they have been married for 10 years and have 4 children. I sure hope it lasts. It sure is kind of rocky as of right now tho. It's really sad to see.

I just think you should get some more intelligent friends.

my friends are great until they get drunk.

oh, massively good point

I had a family member in a situation like this, her hubby cheated on her and she claimed she forgave him, but she never let him forget it. She'd bring it up for no reason and treated him like chit. I felt sorry for him, and one day I told her she wasn't being fair to herself or to him. If she couldn't forgive him, she should have left him, not make him pay for it everyday. She never left him and eventually he passed away, and I'm sure she never really forgave him. Even now, years later, she's bitter about it.

It's sad when people think it's necessary to stay with someone "for the kids" or "because it's been so many years." If the relationship is over, it's just over, and when you get so you're willing to play childish games just to hurt someone because they hurt you, it's pretty much over and you need to accept it and move on.

Sounds like they deserve each other.

Two wrongs won't make a right.

Forgiveness may be a bit much to expect with out some sort of payback. Is it childish to be resentful. And use it for and excuse? Yes but that is kind of the pot calling the kettle black.

This relationship is in serious trouble. Not unexpected when you fratinize with Ex's and are going out and getting drunk in a bar with women passing shots from their breasts. That was asking for trouble. Sounds like they are both looking for and out. I will be surprised if this relationship makes it much past Christmas if that long.

i agree.she made out with her ex behind his back,he did this in front of her.i say he's not the one to blame

Anyone that would stoop so low as to pay a woman to let him do a shot off her chest, just to make another woman angry, well...that type of behavior simply won't do. No. No. No.

This sounds like something I would see on Maury Povich.

They sound like the perfect couple to me!!

Ooh, gosh Jill. Just because people have kids doesn't mean they should stay married. If they are in a dysfunctional relationship, the kids pick up on that dynamic. Some people can raise healthier kids when they are NOT married. He seems so immature and likes to play games. I shudder to think what the kids have picked on in terms of his behavior.

I wish them the best resolution -- for the kids.

I wish I could find someone who could explain to me how staying in a screwed up marriage is best for the kids. My parents divorced when I was 10 years old and it was the best thing my mother could have done. I hated their arguing and I hated the tension. I guess it makes the financial situation different, but most dads end up paying child support and most moms work outside the home, so I can't imagine what the problem is. I'd have rather been a poor kid than grow up in a house of hell- just to have my parents in the same house, makes no sense to me.

Seems kinda childish all way around. What's wrong with doing a shot frome a drink girl. I am sure she has done that as well.......

For a healthy couple, there is nothing wrong with body shots! whoo hoo!

Wanna?

IN the back of his mind is ...did she just kiss him or is that all shes telling me.... gratification.. Childish but hey we all have our hangups... Would it be worse if they were happy and he did that shot... uh ohhh...Body shot off of Melody...who could resist

I was there when it happened. It really was just a kiss.

Obviously he never really forgave her. He only told her he did to try to patch things up. When they drink, their true feelings come out. Oppertunities will keep getting worse until the relationship explodes. This mariage is at the beginning of the end and the ex boyfriend is pushing it forward. If he is succesfull he will only be around for a little while. If he truely loved her he wouldnt do this to her.

Ha Ha This is why I don't get drunk and don't want to be with someone that does.