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i met this girl online, we exchanged emails for a week then went to on a date on a sunday which went pretty well, we kissed at the end. she said she wanted to see me again so we made plans for the following thursday. she cancelled on me saying she was busy with work things, i understood so we rescheduled things for sunday, she cancelled again. this time her father was in town on a surprise visit, again i didn't mind. throughout all this time we exchanged text messages on a daily basis, i told her that she was worth the wait to see her again, i meant it. i tried calling her twice during this week to ask her out, cause i feel like asking her out in a txt message is a little to impersonal, she didn't answer and left a message, she never returned my call. yesterday a friend convinced me to post a personal ad on a website, i did it. today i get a text message saying that she saw the ad and that she was mad because i lied to her, that i betrayed her trust. i feel a little confused by why she is mad. what would you do in my situation, apologize or not pay attention to her?
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she a player....she wasn't interested, and you gave her an excuse....
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i met this girl online, we exchanged emails for a week then went to on a date on a sunday which went pretty well, we kissed at the end. she said she wanted to see me again so we made plans for the following thursday. she cancelled on me saying she was busy with work things, i understood so we rescheduled things for sunday, she cancelled again. this time her father was in town on a surprise visit, again i didn't mind. throughout all this time we exchanged text messages on a daily basis, i told her that she was worth the wait to see her again, i meant it. i tried calling her twice during this week to ask her out, cause i feel like asking her out in a txt message is a little to impersonal, she didn't answer and left a message, she never returned my call. yesterday a friend convinced me to post a personal ad on a website, i did it. today i get a text message saying that she saw the ad and that she was mad because i lied to her, that i betrayed her trust. i feel a little confused by why she is mad. what would you do in my situation, apologize or not pay attention to her? Two wrongs are kind of like two lefts...they both take you backwards... |
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i met this girl online, we exchanged emails for a week then went to on a date on a sunday which went pretty well, we kissed at the end. she said she wanted to see me again so we made plans for the following thursday. she cancelled on me saying she was busy with work things, i understood so we rescheduled things for sunday, she cancelled again. this time her father was in town on a surprise visit, again i didn't mind. throughout all this time we exchanged text messages on a daily basis, i told her that she was worth the wait to see her again, i meant it. i tried calling her twice during this week to ask her out, cause i feel like asking her out in a txt message is a little to impersonal, she didn't answer and left a message, she never returned my call. yesterday a friend convinced me to post a personal ad on a website, i did it. today i get a text message saying that she saw the ad and that she was mad because i lied to her, that i betrayed her trust. i feel a little confused by why she is mad. what would you do in my situation, apologize or not pay attention to her? Hey she cancelled a few times with excuses, she hasn't answered your call. So you post an ad and she found it and got mad. Hey it was her fault so there is no reason for you to apologize to her, in fact she owes you the apology! And Move on and pay her no attention. She is just playing with your feelings and you do not need that. |
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ok.well id ignore her.im a girl and i know how girls are and the excuses girls make.it seems to me that 1)she was already seeing someone 2)she started talking to you but then found someone new and/or 3) she wasnt interested.so yeah ignore her.
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she a player....she wasn't interested, and you gave her an excuse.... exactly |
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She was obviously looking for someone else if she was going through personal ads. Drop that chick.
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Firts of all, you guys met on a dating site. Second, your on a datting site. third, your going to be on a dating site. It's not like you guys were going to get married and if she is mad that your on a dating site or opened a new add, knowing it's how you guys actually met. Open up another one and put on the add. Don't aply unless your the type that likes to control someones life when you first meet.
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Thu 10/15/09 07:15 PM
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You weren't in a relationship.
She is being inconsiderate of your time and feelings. RED FLAG She acted immature and jealous when she saw your online ad. RED FLAG that she is high maintenance and has a sense of entitlement. She has two RED FLAGS -- not a good thing. 
Neither of you owe the other any accountability since you only went on one date. Her actions are an indication of drama ahead. Be the bigger person and explain why you are no longer interested in her. If you ignore her too -- you are stooping to the immature level that she already displayed. I wish you well! 
