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aww...girly... your going to go fight for the country that they live in...umm...i am thinkin mom and dad need to back off. I understand they will be mad. However just as much as there is behavior that they would not tolorate from you towards them...you have to put your foot down as far as their behavior towards you now. your a grown adult that can make that decision. they should be adults about it and respect it. I know....I kept the fact of me smoking from my father unitl i was 29 years old. ( started when i was 20) As an adult now, you have to stand your ground to live your life the way you see fit. Your not being disrespectful to them....you are setting your boundaries for your own self and becomming your own woman. Time for mom and dad to let go of the strings. Thank you too! I'm getting a headache and my face is burning. Blah! My roommate is not here to talk to me either. I've been texting her like crazy. |
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 this is a guy you like right?
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you are not screwed- parents are parents- perhaps if you sit your parents down and explain to them the living conditions- that this is platonic- you are splitting the expenses- you aren't sleeping together- introduce him to them- it might make it easier also- remind your parents that you are 26- they have done their job- they have raised you and raised you well- remind them you are an adult and you can make adult decisions- sometimes they need that lol it might be hard and they will resist- but in the end it is your life not theirs. You are the one who has to be happy and independent. I had to do the sort of the same thing- but i was 30 and pregnant- it took me actually losing my temper and telling them that I was sorry that I disappointed them and that our relationship was over and they never had to worry about me shaming them again for them to realize they were being well-- stupid- give it a try you never know- but you should be able to do your own thing- you are a grown up- and you are still Daddys littl girl- you can do it!! Your advice is well put. I like this too. Thank you. They are going to insist on meeting him. They are going to want to know everything. |
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Actually, never mind, I don't even have a response to this thread. Carry on, people. 
It's okay. Your advice is always welcomed. 
Ah, well, in that case. My original post was if you're comfortable letting your parents run your life, even though you're 26 years old and a legal adult, then all means do it. Or something like that, my short-term memory is chit. I don't let anyone tell me what to do, someone tried to tell me who I should be friends with the other day and not only did that not affect my choices, but it made me totally lose respect for them as a person. We tell children what to do, we might even tell the elderly what to do, if they suffer from dementia or whatever, and can't care for themselves, we also tell mentally challenged people what to do, because they can't reason for their own safety. However, if you're over 18 and of sound mind and body, you have a right to live your own life. Especially since you're in your own place. I understand them saying you can't move the man into their house (obviously) but the other is extreme. And I maintain that men and women can be non-sexual, as long as no one is a depraved pervert with no standards whatsoever, and in that case you shouldn't even be associating with this person, let alone living with them. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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 This guy probably just trying to get some
 I dont trust him
Trust me. He won't get any. He knows me. I told him where I stood a long time ago. 
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aww...girly... your going to go fight for the country that they live in...umm...i am thinkin mom and dad need to back off. I understand they will be mad. However just as much as there is behavior that they would not tolorate from you towards them...you have to put your foot down as far as their behavior towards you now. your a grown adult that can make that decision. they should be adults about it and respect it. I know....I kept the fact of me smoking from my father unitl i was 29 years old. ( started when i was 20) As an adult now, you have to stand your ground to live your life the way you see fit. Your not being disrespectful to them....you are setting your boundaries for your own self and becomming your own woman. Time for mom and dad to let go of the strings. Thank you too! I'm getting a headache and my face is burning. Blah! My roommate is not here to talk to me either. I've been texting her like crazy. aww....hey just calm down....breathe in.....breathe out!..lol It's going to be ok. I have learned that sometimes when you worry about something so badly that it consumes you like this...once you confront the issue...it usually ends up not being as bad as you thought it out in your own head.... think about it like this. your not going to die....so...thats one thing you don't have to worry about...Your parents are still going to love you even if you move in with the guy. They may be upset...and you may care about them being upset at you...but you can't let them influence you like this. Its not fair to you. Don't you think that perhaps them being this upset and trying to control you at 26 years is kind of an evil manipulation on their part? not exactly fair...not logical either. Don't let them keep doing this. Uless there is a legitimate reason for them being so upset...like they know he is a killer....drug dealer...rapist...something of that nature...they need to back off. |
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So being that I'm 26 and all, I should be able to decide who I can move in with. My roommate (a girl) is getting ready to leave this month. I was going to move back in with my parents temporarily until I get into the military. But a friend, guy friend, needed a roommate. He needed help with bills and such. So I agreed to move in with him. Now, I didn't tell my parents I was moving in with a guy. I just said a friend. So today, my mom asked if I was moving in with a girl. I really hate lying to my parents...so I said "no". I already knew what was going to happen. Now all hell's broken loose. My mom is going to tell my dad. Once my dad finds out, he not only will be mad and disappointed, he will likely tell me to come home. Sorry all for this long rant. But I'm really screwed!!!
