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How come I hear tell that people get abusive responses and such, who is doing this men or women? Of course, you always have the stuck up people who are better than you or I, but I also think that some people over react, like when you are at a club and ask a woman to dance and she says no thank you and you scream Lesbo at her? What gives with this, we all have our own insecurities and bashing people does not help. PS- of course I have never had an abusive response given to me, I wonder why? Will some one abuse me please? |
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HI 
I used to reply to all emails -- if I wasn’t interested -- but after all of the abusive replies back to me, I decided it wasn’t worth saying a polite ‘thanks but no thanks’. 
It’s funny how defensive people get when they are rejected. I receive these polite, glowing emails; then, I reply ‘no thank you’ and all of a sudden I’m an ugly b**tch who is not good enough for them. Hmm, I was good enough before I said “no”. 
I have gotten PLENTY of 'no thank you' emails but it never crossed my mind to send them back a nasty reply. I just wish them well and I move on. Anyway, life is happier if I don’t reply because I can’t tell who is going to fly off the handle. I didn’t come here to get assaulted by email. The gracious thing is to reply; however, a few bad apples spoil the process. 
Mel I sooooooooo know where you're coming from... 
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HI
I used to reply to all emails -- if I wasn’t interested -- but after all of the abusive replies back to me, I decided it wasn’t worth saying a polite ‘thanks but no thanks’.
It’s funny how defensive people get when they are rejected. I receive these polite, glowing emails; then, I reply ‘no thank you’ and all of a sudden I’m an ugly b**tch who is not good enough for them. Hmm, I was good enough before I said “no”.
I have gotten PLENTY of 'no thank you' emails but it never crossed my mind to send them back a nasty reply. I just wish them well and I move on. Anyway, life is happier if I don’t reply because I can’t tell who is going to fly off the handle. I didn’t come here to get assaulted by email. The gracious thing is to reply; however, a few bad apples spoil the process.
Mel I sooooooooo know where you're coming from...
Hi Joy!
It's really sad that it happens. I know male members are not the only ones who do this to female members. Some of my guy friends have told me horror stories of female members who just go psycho on them! It's a people issue and not a gender issue. Unstable people scare me! Hold me!  
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i wouldn't worry too much about it. people are on here for many different reasons and yes they could just be busy or miss it or in my case my damn computer just sucks
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((((Mel))) tighter? Yes I agree it is defintely not a gender issue.. It does make one hesitant to respond when you know you might get hate mail...
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Goof will not email you unless he deems you worthy. If you do not respond, you will be dealt with accordingly.  
Goof...how are you, my friend? Susan and I are in Florida this week...though heading to Atlanta for the Florida-'Bama game on Saturday...then back for a week. What say we get together in Daytona that week? Then we'll head to Overland Park, KS for until New Year's. And just so I'm not off topic...I reply to friends-only emails...women and men...people who seem to have their heads on straight! |
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How come I hear tell that people get abusive responses and such, who is doing this men or women? Of course, you always have the stuck up people who are better than you or I, but I also think that some people over react, like when you are at a club and ask a woman to dance and she says no thank you and you scream Lesbo at her? What gives with this, we all have our own insecurities and bashing people does not help. PS- of course I have never had an abusive response given to me, I wonder why? Will some one abuse me please? Now this is an interesting area of exploration esp. in terms of communication. (well to me anyway) For example, Neil Strauss (8 years voted top pick-up artist) developed many routines that work but he is also a gifted writer and there is debate whether his routines worked because of this and his clear passion and skill at language? His work has become know as the indirect method, however many people are trying to master a more direct or natural method, and let their passions and energies come thru in there communications. Opinion? |
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NEXT!!!!!!!!!!!! My Dad taught me the 4 F's...I believe "feel" was in there 
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Edited by
poohbearface19
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Sun 11/29/09 04:52 PM
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Well I'll be honest i posted a post on another dating site.... and i got tons of responses but with two emails i knew how they were going oto be until one day i got a email and it was him my now current great and bestest boyfriend he is soo great....i met him thru a well him responding oto my ad... on a site.. the second i saw his picture it was like wow too me and he said same of me too him... ever since then we are unseperatable... i got off most dating sites only on forums too chat normal like this now.. he didnt ask me too do it but going so great i just couldnt care less of anyone else but him and only him.. soo see not always bad..
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Well I'll be honest i posted a post on another dating site.... and i got tons of responses but with two emails i knew how they were going oto be until one day i got a email and it was him my now current great and bestest boyfriend he is soo great....i met him thru a well him responding oto my ad... on a site.. the second i saw his picture it was like wow too me and he said same of me too him... ever since then we are unseperatable... i got off most dating sites only on forums too chat normal like this now.. he didnt ask me too do it but going so great i just couldnt care less of anyone else but him and only him.. soo see not always bad.. |
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Why is it that when you write a lady a message with honest intention she does not even respond?? From eveything I can see on my end it appears that they read the message and then decide to do nothing. Is it that they want you to persue them?? Or is it that they are so scared cause they are not sure who is on the other end?? And of course yes there are some that are nice enough to answer back...but very few...I am interested to hear other guys experiences with this site and others and well as a womens point of view...Have fun with this one all... 
don't give a damn about who writes them ever,,,,they might not even read your email for aweek or two,,,or never,,, But lets face-it,,,,,whats the FIRST thing YOU DO,,,if you get an email from a lady? You read it,,,,right,,,,then,,,other you respond then look at her pic and age,,,,or you do THAT before you respond to it... SO DO THEY! So,,,,your pic's can make a big difference to many here as they think hurried and shallow,,,like most of the guys do here,,,lol,lol,l0l But there are MANY reasons,,,,,,  Good luck...
Ahhh bingo! really thats true, we all do the same thing.I don't reply to all, and it's not based on pic, more on content of their profile. |
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95% will not respond
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Its because there are a million of you guys out there with the same line (or maybe sincere) but its nothing new and fresh....Ya have to come up with something clever to stand out....DONT ASK FOR MORE PICS OR CAM right away,be funny, and clever!
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I have gotten PLENTY of 'no thank you' emails but it never crossed my mind to send them back a nasty reply. I just wish them well and I move on.  
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women suck be gay :)
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Sometimes I'm too busy to get back at them that moment, most of the time I don't want to open any lines of possible future communication with someone I have absolutely no interest in...did that, then I was "married" or something or another...dunno, just started deleting the emails...
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women suck be gay :) Women doing that is one of the reasons I'm NOT gay....lmao |
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women suck be gay :) Women doing that is one of the reasons I'm NOT gay....lmao 
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If i write and they respond ... cool
If they don't ... still cool
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women suck be gay :) Women doing that is one of the reasons I'm NOT gay....lmao
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