This regards to literally messages. The ones that start the first meet-up, or date.

I have messaged many girls. Not much luck, lol. I will get there someday, it just takes time. I understand people have standards, and I don't blame them for that. :) The point of this is to see what kind of things you would like to see in a message you receive.

For example, when I message girls, I do take the time to read their profile. I tell them my name, what I work for and tell them I attend college. I don't say obnoxious things that are shallow or vulgar. I may crack a small joke or two. When I message someone, I relate to something that they have in their profile, such as a hobby, relationship views or the way they view life. Of course, if its someone who has totally different interest or views, I don't message them. The message topic isn't just "Hi" or "Hey there.."

So for you ladies out there, what would an ideal message be from someone on Mingle2?

Hmm. I think the way I message people is fine along with my profile...though, I could be wrong. Any advice? =)

EDIT: Sorry. I did post it here as well as another site. That thread was quickly deleted, though.

Also, I could try a test message on someone, if they are willing to help me out. :)

Well, I can't speak for anybody else, but I don't WANT any messages from PoF! Now, from THIS site, that's a different story!

My bad. I fixed it. =)

Stalk them...they like it

Psssssst...this is mingle...not POF.

You do see the same people in both places though. LOL

OP, If the person isn't attracted to you, it doesn't matter what you write.

cuss them out

Just funnin' with ya, Mike....!

But I can't answer your question because I never had any luck sending out first e-mails. Never mind that I've written three books and coined the term "domesticatrix" and won the spelling bee back in sixth grade. Nobody cares about that stuff.

All I can tell you is that after I hung out here long enough, they started writing to me. But it took awhile.

Hence why I initially stated "people have standards, and I don't blame them for that..." lol. I think I am an ok looking guy. But man, like roughly 40 girls that deny me because of my looks is hard to believe. Yet, it could be true. :(

My advice is to give up and start talking to women in real life. It is so much easier to get a date in real life.

Stop trying...show yourself on the forums as a funny, happy guy and they will come to you...trust me

see you have two types of women on the internet

1.sluts

2.picky sluts

3.wanna be sluts


any questions

Attracting a girl is as easy today is like fly fishing in the bathtub for rainbow trout. You are blaming your fly or your technique for not cacthing anything.

It sounds as though you are in the right spirit of your messages but if the girl isn't attracted to you -- it won't matter.

Conversely, I've been turned off immediately by supposed 'hot' guys that can't communicate via their emails. I know we’ve all whispered, “What a shame” when someone is dumb as a box of hair or has the manners of a caveman.

All of the elements have to come together for a match: attraction, intelligence, humor, and the ever elusive online chemistry.

Guys, just post your resume in your profile...haha...you might not catch a girlfriend but you might land a good job if the right person looks at it.

Yeah, I have one Mr. RKisit!

Is the gender equal to your statement the same for men?

1. Playas
2. Picky Playas
3. Wanna-be Playas

That's about right!

This is a true statement!

I wouldn't necessarily stop looking online but don't rely on dating sites as the only way to meet girls.

Well, then their is number 4......Goofball. Haha! I am my own league of man.

maybewell in a way what i posted and you posted it goes for all genders really all six of them combined would equal a big slutty playa

or big picky slutty playa or a big wanna be slutty player