IN the spirit of the hypothetical question,,lets say,,,


you meet someone that you are REALLY into and you think maybe they feel the same,,how soon into the relationship do you let your feelings known without them running in the other direction? Women,, is it cool to say I love You,,before he does?

Wait for the right timing...i would say...
For me: I would wait for the guy to say the word "I love you" to me before I do to him....But, that's my preference....
Good luck to you!

DON'T SAY A WORD!!!!!!!!!!!! Let him say it first. Men move a lot slower than us women.

thanx, it was just a hypothetical though. Im not even CLOSE to love right now. There are just so many 'rules' about relationships. I wondered how minglers felt about the topic.

I would hope that my feelings come across by showing that I want to be around her more

After you meet the kids/If they have.and your still getting butterflies just thinking about him/her.And you haven't just said give me it/Take this goes a long way

well i know if they say it right away don't believe them wait till u known them for awhile an that you are sure that feeling is there for you both an that you both have meet more then once an not just talking on line or on phone. but if they feel the same way as you do then maybe you both should say it at the same time..

I don't have to say anything..I wear my heart on my sleeve and everything comes through my eyes ...I never could hide what I truly feel.
I have tried..

Drop the bomb on him en-route to the restaurant on the first date.If he taps down harder on the accelerator then he's excited & favors the idea. If he lets off on the accelerator then he's gone into the"pull over whoa! it's the marriage police mode" p.s.Wait and see what his feelings are first before exposing yours.Godspeed!Cy

My mom always said;

Never say it first

And


Make sure he loves you waaay more

Than you love him!!!

I don't pay attention to any rules except my own and those that are mutually agreed upon within the relationship. The key to being the first to say I love you is to not have ANY expectations that those words or feelings will be returned. Love is something that is freely given, not taken. If expressing yourself to the other person scares them off, so be it. It's not as if you're saying something negative or insulting them. I don't see anything wrong with vocalizing something as postive as love.

That's funny. Mine said the same thing. Relationships do better if a guy is more in love then the gal.

Such a good question! I'm reading this with great interest! Thanks.

In theory this is a great idea but if I have feelings for someone -- not necessarily love -- I am going to tell him how I feel. If he is not mature enough or too much of a scared-E-cat to handle an adult relationship then I don't want him anyway. I would rather find out sooner than later.

Exactly. Play your cards when you have the feeling and the mood is right. If you have the confidence, you are prepared for the answer, good or bad, and at least they won't leave you guessing any more. Sooner is always better than later.

From a guys point of view...give it a good while before you release those doves...a really long good while. Unless of course the words mean absolutely nothing like it does to so many women I've met through my life...

I'd never tell a guy I loved him first. I'd never even tell him I liked him first. I don't mind letting him know I like him- not in those exact words of course, more like actions- but no way in hell would I ever tell him I loved him. Been there, done that, never again!

I agree wait and see how it plays out. The danger online is that so often people are trying out more than one friend and some men have a tendency to act as if you are the only one they are communicating with. I say form a genuine friendship and make sure it is solid before you venture into the "I Love You". A person who is not a genuine friend doesn't always feel they have to be honorable.

Good advice. I heard that at a religious meeting