100% FREE ONLINE DATING
sponsored links
Previous
| Topic: Whats your thoughts? | |
|---|---|
|
|
 Personally, I feel that MANY women my age, have every detail of their man etched in their jounals, and anyone NOT that, should apply else-where,wink.. It seems that all they have been through, MANY would rather live alone, as to live with what they can find wrong with another? So,,,in thought, I would say many, want to feel a relationship,,,but NOT a Long-one.... Just some of my experiences to have lived,,as to why I think this.. Whats your real thoughts? 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
My thoughts are that most women have had there fill of men that treated them like crap and dont want to go through it again JMO
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Personally, I feel that MANY women my age, have every detail of their man etched in their jounals, and anyone NOT that, should apply else-where,wink.. It seems that all they have been through, MANY would rather live alone, as to live with what they can find wrong with another? So,,,in thought, I would say many, want to feel a relationship,,,but NOT a Long-one.... Just some of my experiences to have lived,,as to why I think this.. Whats your real thoughts? Men, on the other hand, do not have these etchings also? I think that perhaps you are feeling what women go through most of their lives..the perfect woman. Neither exists. At this age, I think women are enjoying their lives more, are not rushing into taking care of yet another person after all the hard work of years they've completed. We're alot wiser in the tech world, more savy, know we can survive without living with another, if we can afford it. What I have found is the men in our and older age group want someone to take care of them first...they miss the handmaiden thing that has faded away. I'm taking care of me, for the first time in my life- not in a selfish way- not the way someone thinks I want or 'should' want, even after communication. The new 'cougar' thing is more than women wanting a younger man for fun, it's that the younger guys were bought up by mothers in the 60's and 70's...equal rights inso much as a woman is equal- chores, money, play, a fellow human as real as their mate and treated as such.. JMHO. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
nope..I don't think so. We all have some preference ..we all want the attraction. The top of my list is a spiritual edge...with that I really believe the rest will work itself out..
I have had the gorgeous, I have had the money, I have had the bling gifts, I have had the night life...I wasn't happy because I didn't have that spiritual edge and heart of gold..compassion.. kindness..open mindedness... I have gotten much pickier over the years, that is because now I know what I want. And yes..I would stay alone than be with the wrong one. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I'll agree with that, would choose my spiritual life over a relationship- am enjoying and growing in that. If choosing to live with another they would have to be on that wavelength first and foremost and not the conventional way. So being very connected in that is a extremely important factor that had been missed, and the most important. Thanks for pointing that out.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Men need a woman that won't read the paper when having sex--one with a car---money in the bank---a house of there own--- Hunting dogs---and a good fishing boat!!! That is not to much to ask. now that is a good relationship---
 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Personally, I feel that MANY women my age, have every detail of their man etched in their journals, and anyone NOT that, should apply else-where,wink.. It seems that all they have been through, MANY would rather live alone, as to live with what they can find wrong with another? So,,,in thought, I would say many, want to feel a relationship,,,but NOT a Long-one.... Just some of my experiences to have lived,,as to why I think this.. Whats your real thoughts? Men, on the other hand, do not have these etchings also? I think that perhaps you are feeling what women go through most of their lives..the perfect woman. Neither exists. At this age, I think women are enjoying their lives more, are not rushing into taking care of yet another person after all the hard work of years they've completed. We're lot wiser in the tech world, more Savoy, know we can survive without living with another, if we can afford it. What I have found is the men in our and older age group want someone to take care of them first...they miss the handmaiden thing that has faded away. I'm taking care of me, for the first time in my life- not in a selfish way- not the way someone thinks I want or 'should' want, even after communication. The new 'cougar' thing is more than women wanting a younger man for fun, it's that the younger guys were bought up by mothers in the W's and 70's...equal rights INS much as a woman is equal- chores, money, play, a fellow human as real as their mate and treated as such.. JMHO. and NOW there are MANY who SHOW that importance OVER caring enough about another to put even one of them aside,wink,,THATS what I'm saying.. Me,,,My job is plentiful anywhere I go,wink..my material things matter not,,my heart and my care,,go into HER... But,,,this is just my thinking wrong I guess. The free spirited ones, in the above you mentioned,,I have not met,wink,,lol Maybe THATS it,,,,lol 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I think most women WANT a long term relationship. However, at this time in our lives, we are no longer willing to settle for a man that does not fulfill our basic needs-which are as individual as the woman herself. We no longer need men who will support us financially or help us raise our children. We are looking for passion and partnership.
