Since breakin up with Chris, 4 month ago, i keep behavin as if it didn't affect me, but i won't deny it actually hurts like hell. Feels like i've lost a limb. lol. Known him for 10 year, so no wonder it's hurtin. Feels overwhelmin. H8 2 feel like this. How long til it goes, or will it last forever? Shud i write an apology in a xmas card to him? It's been 4 month, and my heart won't let him go. :sad

I'm so sorry you are hurting. What would you aplogize for?

Takes time....learn from it, grow from it and the feelings will eventually just let go of you..jmo

your feelings are normal and natural. There are no good or bad emotions, it's the actions you take that can be good or bad. You are grieving right now. Give it time to heal, but don't let your life stop either. There is nothing wrong with caring for someone but you guys broke up for a reason.

everything IS fine

your life doesn't depend on another person. YOU have to live your life

@ Lilith. I shud apologize 4 blamin him. thanx gurl.

@ LadyLid. Ur probably rite. Maybe i'll jmo, hard 2 4get, but oh well. Thanx.

@ yellowrose. Yeah at least now i know i'm havin NORMAL feelins. lol. The monthly woman thing (periods) doesn't help. haha.

yeah...that could add to it lol. But you are grieving right now. Take time to grieve but don't stay in it.

The world won't stop turning

@ Quietman. I'm fine? I don't feel it tho. lol. It's the thawt of him datin another woman that bothers me. He'll 4get me anyway tho.

We all mistakes... and we all pretty much go through what you are going through sometime in our life...often more than once. If you feel you did something to apologize for...fine...don't hesitate. Really not enough information here for anyone to advise you other than generalities. There's always two sides to any issue...and the sides aren't always equal! But, communication is key in any relationship. If you want this one to continue...and he does...take a shot at it. If not, you'll move on...admit the hurt...get out of denial as you seem to be doing so you can take the next healthy step. Lot of fish in the sea. Either way, good luck.

@ yellowrose. I shud b booked into a mental ward, everytime i get them. lol. Our hormones r our own worst enemies at times.

@ Gator. I get ur point. I blamed him 4 one of my friends fallin out with me. By the time i realized, i thawt it wud b too late 2 say sorry. We were re-united last december by my mum, after not speakin 2 each other for 4 years.

I've never really got this, I've I don't know whether or not you were the one that broke it off or not, but if you were you had your reasons and if you just want to 'keep' him around so he doesn't date someone else than you don't care enough about his own happiness. But if he broke up with you...it doesn't really work that way.

@ Isaac. I truly loved him, still do. I thawt he woz the 1 for me. We went 2 the same school, had so much in common, made each other laugh a lot. I broke it off.

Also i don't feel like gettin out of bed. Just wanna sleep. At least i can 4get wen asleep.

that is stopping your life IMO. As hard as it may seem right now...it will get better. You can't hibernate as much as you might want to. Reframe your thinking

If you broke it off, you no longer wanted to be with him, it seems you are now changing your mind because of the thought of him with someone else is upsetting you, if it is not the only reason you are wanting him back, or if it is too late, than you need to see if you care enough about him to let him be happy. Or if you truly love him, and you think their might be a chance at a rekindling so to speak then you need to evaluate why you broke it off, and see if those same issues still exist...if they do it wont work, if they don't you might as well give it another shot. But be true to yourself and see what it is that is bothering you the most, is it the fact that you love him and are not with him? or is it the fact that you don't like the though of him being with someone else?

@ yellowrose. I think it's cos i had suicidal thawts last time we broke up. So i'm expectin that 2 happen again, but hopefully it won't.

If you can't re-frame your thinking then maybe you need more help. Professional help. Talk to someone that can help