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Hi. I'm fairly new and just came across this thread. I'd like to get some general, constructive feedback about my profile. I tried to keep make my commentary informative, yet concise to prevent boredom and encourage interest. I'd rather someone get to know me through dialog than just reading my biography. I posted quite a few pics too. But I haven't gotten much feedback.
I know I'm new, but this has been the case in the past when I've tried out other sites. I could be wrong, but I don't think I'm unattractive. Have I posted to many "silly" pics? Or am I just not that interesting? Is there anything specific I can do to encourage more views and interaction? P.S. I have a feeling someone will mention that I should try becoming part of the community by making posts. I'm not against this and think it's great. But my main purpose here (and other sites that don't even offer community discussion) is to meet people from my area - in real life. I don't think the community involvement will make any difference for that, especially considering other sites don't even offer it. Thanks in advance to any constructive responses! :) |
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Wed 10/07/09 02:10 PM
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HI!
 You are really attractive but your main pic doesn’t do you justice. I hate bathroom pix but the second pic with the pink wallpaper is a better main pic. I would click that profile pic! BTW, what's up with pink floral wallpaper for a dude?  JK, I can see it's a commercial bathroom because of the paper towel dispenser. I love your business look in that pic wit the green shirt!  Messy hair is hot! I also love your coloring. I'm allergic to kids, so holding the baby doesn't appeal to me, but I suppose the breeder women love that sort of thing! Their uterus probably gets all excited! You have a fine profile, and your pix are great. I like the goofy ones!!! I love a playful man.  Yes, the forums help but being proactive about emailing the girls that interest you is your best bet. If you Mutal Match with someone -- EMAIL them! Don't site back and collect Mutal Matches without doing something about it. Even if you don't mutual match, email all of the girls that are of interest. Take initiative.  Don't be disappointed about the low percentage of replies though. That is unfortunate but also reality.  I padded my constructive remarks with humor. I hope you tuned in to my tone.
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first you are absolutely gorgeous, and your profile is funny, and real...wouldn't change a thing...try seeing whose on line and strikes your fancy, then strike up a chat
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The profile is good, but....you will indeed have a better chance if you are in the forums....that's how I met my guy....you get in the forums, people talk to you...see where you are from and....it happens....if not...you make a lot of really cool friends...good luck
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Thanks to everyone so far. That makes me feel a lot better already.
Melody, I appreciate the humor. Thanks. Since you brought up so many specifics, I figure I'll try to answer them for you or anyone else who wants to critique... or just my own benefit.. whatever :P I'm not a fan of bathroom pics either, but I have several of them.. that's where the mirrors are; I can't help it! haha. and you're right, it's definitely not my bathroom. I try to crop out as much of them as I can. I actually used to use the one you're talking about. I just changed it because I thought it looked a little to... dressy and formal. I mean, I don't want to come across as trying THAT hard. Ha. But maybe I'll change it back. Does anyone else have an opinion on this?? The baby is my new niece. I figured people would assume she isn't mine since I answered the children question by saying I didn't have any. Plus most women are attracted to men who like kids, right? haha. Also, I try to be careful not to include others in pictures I post online for the entire world to see. But then I just look like a self-picture taking loner without a life. So, I just chose a couple with people I thought wouldn't mind... or wouldn't find out. haha. Last thing... about the emails. I do that, but I guess the lack of replies gets me down. Plus it's frustrating to put all that work into something to be original and write something someone actually wants to respond to all for nothing... over and over again. So on that note, ladies, how detailed should a message be to get your attention? I've been assuming it needs to be pretty good Because if I'm attracted enough to write you, I'm assuming that you're getting tons of other messages and mine needs to somehow stick out. Right? |
