Or someone that doesn't want any....I had five...my daughter says she will never have a child

But, Unfortunately, I don't want kids anymore...

That is basically what I have always thought about it too

what is marriage just a commitment like buying a car if you dont like it you should be able to test drive anotherone until you trade it in but if you like what you have you maintain it forever

What I don't get is why so many people fall for married partners. Yea I can see a date or two but somewhere along the line, in my view the sooner the better, you need to do due diligence and check a person out. It is only self preservation. How hard is it to go to google a person, or check out their house. Spouse's, and kids, really are not that invisable.

Some person only gives you a cell phone, doesn't want you to know their address, can't account for gaps of time, or don't introduce their family and friends the red flags should go up and fast. Yes sometimes people borrow an address but if you go in and it is devoid of pictures, mail, clothes, and other personal stuff you are being duped. People are often creatures of habit. Ask the waitress, golf pro, doorman, or dry cleaners if you really are the "one and only".

A simple way of seeing if a military man is married, and I assume other payrolls is look at their deductions. True you are not entitled this kind of information for a casual date but if someone is saying let me in your britches and let me in your heart you have some right to look out for yourself.

I often wonder why people post a question when they already know full well the response they will get...

They want their cake and eat it too.

I have the same problem with married women

About half of married men cheat. I suspect about half of married women do to. Knowing that, just be careful. The other half is out there too.

Actually, (I just realized this) cheating aggressive married men would sway the odds pretty strongly on a dating site. I could see where the OP could get hit with an initial rush of guys just looking score as opposed to guys trying to make friends and long term relationships. The amount of time invested is much different.

Personally, I think most people get married with the attitude of what they will get from it- not what they will put into it.
Marriage is not 50/50 its 110/110 and most people go in with the mentality if it doesnt work out I can always ...(fill in the blank)

If people focused as hard on all the ways to keep it from failing as they did on what I can do when it fails- well divorce would not be so prevelent.

My grandparents were married 55 years, they made it thru a gambit of serious issues over the years. Because they chose to. There was no escape route planned ahead of time. They both said many times they would do it all over again even knowing at the end what they would face because the good times were so many.

Marriage can be and is a beautiful thing, if both people enter in with the right frame of mind. However it is unfortunate that most will look for the 20% they are missing and risk the 80% they already have waiting at home.

Married people cheat because they get the stability and security of a steady relationship, and the excitement of the outside relationship..

I say -If the grass looks greener on the other side its time to water your own lawn!

me either, but it's very rare to find one who doesn't want any.

Or one who knows what birth control is.

I think they like it when other people agree, validation you know.

I have dated several married women. If both parties are upfront with each other about the restrictions of the relationship,I have no problem. I have never and will never judge what 2 consenting adults do. Niether should anyone else. It's all about individual choice,if you don't want to date married people,don't do it,just don't force your morality on other people. be seeing you