In the world of dating, I am a total amateur. The people I have tried relationships with before I have known in some context before getting to be with them.

I have a mild self-esteem issue, partly to do with my lack of a smile (but I am in the middle of trying to sort out my dental issues), and partly to do with the fact that if I go out any place, I find myself frequently on my own.

Ok, so I know people there, but approaching young women (those around my age group I would guess at, but there is no tangible way of meeting a complete stranger and knowing exactly how old they are, without asking), is something I find a rather daunting task, considering what people have said about me and my looks in the past (yes, quite a number of laughed off rejections).

I wonder if I could ask for what I might need to consider doing in order to change a few things?

No guts, no glory, that's pretty much all it is. As for how to meet women? Well, try to remember, you're just saying hello and maybe striking up a conversation. You're not making wedding plans yet. Get out there, talk to as many people as you can and you never know who you'll meet. Join activities, classes, etc of things that interest you, you'll then meet other people with common interests. Never hurts to make friends, and then you'll meet friends of friends, etc etc etc.

Good luck

I'm not sure what you're asking, are you asking how to make yourself more physically attractive, or how to strike up a conversation with them? For the former, beauty is relative and the latter, just say hi and go from there, it's not a big deal.

work out and run that will give Ur confidence and self esteem a big boost
AND JUST BE YOURSELF

Being nervous whilst i'm out frequently on my own, I often freeze.

Going up to someone and striking a conversation up sounds so simple, but I still find it a challenge.

all it takes is a hi eye contact and a smile
once u get some practice ull be natural

Makes sense....well, maybe you could start out by making eye contact and smiling. You can smile with your mouth closed, maybe just a tiny smile. Just a pleasant look. Could come off coy, I think that'd be cute.

True, a bit of practice usually helps develop a beginners attitude to things. I implement that in my music daily.. haha.

Exactly. After a while, it becomes second nature, and you're not so shy anymore. I used to be very shy when I was younger, but then I was put into a position where I had to get over it....

same here

Go out there and live your life, do the things that you like to do, with friends or solo. While you are out there, look around, you will see women that are there too, that like some of the same things you like. Just chat a bit, with no intention of 'meeting them' 'picking them up'. Just casual conversation, this will help with confidence.
Chat frequently with the folks here online, especially the ladies, again with no intentions, just casual conversation.
Go to the jokes forum and read some of the jokes, some are quite funny, feel free to use them when appropriate.

And before you know it, you will feel better about yourself and the women will respond to it.

Wow, I had a similar problem. not the dental, but with being over-weight.Resolved the weight issue, the reaction of others that rejected me or even worse made me feel like there was something about me inside that was making people act mean or even judgemental. These same people found me more to their liking after the outward change took place.SHALLOW is what was rejecting me, this was a God send, because those who did NOT see the outside, did see the inside and they really liked what they seen in ME!

It must be hard to go against the grain of who you are. Being an extrovert, I have seldom had the problem of engaging someone in conversation.

Sometimes, you have to force yourself to do things out of your comfort zone, otherwise, you just stay there. It gets easier and easier, like most other things, the more you are willing to put yourself out there. If you have a male friend that's outgoing, join him in social activities. This could be a good ice-breaker for you. Fear of rejection can be a crippling thing that holds you back from achieving what you want.

Why do we try to scrunch ourselves down to try and 'fit' others?

If your dental issues cause YOU consternation, then you are doing yourself a kindness.

There is nothing wrong with you....you are extremely capable of communicating to a vast expanse of strangers...you've just done it!

Sometimes we get so caught up in trying to be that which we are not, to be what others want us to be...we lose sight of ourselves. No wonder you are having some self confidence issues.

Learn to like the uniqueness that is you...develop your unique qualities....get about in your world doing what you love.

The rest will follow.

We spend way too much time attempting to be what we perceive people want us to be.

It's like wearing ill fitting shoes...they aren't yours....just be you...be the BEST you that you can be....and life will feel full.

It's easier to communicate through a screen than in person, even though I'm no longer shy, I still feel weird in large crowds. So interacting with a group on mingle doesn't bother me, but if you all were gathered in person, I'd freak out and have to leave the room.

Well I must say. Thats a lot of information for me to have to get my head around. But I daresay I will be looking to make some strides into doing something about it :)

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Take your time, it's taken me 36 years to become the winning personality you see before you.

..first of all develop the attitude that you are the shizzle..lol,maybe look into contacts,grow a little more hair on top,throw in a mustache and maybe a little beard stubble to help the aged effect..and then walk around with confidence and an i don't give a shyt attitude..and they'll flock 2 ya..watch the movie ..Fast times at ridgemont high..and listen to what Damone says..o.k you might omit the last part.lol..but yet still a good movie and Pheobe is hotttttt!!!!!jmo..