Perhaps you should come back home. Its probably not a good idea to move in with a dude
I understand. But there's more that goes to this story as to why I'm moving in with the guy. *sigh* Maybe it would be alright if it was your BF, or the guy was gay, but I understand how your parents feel and I would not want my daughter moving in with a guy (unless he was her BF for a while)
BF would be a definite "no". Even I know better. He's a friend who is struggling financially and needs help. I felt we could help each other out. |
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interesting
Very! But I should be biting my teeth. My dad works in Columbia too. I wouldn't be surprised if he paid a visit to my house. He knows where I live...I think. 
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this is a guy you like right?
I do like him. I dated him a few times this year. But we are just friends. And it's not like I'm going to live with him for a long time. It's only until I get into the military. But I trust him and he trusts me. |
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This guy probably just trying to get some
I dont trust him
I'd like to think all guys don't want to bang every woman they see, you're not like that, are you? 
no I certainly do not want to bang every woman I see
Okay then, of course it stands to reason there are more men like you in the world. 
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Actually, never mind, I don't even have a response to this thread. Carry on, people.
It's okay. Your advice is always welcomed.
Ah, well, in that case. My original post was if you're comfortable letting your parents run your life, even though you're 26 years old and a legal adult, then all means do it. Or something like that, my short-term memory is chit. I don't let anyone tell me what to do, someone tried to tell me who I should be friends with the other day and not only did that not affect my choices, but it made me totally lose respect for them as a person. We tell children what to do, we might even tell the elderly what to do, if they suffer from dementia or whatever, and can't care for themselves, we also tell mentally challenged people what to do, because they can't reason for their own safety. However, if you're over 18 and of sound mind and body, you have a right to live your own life. Especially since you're in your own place. I understand them saying you can't move the man into their house (obviously) but the other is extreme. And I maintain that men and women can be non-sexual, as long as no one is a depraved pervert with no standards whatsoever, and in that case you shouldn't even be associating with this person, let alone living with them. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Thanks girl! Your advice is great! |
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aww...girly... your going to go fight for the country that they live in...umm...i am thinkin mom and dad need to back off. I understand they will be mad. However just as much as there is behavior that they would not tolorate from you towards them...you have to put your foot down as far as their behavior towards you now. your a grown adult that can make that decision. they should be adults about it and respect it. I know....I kept the fact of me smoking from my father unitl i was 29 years old. ( started when i was 20) As an adult now, you have to stand your ground to live your life the way you see fit. Your not being disrespectful to them....you are setting your boundaries for your own self and becomming your own woman. Time for mom and dad to let go of the strings. Thank you too! I'm getting a headache and my face is burning. Blah! My roommate is not here to talk to me either. I've been texting her like crazy. aww....hey just calm down....breathe in.....breathe out!..lol It's going to be ok. I have learned that sometimes when you worry about something so badly that it consumes you like this...once you confront the issue...it usually ends up not being as bad as you thought it out in your own head.... think about it like this. your not going to die....so...thats one thing you don't have to worry about...Your parents are still going to love you even if you move in with the guy. They may be upset...and you may care about them being upset at you...but you can't let them influence you like this. Its not fair to you. Don't you think that perhaps them being this upset and trying to control you at 26 years is kind of an evil manipulation on their part? not exactly fair...not logical either. Don't let them keep doing this. Uless there is a legitimate reason for them being so upset...like they know he is a killer....drug dealer...rapist...something of that nature...they need to back off. True. I think they are upset because they don't know him. Never met him, never talked to him, nothing. And my poor sister. I dragged her into this. My mom got mad at her for not saying anything. I just told my sister today! Poor thing. |
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How long is it gonna be before this guy is saying "Oops, sorry, I didnt know you was in the shower" ?
