I am a person of color (whatever that means) and everyone, I mean everyone of all races, ask me where I'm from. My family came to Canada prior to the 1700s and for some reason people see me as everything but Canadian. Now I feel as if I'm from another planet because I feel so different from everyone else. Also women of my complexion seen to avoid me. I have no problemS with all other cultures. But women of my race tend to avoid me. Can someone enlighten me?

They seem to be stuck up...I would date outside of your race, then you will find more understanding people

Its wierd, I dont know, the only way I can relate, is to say that I have african roots on both sides of my parents family, and how wierd it is to hear people use the n word like I relate, because I have white skin, and light hair.


White people come to me all the time with the racist stuff, like somehow Im supposed to be part of a club, and I just automaticly agree.


Yes I feel different, but I embrace it.

But still..

Its bizarre.

Hey

I'm a dark skinned
Raven hair
Dark eyed

Sicilian woman

They all call me. "mafia princess"

Do I let it bother me



Nope!!


And I live in a neighborhood where blonde and blue eyed is everywhere!!

If thats you in the pic, you look white ta me!
Hells yeah Im different from most people
here in Redneckville-
I got no other choice, so...its lonely at the top.
Wish I had a nickle for every Revival & church I have been invited to-
in hopes of saving my soul.

I definitely feel like I'm from another planet!

We are all different but as long as we live ion peace it is okay to have different choices, cultures,desires....etc. As adults we should not dictate how others see us but we dictate how we handle ourselves in society . I have no problem with any person nationality, origin, religion as long as they do not want to force their opinions or life style on me . I respect everyone and I certainly expect the same .

I feel like Im one of the last with old school values and philosophies in my age range. I dont feel different racially, but because I feel like a minority in my beliefs about boundaries and respect and manners,,,,its becoming such an instant gratification, whatever feels good society

Do you have an odd obsession with serial killers? That's what did it for me anyway...

You know, it's funny how people can be so close minded and ignorant. You are who you are and I don't think it matters what you are, you shouldn't feel offended when people come up to you. Hell people come up to me all the time, I'm adopted and my adopted parents are black and I'm half black half mexican italian, I'm a little lighter than them. So what? I love them, they're my family and the only family I'll ever have..

Bravo to you Safina!!!:

People can sometimes be cruel. When something is out of the norm of life they tend to avoid it. It's not your fault. Color has never been A problem for me. I actualy think it's interesting. Different cultures fascenate me. It doesn't matter to me what color one is. Personality is everything. It defines you. You are no diferent than the rest of us. We all feel. We just express it in diferent ways. It makes us uniqe. I think you are too hard on yourself. The color of ones skin should never be A factor on how people are treated. Look at it this way. would you ever leave A baby in the middle of the street in the rain because of it's skin color? It's funny how attitudes change as we age. Everyone thinks baby's are cute. No matter what the skin color. What happens to people when they grow older. The child is gone, but we are still that same person. Don't be too hard on yourself. You are who you are. We are all diferent. It's the diferences in each of us that makes this world one crazy place to live.

Being different, especially when you are not accepted by the people you identify with is really hard.

While bi-racial folks are really more the norm than most know, especially in the USA, it can be really tough when you are on the end of the spectrum that looks least like the average. And your family.

What is really brutal is when you are the reciever of discrimination form the people you want to turn to for comfort. I am not sure why it is so common with in groups but I have seen it over and over and sometimes it is actually the most extream. And the hardest to deal with because it often denied by all.

As hard as it may be I think it helps to find someone you can identify with. It has been a great comfort to me anyway.

For the OP who is a very light skin "black" I can remember the first time someone I know finally saw someone like himself, almost 80 years old, he openly wept because he had "felt so alone all his life" even though he had a huge family and a multitude of friends.

Hopefully with the internet some of that isolation will end and understanding will be more common.

As far as someone your own complextion not being supportive I think that may be a lot of fear of being discriminated against by joining you in the "no mans's land that bi-racial folks tend to fall in. I have not a lot of experience in Canada but what little I did see is it is much more segregated and and people of color are still very much the minority. Often times seen as immigrants even when they are not. Believe me that is not unique to Canada. In California fifth generation minorities are still seen as immigrants while as a transplant I am often mistaken for a native.