”Rocky Horror Picture Show”? Yes, Susan Sarandon was smokin hot back then (not that she’s not still pretty hot). I had the biggest crush on her for years after seeing that movie – and it only got worse when “Pretty Baby” came out. And then "White Castle: a little later. :weak in the knees:

Anyway, what I really wanted to say was that I think “who one is” is decided not discovered. That is, we make ourseles into what we are by our own choice. It is not something that is imposed on us or decided by an outside agent.

JMHO

So if you wanna be BIGFOOT, then go ahead and be BIGFOOT!

(Had to tie this into the topic somehow. )

Sky I agree. Too many people allow other people to define them. Define yourself. Decide who you are. Decide what you are. Make your own rules. Be responsible for your own choices. That is my W.O.L.

Whether this can be true for yourself or not, depends very much on the type or kind of the mental disease that holds you in its grips. (Please don't ask me to define "mental disease". Please note the use of "its" in he sentence. It's the proper way in which I use it.)

I was talking (emailing) my own brother today, and I stated how very much I define my own human and moral worth, also my sexual and entertainment value, by the reaction to my expressions of others around me. This is in stark contrast to his wife who is completely insular socially. That, despite neither of us ever appearing stark in pulic or in social circles. She's very social when amongst people, but she never seeks out people and she doesn't give a damm what they say or think. Ever since their kid shows more and more signs of insanity, too, she's become disenchanted with her life and the kid, (the two used to be synonymous for her), and now she's seriously considerign branching out and getting interested in other people as humans.

For me the opinions of others, and their apparent evaluation of me, are so important that I can get deliriously happy or suicidal at the proper extremes.

ADD to this, that it took me a long time to learn the non-verbal communication by others, since I have Aspergers. So not only do I base my value and worth sheerly on other people's opinion, but more times than not I misjudge their opinion by misinterpreting their expressions.

Nobody can charge me with living a boring life.

Whoo hoo hoo hoo hoo, Susan Sharandon. I bet you like the one time sex idol Kim Bassinger. I used to go to a club with public ballroom dances where a girl looked like Kim. She liked me too!! Then she asked me how old I was, she said, in your forties, no doubt? And I said, no, only 35. She dropped me then and there. She was the opposite of a cougar, and better looking then Kim herself. Because she was doing the waltz right in my arm. Kim never did that. Some win, some lose.

Bigfoot liked Kim Bassinger. (Tie in we must with topics.)

But, you're only 26 now?

You remind me of my step-son. He was diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD.

I think everyone, to a certain extent, and regardless of how willing they are to admit it, judges themself on how they believe others perceive them. It's something that some people grow out of as they get older. The hard part is growing out of it without getting a "screw everyone and their opinions" kind of mentality. That's easy to do as well.

Does that appear on my profile? If yes (and I'll check it presently) it does, then it's from when I wrote to someone who did not accept letters from people older than 28, and therefore I was forced to temporarily change the date of my birth to get the letter through.

Right. I'll change it.

Changed it. Back to normal. I'm 55 again!!

You see what old age does to someone? I forget everything. Like I can't even begin to think how many sweet women I've mislead due to my forgetfulness.

Of course you have complete clearance and all the right to take back every compliment or whatever you gave me so far. The keys to the Porsche will be under the doormat. It would be unfair by me to want to retain any of these.