Topic: Breakup Recovery 101: Five Rules You Must Follow!
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Sat 10/10/09 09:02 PM
Whether or not you were together for two weeks, six months, or four years, breakups hurt. And they can be really hard to get over. If you listen to the wise words of Charlotte on Sex and the City, it takes half the time you were together to get over him. Here are a few more wise words to help make your next breakup a little easier.

Don't Talk to Him

The most crucial rule in breaking up is to not talk to the person you're breaking up with. Even if you think you can handle it and still get over the person, you can't. Don't kid yourself; feelings will get hurt. Take some time off, get over him, and maybe someday in the future you'll be friends. Until then, lick your wounds and recover any way you'd like; whether that be partying hard, staying in bed for days with pints of ice cream, or spending absurd amounts of money on clothes you don't need. No one will say a thing; we all heal in our own, weird ways.

Snap Out of It

Remember how things, like stupid songs and movies and that little spot in the park that you two went to on your first date used to be "yours"? Well, they're not anymore. Don't make a connection to platonic objects when there isn't one. Remind yourself that you like that spot in the park because of the good view, not because of anyone connected to it. There's no point losing more than you have to from a breakup, so don't get all sappy on yourself.

Reconnect with Your Friends

No matter how much you say you're not going to be that girl who gives up her friends for her boyfriend; everyone gives up a little of their time to spend with their guy. Well, now is the time to make it up to them (and, you could use the girl talk). So, go out and have fun; grab your best wing woman, and remember how much fun being single really is.

Take Some Time For Yourself

Amidst all of this trying not to talk to him, hanging out with friends, partying more and/or eating lots and lots of ice cream-you need to remember to sit back and actually work through your feelings. Understand why things went south, and why you're better off this way. And in no time you'll be back to your old self, and what's-his-name will be a thing of the past.

It's All About Rewards

And finally, do all of the little things that make you happy every day. Yep, being single means thinking about you, you, you. So, go and take that extra time after work and buy yourself that little ring you've been obsessing over. Or take a long walk and meet a friend for cupcakes because well, you can. Have fun spoiling yourself, because you deserve it after....wait, what? I'm forgetting already.


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Sat 10/10/09 09:38 PM

Whether or not you were together for two weeks, six months, or four years, breakups hurt. And they can be really hard to get over. If you listen to the wise words of Charlotte on Sex and the City, it takes half the time you were together to get over him. Here are a few more wise words to help make your next breakup a little easier.

Don't Talk to Him

The most crucial rule in breaking up is to not talk to the person you're breaking up with. Even if you think you can handle it and still get over the person, you can't. Don't kid yourself; feelings will get hurt. Take some time off, get over him, and maybe someday in the future you'll be friends. Until then, lick your wounds and recover any way you'd like; whether that be partying hard, staying in bed for days with pints of ice cream, or spending absurd amounts of money on clothes you don't need. No one will say a thing; we all heal in our own, weird ways.

Snap Out of It

Remember how things, like stupid songs and movies and that little spot in the park that you two went to on your first date used to be "yours"? Well, they're not anymore. Don't make a connection to platonic objects when there isn't one. Remind yourself that you like that spot in the park because of the good view, not because of anyone connected to it. There's no point losing more than you have to from a breakup, so don't get all sappy on yourself.

Reconnect with Your Friends

No matter how much you say you're not going to be that girl who gives up her friends for her boyfriend; everyone gives up a little of their time to spend with their guy. Well, now is the time to make it up to them (and, you could use the girl talk). So, go out and have fun; grab your best wing woman, and remember how much fun being single really is.

Take Some Time For Yourself

Amidst all of this trying not to talk to him, hanging out with friends, partying more and/or eating lots and lots of ice cream-you need to remember to sit back and actually work through your feelings. Understand why things went south, and why you're better off this way. And in no time you'll be back to your old self, and what's-his-name will be a thing of the past.

It's All About Rewards

And finally, do all of the little things that make you happy every day. Yep, being single means thinking about you, you, you. So, go and take that extra time after work and buy yourself that little ring you've been obsessing over. Or take a long walk and meet a friend for cupcakes because well, you can. Have fun spoiling yourself, because you deserve it after....wait, what? I'm forgetting already.




Look good on paper, as most of your threads do...however I'm always left wondering how they would manifest in action. Humans, silly creatures think they have it all figured out...

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Sat 10/10/09 09:42 PM
with tequila you can skip all those steps

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Sat 10/10/09 09:57 PM
I find it strange that in these days where we have all those rules, studies, tips, advice and surveys from experts and some non so experts there are more and more failed relationships then ever before.

So dam the rules and tips do what makes you happy and think is right and ask no questions.

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Sat 10/10/09 10:09 PM

I find it strange that in these days where we have all those rules, studies, tips, advice and surveys from experts and some non so experts there are more and more failed relationships then ever before.

So dam the rules and tips do what makes you happy and think is right and ask no questions.


I like this one better.smokin

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Sat 10/10/09 10:11 PM

with tequila you can skip all those steps


... That or an elective lobotomy ... :tongue:

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Sat 10/10/09 10:13 PM


I find it strange that in these days where we have all those rules, studies, tips, advice and surveys from experts and some non so experts there are more and more failed relationships then ever before.

So dam the rules and tips do what makes you happy and think is right and ask no questions.


I like this one better.smokin


Life's a beach ... Surf the wave the way it is crestin' ... shades

... Play it as it lays ...

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Sat 10/10/09 10:40 PM
The best way to get over one man (or woman) is to get under another.smokin

leander67's photo
Sun 10/11/09 01:18 PM

The best way to get over one man (or woman) is to get under another.smokin


I can go for that...trouble is finding someone as a "temporary replacement".

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Sun 10/11/09 01:23 PM


The best way to get over one man (or woman) is to get under another.smokin


I can go for that...trouble is finding someone as a "temporary replacement".


laugh Keep looking, they're out there.