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I told mine. Guess we shall see. 
Thanks Kerry , good luck with yours |
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I told mine. Guess we shall see.
Thanks Kerry , good luck with yours
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I'm the one who said it would be embarrassing to admit such a thing to someone and then find out they didn't feel the same way. I stand by that statement. I wasn't aware that a person's ability to become embarrassed lessened or disappeared over time, once they became an adult, I'd be very interested to know how some of you reached this point. If there's a pill or something, yeah I want it. I've told men I had "crushes" on them in the past. I've told men I loved them in the past. Each time I was rejected it was embarrassing and it hurt. I don't like to be embarrassed and I really don't like to hurt. So if keeping my feelings bottled up inside prevents me from experiencing any of those emotions by my own fault (because duh, I know you can't prevent hurt or embarrassment all the time, but you don't have to be the cause of it) then by all means, I will keep my mouth shut, I will keep my feelings to myself, and I don't mind missing out on "the one" because I didn't take a chance. My pride/ego/whatever is more important than the possibility of "love/like." I admire those of you who are able to "put yourselves out there" perhaps it does make you a stronger person. I'm content not needing to define myself that way. Carry on with your disparaging comments about those who feel the same as I do. 
(((Calleigh))) what you say makes perfect sense and there's nothing wrong with it.. I don't put myself out there.. Ego is part of it, protection is part of it and well I've found there is always something that ends the crush or love at some point so rather than play the record over and over again, I choose to stand back and chill.. Being with someone does't complete me so I can wait and if someone right for me comes along it will happen or not and I'm cool with that too... 
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I'm the one who said it would be embarrassing to admit such a thing to someone and then find out they didn't feel the same way. I stand by that statement. I wasn't aware that a person's ability to become embarrassed lessened or disappeared over time, once they became an adult, I'd be very interested to know how some of you reached this point. If there's a pill or something, yeah I want it. I've told men I had "crushes" on them in the past. I've told men I loved them in the past. Each time I was rejected it was embarrassing and it hurt. I don't like to be embarrassed and I really don't like to hurt. So if keeping my feelings bottled up inside prevents me from experiencing any of those emotions by my own fault (because duh, I know you can't prevent hurt or embarrassment all the time, but you don't have to be the cause of it) then by all means, I will keep my mouth shut, I will keep my feelings to myself, and I don't mind missing out on "the one" because I didn't take a chance. My pride/ego/whatever is more important than the possibility of "love/like." I admire those of you who are able to "put yourselves out there" perhaps it does make you a stronger person. I'm content not needing to define myself that way. Carry on with your disparaging comments about those who feel the same as I do.
Calleigh..
It's not a bad thing..I'm just trying to understand it... The embarrassing part....no one would know that you put yourself out there like that. Unless the person you told, told everyone else..ego thing maybe for them. Over time I have just cared less and less what others have thought of or think of me.. Not disparaging..just some thoughts And I'm thinking most feel the same way you do because very few had any comment on the subject anyway. Majority wins..you are right! 
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I have a crush on................................  Patsfan
Me too!  
  
I feel the love  
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I love you Pats
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I love you Pats I know
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I love you Pats I know
Bite me
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i thought i had a crush once then i realized i just had a chubby...
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I'm just not in a good place in my life to make the move.
 My crush knows who she is, and it sux that I can't go to her. 
I don't get the secret crushes... I realize there are many on here not looking, married, in a relationship, that sort of thing. There are some of us who are actually seeking a partner, I don't think I'm the only one. So wouldn't you want to let one know there is a crush? Attempt getting to know someone and see if there is any connection... Is everyone just so scared or jaded to expose their crush and take a risk? |
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The name speaks for itself, if it is a secret crush if you say it out loud it's not a secret anymore.
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I've got a secret.....
Nobody knows....... But me..... Myself...... And I!!!!!
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I dont care to know anyone's secrets.
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Keep them to yourself.
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there seem to be a couple!
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I have one! Had it for several months now and keep talking myself out of it. Each time it comes back it is stronger. I decided to do something about it. Soon, very soon, it will no longer be secret. I should know something within the next few days. Wish me luck!
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