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Topic: Whats your thoughts?
tohyup Joined Wed 08/12/09 Posts: 1488	Sat 11/21/09 06:54 AM
I think most women WANT a long term relationship. However, at this time in our lives, we are no longer willing to settle for a man that does not fulfill our basic needs-which are as individual as the woman herself. We no longer need men who will support us financially or help us raise our children. We are looking for passion and partnership. I do not have a list of what the "perfect" man would be because I have lived long enough to know that sometimes the person you least expect to be the right guy can turn out to be "the one". You should say " I " instead of " WE " because people are different and have different dreams . No woman represents the wishes of all women and no man represents the wishes of all men .Of course there is no perfect man and no perfect woman and that is best discussed under another thread .

delilady Joined Fri 07/24/09 Posts: 23825	Sat 11/21/09 06:57 AM
I think most women WANT a long term relationship. However, at this time in our lives, we are no longer willing to settle for a man that does not fulfill our basic needs-which are as individual as the woman herself. We no longer need men who will support us financially or help us raise our children. We are looking for passion and partnership. I do not have a list of what the "perfect" man would be because I have lived long enough to know that sometimes the person you least expect to be the right guy can turn out to be "the one". You should say " I " instead of " WE " because people are different and have different dreams . No woman represents the wishes of all women and no man represents the wishes of all men .Of course there is no perfect man and no perfect woman and that is best discussed under another thread . Thank you for correcting me. I have no idea how I would survive without your help!

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 11/21/09 07:00 AM
I think most women WANT a long term relationship. However, at this time in our lives, we are no longer willing to settle for a man that does not fulfill our basic needs-which are as individual as the woman herself. We no longer need men who will support us financially or help us raise our children. We are looking for passion and partnership. I do not have a list of what the "perfect" man would be because I have lived long enough to know that sometimes the person you least expect to be the right guy can turn out to be "the one". You should say " I " instead of " WE " because people are different and have different dreams . No woman represents the wishes of all women and no man represents the wishes of all men .Of course there is no perfect man and no perfect woman and that is best discussed under another thread . Thank you for correcting me. I have no idea how I would survive without your help! You would have managed some way Jayne..you're fast on your feet!

delilady Joined Fri 07/24/09 Posts: 23825	Sat 11/21/09 07:03 AM
I think most women WANT a long term relationship. However, at this time in our lives, we are no longer willing to settle for a man that does not fulfill our basic needs-which are as individual as the woman herself. We no longer need men who will support us financially or help us raise our children. We are looking for passion and partnership. I do not have a list of what the "perfect" man would be because I have lived long enough to know that sometimes the person you least expect to be the right guy can turn out to be "the one". You should say " I " instead of " WE " because people are different and have different dreams . No woman represents the wishes of all women and no man represents the wishes of all men .Of course there is no perfect man and no perfect woman and that is best discussed under another thread . Thank you for correcting me. I have no idea how I would survive without your help! You would have managed some way Jayne..you're fast on your feet! Thanks Vivian! It's nice to know that someone thinks I have a brain!!!!

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sat 11/21/09 07:08 AM
Brains & looks, something ALL "Ladies" have.

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 11/21/09 07:10 AM
You're welcome Jayne I think Andy knows you have a brain.

tohyup Joined Wed 08/12/09 Posts: 1488	Sat 11/21/09 07:12 AM
You're welcome Jayne I think Andy knows you have a brain. Yes and sure she has . Have I been too tough here ?.

tohyup Joined Wed 08/12/09 Posts: 1488	Sat 11/21/09 07:12 AM Edited by tohyup on Sat 11/21/09 07:13 AM
Sorry double post.............. .

delilady Joined Fri 07/24/09 Posts: 23825	Sat 11/21/09 07:18 AM
You're welcome Jayne I think Andy knows you have a brain. Yes and sure she has . Have I been too tough here ?. No just joking with you! I do not get offended very easily. I am a Philly girl!

Karpenter Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 219	Sat 11/21/09 07:28 AM
Really very simple. Man wants to be affirmed through a sense of belonging to and loving and providing for a woman, Women want just the same thing. Always we look for the difficulties and separateness rather than the common unifying denominators. The mountains are always there allowing for us to explore them. If you decide not to walk in them you may never know how beautiful they are, and by the same token, you in them.

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 11/21/09 07:47 AM
Really very simple. Man wants to be affirmed through a sense of belonging to and loving and providing for a woman, Women want just the same thing. Always we look for the difficulties and separateness rather than the common unifying denominators. The mountains are always there allowing for us to explore them. If you decide not to walk in them you may never know how beautiful they are, and by the same token, you in them. Very well said. The mountains are beautiful....and can be very dangerous Life is an adventure to be shared. Finding that 'right' someone to share it with you....that's a bit harder, especially when like the forrest in the mountains, it keeps changing colors..but that too is beautiful, just something that is hard to hold on to.

