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Topic: relationships
KRYSTIE08's photo
Sat 10/24/09 08:33 AM
im very happy! ive moved on from the past. im a single mom who loves every min of it and im not wanting to get into another relationship like my prevouse ones. by posting my questions I wanting advice as to how to keep from getting back into my previouse relationships!

unique1111's photo
Sat 10/24/09 09:19 AM
Sounds as if you have made progress. I agree that knowing yourself and what you want (and sticking to that) will help. If you have been in abusive relationships before, you should be able to recognize the signs. People treat you the way you allow them to!!! And as a mom, you have to keep your child first and foremost and make sure he/she does not grow up in an environment where abuse is tolerated...then they think it is "normal" and are prone to repeating that behavior.

dolphin14's photo
Sat 10/24/09 09:44 AM
trust me know that u know that u don't want the abuse u won't pick a person like that. U have to have confidence in yourself that u are worth way more then that. Keep that attitude and only good things will follow.

Spirograph's photo
Sat 10/24/09 11:22 AM

how can you completly change the type of people you date when most people wont give you the type of day? what does it take to find a person who is respectful and knows how to treat someone instead of going through the same abusive relatioship?



It takes time, patience, and determination. Don't let yourself get discouraged, you'll find your one.

OneMind's photo
Sat 10/24/09 05:40 PM

How can you completely change the type of people you date, when most people won't give you the time of day? What does it take to find a person who is respectful and knows how to treat someone, instead of going through the same abusive relationships over and over?


Change comes from within. Good luck!

Winx's photo
Sat 10/24/09 05:59 PM

i met these people some time ago and was friend with them before i ever thought of dating them. however the abuse didnt start until several months into the relationship.


That's their method of manipulation to pull you in - fake nice at the beginning.

Jtevans's photo
Sat 10/24/09 06:01 PM

how can you completly change the type of people you date when most people wont give you the type of day? what does it take to find a person who is respectful and knows how to treat someone instead of going through the same abusive relatioship?



3 words...


Click,Click,BOOM!

brenlee1965's photo
Sat 10/24/09 11:31 PM
Change yourself and you will change the type of people you attract.

Atlantis75's photo
Sat 10/24/09 11:33 PM

how can you completly change the type of people you date when most people wont give you the type of day? what does it take to find a person who is respectful and knows how to treat someone instead of going through the same abusive relatioship?




skill

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Tue 10/27/09 12:25 PM
Guys don't always start out abusive, trust me, I know. I was in an abusive relationship for 2 years, then I finally got out thanks to my brother. If you dont want back in to that type of relationship then you have to change yourself and your standerds.

bedlum1's photo
Tue 10/27/09 12:53 PM
OMG!! is it finally catchin on? self honesty,responsibility,and change? lookin at youself first!! its about damn.. time!!!! drinker drinks drinks :banana: :banana:

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