I do not have a list of what the "perfect" man would be because I have lived long enough to know that sometimes the person you least expect to be the right guy can turn out to be "the one". |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Personally...I think it's all about chemistry. You either have it or you don't. If you do, the rest pretty much falls into place. And then, of course, there's compromise...how much you can or are willing to do so. Too much "baggage" on either end can be a tough lift. At this age, I guess, it might be difficult to find someone who can take care of you better than you can take care of yourself...and I'm not just talking materialistically...wants and needs, etc. If you've been alone...man or woman...for any length of time, you've become somewhat independent...it's a given. That can be a hard nut to crack too. Lots of variables...men/Mars women/Venus thing. Jeez, after reading this over, it's a wonder ANYONE gets together!! LOL..........
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I am a woman who knows exactly
What kind of man I want It's been etched in stone And it was easy to find when ya go after what you want and not be wishy washy about it!
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I think we all have details etched in our journals of what we want in a mate. There are things I will never accept in a relationship and if someone doesn't meet those standards there's nothing wrong for both of us to apply elsewhere. A mature adult SHOULD "live alone as to live with what they can find wrong with another". You shouldn't live with anyone if you are finding things wrong with them. You shouldn't be DATEING them let alone live with them. There should be plenty of time taken before living with anyone. Most "want to feel a relationship" on many levels and when its not right it isn't meant to be a "long one". No one should be expected to put anything aside or compromise their standards for the sake of a relationship.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I am a woman who knows exactly What kind of man I want It's been etched in stone And it was easy to find when ya go after what you want and not be wishy washy about it! That little,,,,,wishy-----washie------lol IS WHAT I MEET!!!!!! Thank you...... OH,,,,I LOVE YOU!!!!!!! ON,,,,I HATE YOU!!!!!!! YOU MEAN EVERYTHING TO ME!!!!!!! YOU MEAN NOTHING TO ME!!!!!! =wishy-washie,,,,,,,,,lol,lol I want a man that I can grow old with..... I am not ready to settle down yet..... lol,lol NOTE TO SELF,,,,,,Stay away from Wishy-Washie women,,,,,,,lol |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I am a woman who knows exactly What kind of man I want It's been etched in stone And it was easy to find when ya go after what you want and not be wishy washy about it! That little,,,,,wishy-----washie------lol IS WHAT I MEET!!!!!! Thank you...... OH,,,,I LOVE YOU!!!!!!! ON,,,,I HATE YOU!!!!!!! YOU MEAN EVERYTHING TO ME!!!!!!! YOU MEAN NOTHING TO ME!!!!!! =wishy-washie,,,,,,,,,lol,lol I want a man that I can grow old with..... I am not ready to settle down yet..... lol,lol NOTE TO SELF,,,,,,Stay away from Wishy-Washie women,,,,,,,lol Wishy washy?? Sounds psycho to me!!! Separated for only 5 months after 29 years with the same person, I know I am not ready to enter into any serious relationship. I am just rediscovering the person I once was. I am very honest with the people I talk to and would never consider misleading anyone. I don't think anyone should enter a relationship until they are clear on who they are themselves. When the time comes for me to be in a relationship it will be because I know I can do it with no doubts and an open heart. Until then, friends are just fine! |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
When I was younger, I felt that I had to have a man in my life...maybe that was why I married so many times..