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Thanks to everyone so far. That makes me feel a lot better already. Melody, I appreciate the humor. Thanks. Since you brought up so many specifics, I figure I'll try to answer them for you or anyone else who wants to critique... or just my own benefit.. whatever :P I'm not a fan of bathroom pics either, but I have several of them.. that's where the mirrors are; I can't help it! haha. and you're right, it's definitely not my bathroom. I try to crop out as much of them as I can. I actually used to use the one you're talking about. I just changed it because I thought it looked a little to... dressy and formal. I mean, I don't want to come across as trying THAT hard. Ha. But maybe I'll change it back. Does anyone else have an opinion on this?? The baby is my new niece. I figured people would assume she isn't mine since I answered the children question by saying I didn't have any. Plus most women are attracted to men who like kids, right? haha. Also, I try to be careful not to include others in pictures I post online for the entire world to see. But then I just look like a self-picture taking loner without a life. So, I just chose a couple with people I thought wouldn't mind... or wouldn't find out. haha. Last thing... about the emails. I do that, but I guess the lack of replies gets me down. Plus it's frustrating to put all that work into something to be original and write something someone actually wants to respond to all for nothing... over and over again. So on that note, ladies, how detailed should a message be to get your attention? I've been assuming it needs to be pretty good Because if I'm attracted enough to write you, I'm assuming that you're getting tons of other messages and mine needs to somehow stick out. Right? You seem to have a great way about you!  Whether you use the pic I prefer or another one -- change the main. The one now is not good. You are really, really good looking. The pic now is OK for an extra but not to attract. If I saw your profile in search, I wouldn't click it .... a picture is your gateway! As far as the email struggle ... Oy!  I agree the effort is more than the result. I've been on since January and I've only had 3 Mingle dates. I do better in real life but this is still a viable dating option. You learn to weed out the takers, fakers and players. Yeaaaa ... MOST women like men who like babies.  If I was ever in a relationship with a guy and he didn't know how to break up with me -- one sure fire way is to tell me he is pregnant!  You should do really well. You seem like a quality man! 
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I think it's really good!
Hope ya find everything your looking for!! |
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Thanks everyone! You're really making me feel a lot better. Especially Melody. Though, I have to admit I'm a little surprised. I just checked out your profile and I don't really line up with what you're looking for at all. But thanks anyway! :D You're looking pretty good yourself ;) By the way, I'm changing my pic back just for you! Happy!? :P I guess I should have went with my gut and stuck with that pic in the first place.
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Thanks everyone! You're really making me feel a lot better. Especially Melody. Though, I have to admit I'm a little surprised. I just checked out your profile and I don't really line up with what you're looking for at all. But thanks anyway! :D You're looking pretty good yourself ;) By the way, I'm changing my pic back just for you! Happy!? :P I guess I should have went with my gut and stuck with that pic in the first place. Oh, I noticed! I have specifics that I like in men but that all goes out the window for the RIGHT man. I hope that makes sense. I'm attracted to tattoos, rockers, bookworms, professional guys, mechanics -- I'm all over the map really. At that one specific point though -- that magic moment -- I have no idea who will capture my heart. |
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Profile is more than adequate. Perhaps it's your approach. What kind of initial emails are you sending? Witty, confident, interesting and targeted is what I'd go for. Make some reference to their profile so they know you read it. And certainly don't wait for the women to come to you. You'll have much better luck if you contact the ones you find interesting and attractive.
It's a lot like fishing. You usually have to make a few casts before you get a bite. Good luck to you. |
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Profile is more than adequate. Perhaps it's your approach. What kind of initial emails are you sending? Witty, confident, interesting and targeted is what I'd go for. Make some reference to their profile so they know you read it. And certainly don't wait for the women to come to you. You'll have much better luck if you contact the ones you find interesting and attractive. It's a lot like fishing. You usually have to make a few casts before you get a bite. Good luck to you. I feel you. I definitely don't do the generic email to every woman gig. Although, I've been tempted just to find out if the girl is real or not so I'm not wasting my time. haha. Sometimes I feel like it's a numbers game... which is totally ridiculous. Hopefully, that's just my frustration and not actually the case. But yeah, as far as my initial email approach, it's everything you mentioned.. pretty much perfect, really. ;P haha. Just kidding. I just am who I am. I write like I do here and comment on something I found in their profile that I liked. Although, sometimes I wonder if I come across the same in my writing as I would in person. I'm just not sure if my personality/humor/intentions come across correctly in type. That's always possible, but even if so, I don't think I come across any worse than anyone else. I'm not to worried about it at this point. Thanks for the advice! |
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