My one child has done some pretty horrible things but the furthest I would go is say, "I hate what you are saying or doing...."

Call me crazy but nobody should ever be told they are better off dead....

WOW! There is no excuse to ever tell your child such a thing!!!
I would cut off all contact with them.
J.M.O

TheQueen1....I just read your poem...
this is one way for you to get your feelings out..the good,bad,lovely..ugly.....does not have to be posted..just a way for you to get it out of you.
teasingbrunette

She is not a child she is a young woman .
What did she do to make her parents so mad and so fragile ?.
Always blaming the parents is a Carte Blanche for abuses of drugs, alcohol, prostitution, delinquent.....etc .
If she makes her parents life hell and she should go to hell herself .

prove them wrong

Ok,as far as her being a young woman.She will always be thair child & they will always be her parents.Can't change that.My son has put me through hell & then some.But never would I tell him such a thing.And his was do to drinking,drugs,pluss a bad anger problem.I stood by him 100%.No matter what he did.He always new I loved him.And now today we are as close as we ever were.
And she did not say as why her parents told her that.And I stand by there is NO exscuse to tell your child that!!!!And NO.She should not go to Hell.

Call human services and ask 4 protection.

You sound jurt as crazy as they are

sex drugs and rocknroll

always an open mind tohyup lol, hats off.

Human what ?.
You have to be 18 to be on this site .
As an adult she should take care of herself and stop criticizing her parents . If your son or daughter is more than 18 and bad, kick them out so they will experience how difficult is this world .
I do not like children who disobey their parents and have a real issues . Do not always blame the parents who get fed up with their kids. I saw people who have no respect to their parents and to society and keep going from one trouble to another .
She should protect herself from herself .

When you get out on your own there is a point when you have to own what you do. If You don't live under your parents roof anymore you can't blame them for your choices. Anyone can make something out of themself if they really want to; at least in the USA there are so many opportunities for those who want to learn there is really very little excuse.

At some point in that process what your parents think of you or say to you should start looseing importance.

How do even know that was the case here????

No parent should ever use that route with a child....

How do even know that was the case here????

No parent should ever use that route with a child....

And how do you know it is not like that ?.
Do you think your parents want you dead for nothing ?.
Yes parents have the right to tell their children get the hell out of our lives . This lady is 18 or older and she must take responsibility for her actions . How come she is not answering these posts ?. If my neighbour is making my life hell and I hear he died in a car accident do you think I am going to mourn his death ?!!!.

I thought I had issues......

To each his own....

She never states whether it was her parents that said that to her- or maybe it was someone she knows- who is not an adult.

There is no reason for a parent to ever say that to anyone much less their children.

Blood doesn't necessarilly mean family.
Life doesn't come with a book of instructions. Children become what `18 years of parenting (or non parenting the last 25 years of no one raising their children except strangers) has taught them, more or less.
Comments like that are more a reflectfion of how they feel about themselves. Blame the child, blame the parents. I see things on here all the time and wonder who raised these people?
Telling someone 'you're 18 now' grow up- what if they never got any decent tools to learn how to do it? 18 is still childhood (emotionally-mentally- for alot of people). Problem is these ays is no one wants to take responsibilty.
What was the context of the conversation? It may be a q bwcause the woman was asking for another..
Myma told me when I was younger...that when she found out she was pregnant with me she didn't want me but was so glad that out of all her children I stuck around to take care of her in the end. It hurt like crap for years.
Somethings need not to be said. Today...I would confront her about what she said and how that hurt...yet I know sometimes a little remark, not meant unkindly, can do things to people.
I've thought it before... with all the things the govt is doing...I think that the day will come that they will do testing to see if some people should have children and if they can't... you catch my drift. Sounds hard/cruel- but...is it really?
Some people get f**ked for life from what their parents do/say to them...unable to even function in society.

The OP said " parents ".
She is 19 and a student . She did not give any further info and she never answered what the folks here are saying .
Blame the parents is an easy solution but telling a 19 years old lady to grow up and straighten her life seems hard for some folks.

Maybe they said You'd be better off: read, fed, glad, bred, or maybe led.

Of course the context must have given her (the op) a clue too.

I am witholding comment until I hear from her parents to tell me their side of the story.

Right, some girls are so hard hit by their parents that they run to "new friends" who will force them to live off the avails of prostitution.

I am not saying that this applies to the op. My sympathies, but still, a bit more unbiassed presenting of her case would be beneficial to making a proper judgement.

Unless it's not judgement she's asking for, but sympathy. Some can and some can't offer sympathy to a person who could also be passed judgement on.