A guy I know -- someone I've known for a very long time -- has taken it upon himself to introduce me to some new women.

While I would normally encourage this sort of thing, it's really pointless in this instance because:

a.) He has absolutely no clue what kind of person I'd be interested in, and does not really listen well enough to get the idea when I try to explain it to him, and

b.) It's clear he has absolutely no contacts who would fall into the category of "Someone I Might Be Interested In."

So, he has been introducing me to women who are generally slightly worse candidates than a statue of former Cubs first baseman Leon Durham.

After an introduction, he will wait a day or two and then ask, "So what did you think of Stacie?"*

And I will tell him, "She's really not my type."

And he says, "She could be your next girlfriend," after which he immediately introduces me to some other non-starter.

Well-meaning is appreciated, but well-meaning and well-connected would be a lot better....!



* Name changed because I like to use footnotes.

Yes, you would think there's some type of pre-screening or better judgement involved. I had a friend that always found "strays." Truely ugly women with all kinds of physical and/or emotional problems. I was like, "Dude! You know me better than that." I guess some guys care more about the proverbial notch on the belt rather than finding someone they can actually get along with and is pleasing to look at. He may have been well-intentioned but sometimes that's not good enough.

Well forget you too.

Signed,
Stacie

I always preferred meeting people through friends. Partly because it involves less work for me, and partly because I tend to make some really horrible decisions when left to my own devices, particularly when it comes to on-line.

I mean, the first girl I met in person from a dating site turned out to be an arsonist. I don't think most people who knew me (with the possible exception of my former in-laws) would set me up with someone like that.

I used to have a friend named Annette* who truly understood my preferences, what I was looking for, etc. Probably half of all the relationships I've been in were because of her. Now it's true that I tended to get into relationships that only lasted a short time, but at least there were some options back then.

Annette would never have gotten me mixed up with an arsonist or a phony bank teller or a newspaper columnist who wanted me to write her column for her for no money and no credit.

I guess people with the right connections are hard to find!

*Real name, so sue me.

OH Lex, I have had people do this to me for years and years.

When the subject now comes up I look at them and ask quite calmly

What does out friendship mean to you?

They usually go on to say I like you ect..

I then tell them very calmly "you won't if you try to set me up agian."

They will josh and laugh it away. I have then stated you don't understand

If I show up which I doubt I am going to show up with Fish guts all over me, no shower for at least 2 days. And find a was of chaw I can spit,. I will make every rude noise and gesture I can possibly think of and I know plenty I raised 2 boys.

that usually stops them from ever setting me up again.
Since I do mean it.

I really think this is best for both of us....

Hmmmm. Did I just hear some creepy violin music?

OK, but there may be an infinitesimal chance that he might actually stumble across somebody good one of these days!

Of course I'll be 97 by then, and probably won't care much, but still....

Even at 97, you'll still be a great catch.

You'll just be easier to catch then

i have someone i know who likes to play matchmaker and he is rather "bad at it"

Especially since I won't even know I've been caught!

Ahhh, THAT'S living....!

Oh Lex, you'll know and love it

A bad case of 'belling the cat'................

Yeah, most of the people I've known who wanted to do it were really bad at it.

But there have been a couple of them who actually were good at it.

Where are they now?

You should just date a goat, think of the good times that could be had out in the pasture grazing on the nearest green patch.

Wow...no friends...no one you've

I've had friends try to set me up as well.

It's scary to think of their idea of my ideal match.

I hope so....! But that's a ways down the road....

Isn't it....?

just think of it as your friends are true friends and have the best intentions and really would like seeing you happy ,but could working on the opposites attract theory ,being as your way seemed to be working so well. . they are just taking a different approach to the matter