I awoke this morning from another one of those stupid dreams where I'm in love with someone.

I'm not sure what purpose this has, if any. I despise it but at the same time I kinda feel thankful that at least I can have that "in love" feeling, albeit a very short lived one. I've been alone forever (okay, years isn't really forever but close enough) and wonder if subconsciously this fulfills the need we all have to love and be loved. Since I can't accomplish it in real life, perhaps I attain it in my dreams as a coping mechanism.

So the question is...Consciously I believe I'm perfectly fine being alone forever and just don't see love in my future. I see these rogue dreams as my brain's acceptable alternative to the real thing. Have I completely lost my mind? Or do you think my subconscious is trying to tell me to get off my arse and find a man?

Oh yeah...I should mention...these dreams are not erotic in nature (most of the time )...and it's not with a particular person...just some guy I'm with but I know we're in love. It's really all very strange.

That is no biggie darlin.

I dream I can fly. Does that mean I should be trying to figure out how to literally fly? Probably not. Sure, it would be cool....but, it is simply a harmless dream. Doesn't hurt nothing to just enjoy it.

I wouldn't really call it enjoyable. It is at the time when I'm dreaming, but the whole waking up and remembering it part sucks! But I see what you're saying. Can't exactly control my dreams.

papersmile and I didnt meet until we were in our 40's

does that mean that all the time before was wasted? I don't think so. I kinda believe that we had to grow and develop and learn in order to be worthy of each other

if we had met before, we wouldn't have been ready for each other

so if it seems to be taking a long time to find your perfect guy just think that maybe you are still busy getting ready for him

and him for you

I can relate I often have dreams like this and find I am sadden by the thought I am alone..but I will not settle for anything less then it all so I guess I made my bed and I dream in it alone...

You know....when you ladies start dreaming of cheap, meaningless one night stands completely devoid of emotion in a seedy motel....I can make that dream a reality.

Love the way that was put, Quietman_2009! Kudos Kudos

Bonita :)

I don't need to dream about that...I could make THAT a reality very easily as well. Just go out to the bar and ask some guy to go have cheap sex. Easy as apple pie... though not as wholesome.

I choose to be alone for now, for the exact reasons Quietman so eloquently stated. I'm not where I wanna be in life and therefore don't want to drag anybody along for the bumpy ride. When I get where I wanna go, maybe I'll become capable of love. Not now tho, so I dream about it, I suppose.

It's all good. Just nice to know I'm not alone in having these goofy kind of dreams. Don't wanna be losing my marbles, it's about all I got going for me at this point!

dreaming you're in love with someone is a subconscious reminder that you want that in your life. Your conscious might say I'm fine with being alone, but your subconscious says otherwise.
Have you seen "The Secret?" some people believe that the more you connect with the feeling of having something the more likely you are to obtain it. The idea is that you imagine it in your life and then it will be put there, Law of attraction, type of theory.

This is something that your soul misses, wink, lets say,
your internal subconscious feelings. They miss love, yet, consciously YOU
have accepted it you THINK,wink..

Sure, you can tell your mind to not think about-it,,,yet it, or YOURS, still wants to wonder in that area....
so you dream..about that fulfillment.

A hearts desire to feel, and what you tell it not to feel,,,will still, live in the subsconsious areas of your mind.

Which is better than monster's and murderers crawling around up-there,wink

No sure fixes for this,,,but to find warmth in someone to share a caring
compassion with while awake, might help you... wink,
yet in dreaming, they may become your dream of love,
so be careful its real, in the awake parts,wink.

And complete tired or drained at bed times might help ya to.
If not,,,have a drink before going to sleep........lol

I haven't had a drink/used in over 28 yrs, but once in a while I dream that I am. Very, very weird.

But is is just a dream, that's all.

Once i awoke and was convinced i had plenty of money saved in a bank account so convinced was i that i rushed to get dressed then i realised dont you just hate them type of dam dreams!! Anna x

I never had sex with a llama in the back of a limo but once I had this dream...


oh nevermind

i dreamed; that someone would nudge me, sometime.

Dreams are a window to the mind but often not in clear context. If you see something you like then it seems positive or just the reverse. What we must do is look upon ourself and try to know our innerself.