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So being that I'm 26 and all, I should be able to decide who I can move in with. My roommate (a girl) is getting ready to leave this month. I was going to move back in with my parents temporarily until I get into the military. But a friend, guy friend, needed a roommate. He needed help with bills and such. So I agreed to move in with him. Now, I didn't tell my parents I was moving in with a guy. I just said a friend. So today, my mom asked if I was moving in with a girl. I really hate lying to my parents...so I said "no". I already knew what was going to happen. Now all hell's broken loose. My mom is going to tell my dad. Once my dad finds out, he not only will be mad and disappointed, he will likely tell me to come home. Sorry all for this long rant. But I'm really screwed!!!
honesty has got ME into trouble too, but its still the best policy. |
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How long is it gonna be before this guy is saying "Oops, sorry, I didnt know you was in the shower" ?
Humm did you not just say you were not a guy like that. It does amaze me for I have had guy friends live in the same house with me and that is all we were friends and nothing else. At no time did they make a move at all they knew it was a friends type situation and that is all. Believe me there are still guys out there that can keep their pants zipped up and respect a woman's wishes. As far as your parents I can understand the way they are feeling to a degree but they must learn to trust your judgment as well. Just explain to them the real situation I would actually understand it if my kids actually took the time to explain it too me and would rather have them tell me flat out then hide it from me. I think you should do what you want to but don't go at them too hard I'm sure they were thinking your last month or so would be spent with them before you have to leave. |
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How long is it gonna be before this guy is saying "Oops, sorry, I didnt know you was in the shower" ?
Humm did you not just say you were not a guy like that. It does amaze me for I have had guy friends live in the same house with me and that is all we were friends and nothing else. At no time did they make a move at all they knew it was a friends type situation and that is all. Believe me there are still guys out there that can keep their pants zipped up and respect a woman's wishes. As far as your parents I can understand the way they are feeling to a degree but they must learn to trust your judgment as well. Just explain to them the real situation I would actually understand it if my kids actually took the time to explain it too me and would rather have them tell me flat out then hide it from me. I think you should do what you want to but don't go at them too hard I'm sure they were thinking your last month or so would be spent with them before you have to leave. Im taking the perspective of a father.
 I trust myself, but I dont trust other guys.
Especially with my daughter (if I had one)
So I sort of understand how Chickas parents feel about it
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So being that I'm 26 and all, I should be able to decide who I can move in with. My roommate (a girl) is getting ready to leave this month. I was going to move back in with my parents temporarily until I get into the military. But a friend, guy friend, needed a roommate. He needed help with bills and such. So I agreed to move in with him. Now, I didn't tell my parents I was moving in with a guy. I just said a friend. So today, my mom asked if I was moving in with a girl. I really hate lying to my parents...so I said "no". I already knew what was going to happen. Now all hell's broken loose. My mom is going to tell my dad. Once my dad finds out, he not only will be mad and disappointed, he will likely tell me to come home. Sorry all for this long rant. But I'm really screwed!!!
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You should do what you think is best for you!! You are an adult!! Just tell mom and dad you are doing what is right for you, and your friend!!
 They cannot "stop" you!! Good luck to you in all you do!!
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Im not gonna have some woman move in with me unless we are a couple because I know what will happen
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