You'll be here for a loooong time if you keep being a wallflower and waiting for them to show an interest. Just do it! Dive in the pool. Get out there. There are no rules or protocols. Live the 21st century, and throw traditional hangups to the winds.

Totally depends upon the type of woman. If you are more into an aggressive woman, I would think u would wait to see if she had the initiative in her. If you prefer a more passive woman,, you should send the first contact and see if she responds with interest.

It goes both ways and if you do not know what to say send them a nudge.

I remember the days of passing that silly little note in class (in middle school) that read.....


"Hi. I like you. Alot! If you like me back, check the YES box. If not, check the NO box"


Ahhhh...such simpler times back then.

So much simpler for me anyway!

You know, from the ladies that I have chatted with on here, I have to say that they (women) receive some of the more "classic" first contact emails from us dudes. Stuff like.....

"Nice height. What else you good at?". Or, "Come sail away with me on my yacht (Even though I am a 60 year old hitting on a 20 year old). I will take care of you and that sexy ***."

Yes...yes....women love these kinds of first contact emails.

Hmmmm...ladies...maybe you should initiate contact first, cause us dudes (alot of us) seem to suck at it.

I prefer forums stalking!