes. If someone is set in a particular personality trait or way of being then change will only occur if the person wants it to... not by the influence of another person.

Some times people only hear or see what they want to see... so when what they want doesn't occur or the other person doesn't change that's when the other person is hurt.

Other times it is miscommunication and assumptions might play into this also!

I don't know... I guess it's just learning how to live life and interact with other.

I always say, "I am me...and if you don't like it, step the freak off!".

But most everybody wuvs me anyways.

real friends dont expect you to change

if you can keep one or even two of those real friends through life you've made an accomplishment

I have two friends that I've know since I was 13 (I'm 50 now) and they wont put up with any of my bullshiit but if I need em I can call from any where in America and they'll come. They'll be mad but they'll come so I better REALLY need em if I call

EDIT: i just remembered a conversation with my one friend, Ray, about thirty years ago

I said "are you gonna fukc with me the rest of my life?"

and he said "yup. but I can tell you one thing. No one else will if I'm around"

Ah...my dear...people do in fact, change. Subtle or drastic. Slowly more often than not. There is a difference tho of wanting to change and life changes. We adapt, listen, learn, grow. A good friend at one time, now not affects you..you think, wonder, say things changed...but things change people. Like your friend. You say things now you wouldn't have said 5 years ago and won't in 10-20-30 years. You become wiser (hopefully) and make decisions that affect your life. A person learns not much is in your control except your life and then you adjust and wait to see what comes. The thing is NOT to be changed by life...not to be hardened or bitter, to maintain your heart and sense of humor, to keep your individuality without being caustic. Someone may say to you when you do this...it affects people like... You'll decide then wheather that behavior needs to be modified or not. The big thing in life- you will discover- is finding your 'true self' and that may take alot, or a little changing.