Ok ladies and gents,,,,from experience,,,what are some subtle signs that he (or she)is just not that into you.....?


I will start,,

You say 'I love you' and they say 'thats so sweet'

If U have to remind him that U have a new hair or nail style.

Okay how about this:

I was dating a man for two years and he was in a mid life career change back to school for a nursing degree. At the end of two years he still had one semester left to graduate. I asked him do you see us moving forward into the future together? (not an engagement ring, or a marriage proposal) just wanting to know if I would be in his life past graduation and his reply was "it is too soon for me to even think of that yet, I have to graduate first".

For me it goes beyond that....and is far simpler.

If he doesn't return calls or texts timely.

If he is late or forgets plans, or cancels plans to do things with other people.

If he makes tentative plans and doesn't call you until right before, then asks... Did you still want to go out?

u say "I love you" and he says "are u going to be mad if i dont say it back"

If you go to hold their hand and they quickly pull it away and ask you.."What are you doing?"

if he acts like "ok take care" "i'll be seeing ya" or doesnt get too excited when u wanna have a little "fun" with him

hmm..if that's the case he must be getting fun elsewhere..I'd pass out if I was ever offered from excitement...

They tell you that the stoop is not like home even though you put a blanket down there to imitate their natural habitat...

They say they love u,but they stand u up and don't give u a good reason y they didn't show up

It is fairly easy to tell. No set rules on shoulds or should nots. The problem is many times we dont WANT to notice! I have dated guys that didnt even realize themselves. And eventually I just pull away, because they are trying to hard to FORCE something out of nothing.

For me the best relationships come naturally. There is an undescribable feeling when you are together. If only one person has that, then someone is just settling.

I am not about to settle!

You have to do all the work in the "relationship"- calling, emailing, initiating any form of contact. He makes up excuses why he doesn't show up for dates, stares at other women and talks about how hot they are right in front of you, won't introduce you to his family, lies and tells everyone that you and he are "just friends," would rather spend time with his loser friends than with you, acts like you brought out an anal probe if you try to touch him out of the bedroom.

That might be a clue that he's not into you, but you could still ask him....