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If she saw a posted message on another website or place,then that means she is cruising just as you were.There was no commitment just from a kiss between the both of you.Probably you both had different ideas about what that kiss meant.....and maybe you both saw things differently.Either way,she either had a valid excuses,or you had your own excuses as to what was too happen in a pre-conceived notion....
Doesnt matter tho,it was a fragile first meeting of 2 looking for someone else then what they had,she was wrong to "diss" you off and you werent exactly right to look for another while you supposedly thought you were dating....its either a misunderstanding or just 2 different people looking to play around.Its both your fault,dont worry and just move on with more understanding |
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And you are confused why?
You need advice why? It ain't rocket science. She ditched you.... then pulled the indignant card to justify her behaviour. |
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She was obviously looking for someone else if she was going through personal ads. Drop that chick. Excellent point. 
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what would you do in my situation,
- wouldn't put myself in that situation apologize -don't do that or not pay attention to her? -don't do this either -- let her chase you some roko |
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If she was really interested, nothing would have stopped her from meeting you. She was merely making excuses, and now showing fake emotions.
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Edited by
michiganman3
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Fri 10/16/09 12:48 PM
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NEXT
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Her loss move on plenty more fish in the sea just watch for the odd shark who gets a kick from playing with your feelings. Anna x
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she a player....she wasn't interested, and you gave her an excuse.... This is a great point. Also, she was making lame excuses not to see you. If she was serious about seeing you again, why couldn't you take her to dinner and meet her father when he was in town? If she really wanted to see you, is there a reason that she couldn't take an hour break from her work to eat some food? I'm sure that she ate eventually, but why couldn't she do it with you instead of cancelling again? As a woman, there are only 3 reasons that I ignore phone calls. 1) I don't know who it is. 2) I don't want to talk to the person right now. 3) I'm busy doing something and I'll call them back later. I figure if they need something, they'll leave a message or call back again. And if I don't have a second to call them back, there is no reason that I couldn't send a text saying "I'm busy. Call you back in 10" or something. She's obviously ditching you and now is trying to play the "wheeping widow" now that you've posted another ad. Don't listen to her. She's being a ***** and you don't need that. Ignore her. |
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i met this girl online, we exchanged emails for a week then went to on a date on a sunday which went pretty well, we kissed at the end. she said she wanted to see me again so we made plans for the following thursday. she cancelled on me saying she was busy with work things, i understood so we rescheduled things for sunday, she cancelled again. this time her father was in town on a surprise visit, again i didn't mind. throughout all this time we exchanged text messages on a daily basis, i told her that she was worth the wait to see her again, i meant it. i tried calling her twice during this week to ask her out, cause i feel like asking her out in a txt message is a little to impersonal, she didn't answer and left a message, she never returned my call. yesterday a friend convinced me to post a personal ad on a website, i did it. today i get a text message saying that she saw the ad and that she was mad because i lied to her, that i betrayed her trust. i feel a little confused by why she is mad. what would you do in my situation, apologize or not pay attention to her? Just a little question, or perhaps two, for you. Is this the same girl that you asked about two days ago? The circumstances are just so familiar. If so, I then have to ask if all the words of opinion and advice that you asked for and received just went flying over your head? And then, are you just trying to justify something in your behaviour that you are not telling the full story? If the answer is in the negative then perhaps you should be looking at your patterns of behaviour. |
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LOL she stated that she is mad omg .
Arrangements are made yet cancelled or no reply hmmm move on bud let it go LOL. Making one meeting then to cancel fine second yet another excuse no your better Off looking elsewhere if she was really that interested you both wouldve been out by now yes surely . Just put it down to experience your getting attached before need be LOL . Your both single no commitments either so don't see really how she can be mad at you sounds like player Best wishes ;-) |
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She probably wasn't that interested.
She was annoyed but at the same time enjoyed the fact you were texting her throughout the week. It was kind of an ego boost to her, made her feel good a dude wanted her. Once she saw you might be over that little infatuation, she was like, hey- wait a minute, i want the attention. She would be a problem. Move on. |
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