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Edited by
TelephoneMan
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Well, maybe mommy has had too many relationships and the kids are sick of it... sounds like to me...
...FWIW, you might consider putting a little more distance between your personal life and your kids until you become more sure that a dating relationship might add up to more. Just sounds like the kids have been through this too many times before, and their sick of seeing you get hurt and play the romance thing with THEIR lives... what you do in front of them affects their opinion of outsiders... If you didn't bring this guy home, then the kids would have never met him, and wouldn't have been forced by mommy's behavior, to make a decision... Then if you came home beaming all the time... but the kids had never met him... they would be curious to see who it is that makes mommy so happy... Evidently you didn't give them that much space and rushed into this thing... now they resent you for it... Sounds like a pattern you have, and a possible reason why they resent the guy (they probably don't even really know him) but rather resent you for being so loose, depending on how long its been since your divorce (if divorced) or separation (if separated), etc... Kids are a good indicator valve... my hunch is that you are going way too fast with this guy... as in... (pardon my frankness) you like slept with him at the house, with your minor children there... and didn't take that into consideration when he woke up the next morning and they had to (however inconveniently) deal with the situation of some stranger at the breakfast table... ??? The negativity isn't most likely toward him, but toward you your lifestyle and your choices that they are reacting to... my 2 cents |
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Into your life.....  He/She is everything you could hope for and your feeling very optimistic that this may be the very person you have waited for and your excited to pursue this possibilities of this relationship. Your children HATE this person, and are adamant that if you become involved with this person they will never accept it and will fight you every step of the way... Do you go on with it, tell the kids it's your life and they have no say? Or let go of the idea for the sake of your children and your relationship with them?  |
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Depends on how old they are....
I never dated when they were young Now they love and adore my partner And he loves and adores them Cause they see how happy I am!!
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Depends on how old they are.... I never dated when they were young Now they love and adore my partner And he loves and adores them Cause they see how happy I am!! 
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Well, maybe mommy has had too many relationships and the kids are sick of it... sounds like to me... It's a hypothetical situation...how can it sound like that? Reading a bit to much into it aye? I guess some do that with sooo little information! |
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Edited by
TelephoneMan
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Fri 10/02/09 04:56 PM
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Well, maybe mommy has had too many relationships and the kids are sick of it... sounds like to me... It's a hypothetical situation...how can it sound like that? Reading a bit to much into it aye? I guess some do that with sooo little information! Nothing in what you wrote stated "hypothetical"... so, since its only hypothetical, I'll be even more frank, it sounds like mommy is typically a slut and/or floozy, has some form of love addiction, and the kids are sick of her behavior... I think kids are pretty good indicator valves of some such thing... whether women want to listen is another story... I might go on the postulate that the woman has probably been married 4 or 5 times already, and just the MENTION of her love for some new man, makes all the children groan with "not again, mom..." in my hypothetical view, the mom is a love addicted nut case, and has no true communication values with her dysfunctional children... |
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Well, maybe mommy has had too many relationships and the kids are sick of it... sounds like to me... It's a hypothetical situation...how can it sound like that? Reading a bit to much into it aye? I guess some do that with sooo little information! Nothing in what you wrote stated "hypothetical"... so, since its only hypothetical, I'll be even more frank, it sounds like mommy is typically a slut and/or floozy, has some form of love addiction, and the kids are sick of her behavior... Obviously you have not read the entire thread... |
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Edited by
TelephoneMan
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Fri 10/02/09 05:02 PM
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Well, maybe mommy has had too many relationships and the kids are sick of it... sounds like to me... It's a hypothetical situation...how can it sound like that? Reading a bit to much into it aye? I guess some do that with sooo little information! Nothing in what you wrote stated "hypothetical"... so, since its only hypothetical, I'll be even more frank, it sounds like mommy is typically a slut and/or floozy, has some form of love addiction, and the kids are sick of her behavior... Obviously you have not read the entire thread... Obviously I might as well just give you the log-on information to my account so you can post what you want to hear, not what people actually think... Sorry, I have a brain, and I've seen the "little bobby and betty doesn't like the new boyfriend" thing before... there is a REASON the kids in this scenario don't like the new boyfriend... they have brains, too... and have opinions that are worth listening too... but I've seen women blow off what their children thought because of love addictions... and it did indeed make the children all exclaim "oh, not again" every time mommy brought home some new "this is finally Prince Charming" guy ... which, to a love addict, is every other week |
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Your coming off as a very angry little man..sounds like mommy left you for a younger man.
Post what ya want, I don't care. That's what the forum is for..just don't direct it at me, it's not about me. |
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yes, I agree that the children's ages would be a big factor in the decision. It's hypothetical..my boys are adults and wish me to be happy. The only way they would object is if someone treated me badly...and then they would just kick his azz.  This is no reference to me. I do know people who have been put in this situation though. Apparently he didn't read these posts above that you wrote. I also agree that it totally depends on the kids ages and also what is going on in your lives at the time. Sometimes it just isn't the right time to start dating and enter in another factor that could cause stress to the kids. Even if I really felt the guy was perfect for me, I would listen to my kids first. If they needed me and just me, then ultimately that's what I would do. Most kids would welcome someone into their lives (after that first awkward bit) if they were being treated fairly and saw only good things coming out of the relationship for themselves. After all, kids don't really have the ability to reason out all that stuff until they are much older. They are selfish little beings until they mature. My responsibility as a parent would always come first. |
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yes, I agree that the children's ages would be a big factor in the decision. It's hypothetical..my boys are adults and wish me to be happy. The only way they would object is if someone treated me badly...and then they would just kick his azz. This is no reference to me. I do know people who have been put in this situation though. Apparently he didn't read these posts above that you wrote. I also agree that it totally depends on the kids ages and also what is going on in your lives at the time. Sometimes it just isn't the right time to start dating and enter in another factor that could cause stress to the kids. Even if I really felt the guy was perfect for me, I would listen to my kids first. If they needed me and just me, then ultimately that's what I would do. Most kids would welcome someone into their lives (after that first awkward bit) if they were being treated fairly and saw only good things coming out of the relationship for themselves. After all, kids don't really have the ability to reason out all that stuff until they are much older. They are selfish little beings until they mature. My responsibility as a parent would always come first. right..I haven't dated for years..I choose to be a mom and I'm glad I did. I added that for the reason so these comments would not be directed at me...my boys actually want me to date, try setting me up with their friends dads...I do know some in this situation, that's why I threw it out there. |
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Yep, and you shouldn't have had to defend your position in the least. You asked a question, period.
Sometimes a hidden agenda comes out on Mingle, but they are usually pretty easy to spot. I don't know why, but anger management came to my mind.....
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Yep, and you shouldn't have had to defend your position in the least. You asked a question, period. Sometimes a hidden agenda comes out on Mingle, but they are usually pretty easy to spot. I don't know why, but anger management came to my mind..... I don't know why anger management come to mind either...hummmm |
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