Karpenter Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 219	Sat 11/21/09 07:56 AM
Really very simple. Man wants to be affirmed through a sense of belonging to and loving and providing for a woman, Women want just the same thing. Always we look for the difficulties and separateness rather than the common unifying denominators. The mountains are always there allowing for us to explore them. If you decide not to walk in them you may never know how beautiful they are, and by the same token, you in them. Very well said. The mountains are beautiful....and can be very dangerous Life is an adventure to be shared. Finding that 'right' someone to share it with you....that's a bit harder, especially when like the forrest in the mountains, it keeps changing colors..but that too is beautiful, just something that is hard to hold on to. Hello vivian. Yes the mountains can be a fearful place. There are bears to respect, there are rivers to be forded, cabins to be built and crops to be planted, flowers to turn into posies an in between all of the wonders there is the work. If one is going to dream, to be part of a dream one needs to do the doing part. I see so often the hiding faces that peer out from behind the rocks, and the caves, and the trees. Assessing the risks and the potentials then seeing the gray skies and deciding that the skies look to threatening to go and pick flowers today. So the door gets closed and the only thing to look forward to is loss.

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 11/21/09 08:05 AM
Really very simple. Man wants to be affirmed through a sense of belonging to and loving and providing for a woman, Women want just the same thing. Always we look for the difficulties and separateness rather than the common unifying denominators. The mountains are always there allowing for us to explore them. If you decide not to walk in them you may never know how beautiful they are, and by the same token, you in them. Very well said. The mountains are beautiful....and can be very dangerous Life is an adventure to be shared. Finding that 'right' someone to share it with you....that's a bit harder, especially when like the forrest in the mountains, it keeps changing colors..but that too is beautiful, just something that is hard to hold on to. Hello vivian. Yes the mountains can be a fearful place. There are bears to respect, there are rivers to be forded, cabins to be built and crops to be planted, flowers to turn into posies an in between all of the wonders there is the work. If one is going to dream, to be part of a dream one needs to do the doing part. I see so often the hiding faces that peer out from behind the rocks, and the caves, and the trees. Assessing the risks and the potentials then seeing the gray skies and deciding that the skies look to threatening to go and pick flowers today. So the door gets closed and the only thing to look forward to is loss. Hello Karpenter, Smiling here....you're an adventurer with the heart of a poet..and absolutely correct in what you say..we can miss out on so much by being too timid to go out into the storm and face it, in all it's glory! I have to smile, because my subject line on my profile is'dancing in the rain'...my problem is not ..not going into the storm...but finding that special person that is willing to dance with me in it!

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sat 11/21/09 08:06 AM
Take the risk. "Live like you are dying."

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sat 11/21/09 09:40 AM
If I could tell someone young, what to make SURE they never do, it would be to NOT DO ANYTHING,wink. Move,run,go,keep moving,,,,to ALL and EVERYTHING, you want or feel you need in this world....DANCE! Don't sit on the side and watch everyone else have fun.. Dreamers dream, and do'ers, Get-ur-done... Be it the right or the wrong, YOU acted on it to BE..No wonderings.

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 11/21/09 12:23 PM
If I could tell someone young, what to make SURE they never do, it would be to NOT DO ANYTHING,wink. Move,run,go,keep moving,,,,to ALL and EVERYTHING, you want or feel you need in this world....DANCE! Don't sit on the side and watch everyone else have fun.. Dreamers dream, and do'ers, Get-ur-done... Be it the right or the wrong, YOU acted on it to BE..No wonderings.

CathyLyn Joined Sat 11/07/09 Posts: 172	Sun 11/22/09 07:32 AM Edited by CathyLyn on Sun 11/22/09 07:34 AM
What do you think about a dating couple deciding to move in together? Does it help the relationship towards marriage? Or does it hender?

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 11/22/09 07:45 AM
At this age, I would live with someone special, marriage is OUT. To many financial & logistical things to due a true legal thing. Besides, if you need a piece of paper to make it work; will it??

jrbogie Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 2490	Wed 11/25/09 07:20 AM
there are plenty of women out there who have nothing etched as to what they must have just as there are plenty of men such as myself. i call these people "openminded". i've been fortunate to have visited fifty two countries on six continents and all fifty states. i know that i've but scratched the surface when it comes to meeting the variaties of ethnicities, beliefs, traditions, langauges, etc., that makes up half the six billion people on the planet. there is much i've not experienced regarding women so to etch my needs in stone would be absurd. my list of what i don't want is quite small. still working on my list of wants. can't seem to get that task done.

Linny1 Joined Sat 10/10/09 Posts: 1381	Sun 12/06/09 05:46 PM
I just want to be accepted for what I am and have someone respect and accept that. I dont ever want another marriage but do hope to find someone to be my "best friend" and, then, if it is to be - more than that.. I want someone who makes me feel special.. I have not had that..