Point taken. A little bottom kissing under the right circumstances does't really hurt anything, does it?

Getting back on topic, I don't feel a woman is really happy being with a man that "loves her more than she loves him."

My Gran always said accept all the gifts a guy gives you and in return keep the carrot dangling and when he bores of you move onto the next sucker!
I did tell her but gran i am gay to which she replied why the hell do young people these days complicate a simple rule in life? Oh well Anna you have traded in a lifetime of gifts for mood swings PMT and do i look nice in this? just remember to always say YES! Anna x

How on earth could a person measure or compare just how much they are loved vs. how much love they are giving? I have seen, though, relationships whereby the person doing the so-called less loving is the one that likes to be the controller. They tend to give just enough for the other person to stay hooked in a relationship that is really about dysfuction. Why do the "more love giving" people stay? Desperation maybe? Better to be with someone that gives very little than to be alone?

thanks Krupa!

they stay because they think they will never be able to attract someone else. So yeah, low self esteem.

In her generation she may have had the formula for success.

Dealing with men now in this day and age is a bit different.

She is absolutely right in keeping yourself in check just a bit with men... I will tell no more....but she is wise there.


You know, attracting men is easy, keeping them is easy, wanting to keep them for a long time is the hard part...lol J/K

Sounds like she knew wot she woz talkin about. Lol. I never date a guy who doesn't respect me for my mind. Also/i'd rather b curvy and happy than thin and single.

Sounds like she knew wot she woz talkin about. Lol. I never date a guy who doesn't respect me for my mind. Also/i'd rather b curvy and happy than thin and single. The men who only care about ur figure r not worth gettin 2 know as i know how cocky they can b.

Regrettably, no woman in my life, not my grandmother, mother, sister, aunts, female friends, has ever offered me any useful advice about women. It's all been from men. My father always said, "Never let a woman into your heart that has baggage from previous relationships." I wish now, I had taken his advice. And the advice I have learned and passed to my male friends is to watch out for the leash and collar that she will put around your neck, when she does, you will lose yourself and cease being the man you were, it's all about her.

Only if YOU allow it to happen.

My grandma always told me....."Men are like buses....one comes by every 15 min"
I just wish she would have told me I would need a yearly pass

my grandma said men are a dimea dozen...wait til you find one you'd give 2 cents for

I just got home and read through these responses...interesting.
Honestly, I don't know what she was like before she was with my Grandfather, her final husband who died when I was young...but she never remarried after him and she was a miserable old bitty..she hoarded her money , she was rude, b!tchy, judgmental, mean and self righteous. So with all her money, all her advise that she gave...I don't recall her ever being a sweet ole grandma..so maybe her formula for happiness was not so great after all.
Or, as my mother thought..she really did love my grandpa and his death destroyed her...

Hmmm... has her back yard been searched for the bodies of all the other women she bumped off that were between her and the three rich guys?
Juuuuuuuust checking.

She was actually quite a catch in her day..Spanish and Italian, beautiful, wealthy family, smart business woman...she was ahead of her time.