You have found that perfect person; they have the look, the personality so that you can talk for days and never be lost for words. You both have the same goals. How to raise children, if you have them, you both have jobs that make you happy. Now you take it to the next level. And you find out the other person is a -9 on a 1 to 10 scale.

Question, could you and or would you stay with that person in a sexless relationship? And since you like sex a lot, how would you handle that? Discuss please.

I don't care about sex, so it wouldn't bother me. I'd rather talk to a guy than **** him any day.

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if you build it up that much an still have all those things in common with person an your happy with them an they are u don't think looks should really matter.. as long as ur both happy with each other. and don't think sex is everything in a realtionship u can have one an not have that

Ive been there- done that- 14 years of been there done that!!!! I won't do it again- conversation and the same ideals are important but sex is too- you connect that way- you feel close that way- i want it all now- and i won't settle for 50% anymore

I would have to have sex. I need sex, I want sex, I love sex. Oh my gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawd now I want sex!!!

OK, just so you all know, I have to state that I would have to really think long and hard before letting that other person go out of my life. I have been in relationships that were so abusive that just the fact of being treated respectfully is a major plus. But I wouldnt know how to live in a sexless relationship. Like Gypsy, I want it, need it and wont live with out it.

As far as what to do about the lack of, doing it your self gets old fast. So whats the answer folks?

I couldn't stay with someone without sex.I had that in my marriage.Now I want and need to be close to someone.

Keep him as a friend. Why cant he have sex??? Viagra not working?

is his problem physical- technique? age? there are ways to get around it if he is willing to be taught- unfortunately in my situation he did not want to listen and i got bored- if you really want to be with that person you are going to have to communicate what you want and need and if he wants to make it work he will try his best to accomodate your needs and desires in my opinion however humble it may be

judges have granted divorces on those grounds:when one spouse is denying the other intimacy....reality is,that relationship is doomed to fail.intimacy is an expression of love. dont get me wrong,it isnt about just sex,but its not fair to deny one that in a relationship. thats a very dvestating thing and it can make the other one self conceiouse[didnt spell that right,lol],make them have low self esteem,can hurt them very deeplyand eventually cause animosity and tension in a relationship.so these ones who are always saying aaaw that doesnt matter are blinding themselves or have issues because they feel left out of certain catergories,but everyone has different tastes ,so they need not feel that way.they just have to search for the right one who likes their type.variety is what makes us all different,yet interesting...some guys like skinny chicks,some guys like big chicks,some guys like curvy,some voluptuose.lets all get honest here...lol

There is no real "he" I have just been thinking about this for a while. I guess it goes back to what you will or will not settle for.

P.S. lets just say for arguements sake that he likes it, he is just awfull at it. Despite numerous lessons.

I agree with silly

I had a marriage like that too!!

Sex may not be the total thing in a relationship. But it means a lit when you don't have it!!


Never again!!

I want it!!!!

Gosh, Robin, well, if it was something that the man COULDN'T do, that doesn't mean there aren't other ways to get sexual satisfaction on your own or together, (but without the actual pen!s/v@gina thing). So, if he's just not able to function, there are still ways to enjoy sex a bunch of ways together. Now, if the man isn't interested in sharing that part WITH YOU, then he's just a friend, isn't he? A lover, whether or not able to do the intercourse part, can still be a lover.
After spending 13 years with a man who COULD but wasn't interested in sex and made me feel undesirable...let's just say I'm glad that's not my problem anymore, but his third wife's now!! Sure, there may have come a day when he couldn't, but his situation was he was not interested and wouldn't. And that lack of intimacy was enough to cause problems because as long as both are able, it is a further extension of loving intimacy. I needed to know I had a lover and ended up being his buddy and mother. The dynamic was not good.

You have the answer, just re-read your post. See above.

This sounds like an elaborate version of the "****-marry-kill" game.
Since I'm sincerely hoping my sex life is not yet over, I would establish the person such as you describe as a Best Friend, and find a person who DOES like (LOTS of) sex to marry.
Your saying it as you did, establishes that it's important enough to you to worry about it. Since it is, it would not be wise to GUESS that you could live without it, and marry this guy.

Hmmmmmm, I'd have to give that one a pass. Sexual intimacy is way high up there on the list of things that are important in a relationship. But it does seem odd that there could be NO sex. Where there's a will, there's a way!

I dont know how, with all that chemistry, sex could be negative. It may not be spectacular, but there are ways to learn together how to please each other.