You just had to go there.. Didn't ya

Somebody had to!

You just got to remember that no matter how decent, honest and straight forward you are, there will always be an illogical and irrational woman that will see you as a big enough bastard to beable to love you.

Well mate, I admire guys like you. You are the real deal and not some player like many guys are. You look at a '69 Dodge pick-up and see a thing of beauty instead of a piece of junk. You could fix up any house in the lower 9th ward in New Orleans, and make it look good again. You could restore an old boat to it's former glory after buying it on Craigslist for $200. Women need to gravitate towards these type of men, and stop wasting their time on bad boys.

Dan, ur such a bastard, but i love you!

Personally, im weary of any guy who promotes his own sincerity.

If he doesn't, who will? Who knows him better than he does?

That's probably not the kind of woman you're looking for. Perspective modification is in order.

A guy who promotes the fact hes down to earth, usually, isnt,imo.

Most of the sincere men i know dont brag about it at all,they just r.

As the rest have stated just be yourself.
Sad to say most are tring to find a perfect mold,and and really not willing to blend with anyone, just want want want.
Woman that have ethics,common sence,traditional values,morals,live with in their means, do put themselfs available,as well as some men.
Seems what we attract is not even close.Usually with in a 30 min. or less conversation you get the just of what someones looking for.And if you try and end conversation, then the lying starts..as oh you took it wrong , I didn't mean it that way etc....Just stick with your standards.

I get so confused these days, I sat in on an interview and when the potential employee left the room my boss turned to me and the other two members of the panel and said "She did not promote herself very well, she is qulified to the higest level but I expected her to tell me more about herself and her qualifications. Her qualifications read very well on paper and she has documented proof, but I still needed to hear her promote herself............. When I was younger that was known as bragging, how times change!

I understand it from that viewpoint.....selling yourself in a job interview is diff from selling yourself to the opposite sex.........in fact,i dont see the need to sell yourself at all, as the fun is in finding out for yourself.

Pink_lady if I try to sell myself I will end up owing people, according to the trades description act. How's life with Dan, is he being a good boy?

Haha! Nope.....he has been really really bad!


....but i like it ;)

Seems like nothing will ever change him ( which is good) a changed Dan? No way !!! We love the old codger just the way he is.

yep, you sound boring to me!... go do something fun, get out of the house!!!

$.02

Telling the truth is good. It's how you say it than can be a major turn off. There's nothing wrong with softening a statement and usually people are more likely to actually hear and accept something that is stated without harshness. It's not dishonest. It's just good communication.

Strange, Most people (not just guys) online.. pump out so much BS that they don't even know who they really are any more.
Honestly.. how many have you seen here that run off into a dream relationship with someone they met online (and in the RW) just to find out it was all a front, and soon fell apart!?
Being honest avoids most of this.

A lot of what is in most profiles is BS.. sorry.. I don't have a bs divining rod

But you are right, people want to believe the BS fantasy, and burned so often that we don't believe the honest ones.
Like the song * You give love a bad name* sort of situation.

No kidding!!
And my story does not change for different people or different situations.
I don't feed practiced lines,
If women can't face reality and take me for what I am, and honestly take the time to get to really know me, It's their loss.

I'm just not looking for a fling.

There is a huge difference between bragging or standing ones ground.

I do, I go fishin.. fun, keeps me out of trouble and provides a meal in the end!

Well, in my experience, it's actually worse than that.

From what I've seen, 99% of the women want a guy who is docile, easily led, easily domesticated, and who has no thought processes, creativity, or self-concept whatsoever.

In other words, they want a farm animal. Probably a goat, although I suppose there are several other animals who would suffice for this purpose.

If/when I do run across a woman who actually claims she wants a guy with some intelligence, creativity, and talent, she's either 90, deranged, or otherwise ineligible. Or being completely dishonest about what it is she really wants.

I mean, I've written three books, I'm in reasonably good shape, I've been told I'm "easy on the eyes" by a few here, and yet I've generated zero interest in three years. Why is that? I have to assume it's because women don't want a thinker, they want a drinker. Which I will never be....