besides being implusive. I like men. I have more men friends than I do women friends. I no longer feel the NEED to have a man in my life..I WANT a man in my life, therein lies the difference for me anyway. I do not need for a man to take care of me, nor do I need to take care of a man. I do want to be with a man, but only if the chemistry is there and we agree that this is what we both want, be it short term or long term. I do have an idea of a man in my head, but it's the wrong idea, because it's of a man that I've always been drawn to...and I'm not sure if I can do that again, but I can't seem to wrap my thoughts around something different....so until I can do that...I'll live alone, no matter how badly I WANT someone in my life. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
When I was younger, I felt that I had to have a man in my life...maybe that was why I married so many times.. besides being implusive. I like men. I have more men friends than I do women friends. I no longer feel the NEED to have a man in my life..I WANT a man in my life, therein lies the difference for me anyway. I do not need for a man to take care of me, nor do I need to take care of a man. I do want to be with a man, but only if the chemistry is there and we agree that this is what we both want, be it short term or long term. I do have an idea of a man in my head, but it's the wrong idea, because it's of a man that I've always been drawn to...and I'm not sure if I can do that again, but I can't seem to wrap my thoughts around something different....so until I can do that...I'll live alone, no matter how badly I WANT someone in my life. Very good advice. I was thinking the other night about exactly what you wrote; being drawn time and again to the wrong person. Maybe, living at this age, we are discovering who we are, what we want or don't. My original post to this was a reaction to some recent interactions and it seems like ones who may be good for me...I have no interest in. Thanks Vivian |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Men need a woman that won't read the paper when having sex--one with a car---money in the bank---a house of there own--- Hunting dogs---and a good fishing boat!!! That is not to much to ask. now that is a good relationship--- 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Woman or man, we all want basically the same. Treat as you want to be treated. Be open, take a chance on the pain. ALWAYS think about what yo say & do, let it ALWAYS be the total truth, even if it may push the other person away. The truth will always become evident & when it does, then it will push them away.
Life is full of risks; "Live like YOU are Dying". YOU ARE. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
My thoughts are that most women have had there fill of men that treated them like crap and dont want to go through it again JMO Bingo ! |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
When I was younger, I felt that I had to have a man in my life...maybe that was why I married so many times.. besides being implusive. I like men. I have more men friends than I do women friends. I no longer feel the NEED to have a man in my life..I WANT a man in my life, therein lies the difference for me anyway. I do not need for a man to take care of me, nor do I need to take care of a man. I do want to be with a man, but only if the chemistry is there and we agree that this is what we both want, be it short term or long term. I do have an idea of a man in my head, but it's the wrong idea, because it's of a man that I've always been drawn to...and I'm not sure if I can do that again, but I can't seem to wrap my thoughts around something different....so until I can do that...I'll live alone, no matter how badly I WANT someone in my life. Very good advice. I was thinking the other night about exactly what you wrote; being drawn time and again to the wrong person. Maybe, living at this age, we are discovering who we are, what we want or don't. My original post to this was a reaction to some recent interactions and it seems like ones who may be good for me...I have no interest in. Thanks Vivian To me, it's the old 'Catch 22' we repeat our mistakes. Maybe it started when we were very young. I know I was effected by my older sister's boyfriend., He was so handsome! Cowboy type; boots,jeans, whie shirt, leather vest. stetson.and he smoked..the smell of smoke and leather. I cannot tell you his physical appearence other than tall and slim, but to this day I remember the smell of him! I have found him again through the years, many times...but there is always something lacking...in him or in myself...but I still look for him. Is that crazy or what?? |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I am a woman who knows exactly What kind of man I want It's been etched in stone And it was easy to find when ya go after what you want and not be wishy washy about it! That little,,,,,wishy-----washie------lol IS WHAT I MEET!!!!!! Thank you...... OH,,,,I LOVE YOU!!!!!!! ON,,,,I HATE YOU!!!!!!! YOU MEAN EVERYTHING TO ME!!!!!!! YOU MEAN NOTHING TO ME!!!!!! =wishy-washie,,,,,,,,,lol,lol I want a man that I can grow old with..... I am not ready to settle down yet..... lol,lol NOTE TO SELF,,,,,,Stay away from Wishy-Washie women,,,,,,,lol BTW Terry, ...great pic But I prefer the 'Bad Boy' one! 
|
|
|
|
|
