Topic: took a serious leap of LEAP OF FAITH last weekend
saborwolfeclayton's photo
Tue 11/03/09 10:23 AM
and right now i swear i must have hit the billion to one jackpot

it was saturday evening over in lima ohio on halloweeen night it happened
i was at the halloween party happening at the somewhere in time gay bar club

for me life had got to the point that ij ust got completel yfed up with living my life asa shy timid typeof guy and got to thinking it was way past time i maned up grew myself a spine got over this . .. this fear of rejection and took a risk for once

sometimes a guy just has to take a risk to really live their life for the moment as they say

as it turns out the guy i struck up a conversation with coming out of the restroom was single

he was looking for a honest friend to talk to

as for why he was there that night he was looking t get totally plastered and just hoped to forget the bad relationships he had over time till i met him there at the barthat night

turns out the guys name is eric and he has 5 bad relationships in a row in which the other guy either wanted him only for his body or for his money for that matter

the guy has astrained family relationship with his mother when it comes to the fact that she cannot accept him for being gay so for the time being hes living with his drinking buddy /friend eiling or as the guy prefers people call him tanker or tank for short.

anyways tanker was there with him to watch the guys back just i ncase things got out of hand at the bar that night

as me and eric kept talking we somehow just managed to click as friends/turned friends with so called benefits

as the rest of the eving played out at the bar till closing time

me and eric jsut spent the time talking, dancing and grinding on each outher out on the dance floor, or if we werent doing that we just kept kissing and feeling eachother up atthe time

i can hoenstly say that i have never been a believer i nhuman chemstriy but right now i swear i beleive

we hung out at the bar till closing time and from there stayed at his place for the night
we juts could not keep our hands off each other

right now im jsut looking for some honest helpful advice o nthe matter since he is entirely serious about wanting to go from beijng friends to dating over time


PacificStar48's photo
Tue 11/03/09 10:53 AM
Take your time and just see how it goes. If he has had five failed relationships you want to make sure you are not number six. I would keep in mind his plan to get plastered and make sure that is not his primary coping skill. I would be hopeful; sounds like you both did a lot of communicateing and had a good time. There are several couples in our community that have been happily together for several decades.

yellowrose10's photo
Tue 11/03/09 10:54 AM

Take your time and just see how it goes. If he has had five failed relationships you want to make sure you are not number six. I would keep in mind his plan to get plastered and make sure that is not his primary coping skill. I would be hopeful; sounds like you both did a lot of communicateing and had a good time. There are several couples in our community that have been happily together for several decades.


well said drinker

I hope it all works out for you though flowerforyou

saborwolfeclayton's photo
Tue 11/03/09 12:49 PM
right now i am just grateful to know the guy as a friend and since hes willing to get to know me over time as a dating partner well to put it bluntly

i am outright ecstatic and on cloud 9 right now

i swear you could literally knock me over with a feather right now


saborwolfeclayton's photo
Tue 11/03/09 02:17 PM
question people

what is it about a first time experience like that that jsut makes a guys brain go all to mush

i swear when it comes to saturday night when i got over to erics place for the first 5 minutes or so i just could not get my mout to work right at all andmy brain went all to mush when we started kissing and stuff

i swear my brain jsut completely fried itself at the time

part of me wanted to stop at the time and jsut go so far as kissing tongue french kissing and necking and the other part of me figure i would totally kill the moment and ruin the mood all together if i tried to reason it out in m yhead at the time

my brain would not work for **** at the time and my heart said go for it so i just closed my eyes and went entriely on instinct at the time

as the ysay its always the quite ones

in my case though eric found himself taming one wild hellcat that night and i even managed to break in my virgin *** while we were at it and the guy stil lwants to date me in spite of the fact i went all the way with him that first time