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 I really need some help on this one if there any christian ladies that can give me advice please contact me by email on here I really need help on this one it has me confused and hurting.Not sure about this dating thing any more about ready to give up.Confused and Hurt.
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LeeM39
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Thu 09/17/09 01:08 PM
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 Thanks LeeM39 you have been awesome to listen and give me hugs it really has made my day.
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I'm not a Lady, but I might be able to help.
Please consider the following statement from the Bible. This is going to be paraphrased. If you Seek God First, he will open the windows of heaven and pour you out a blessing to big for you to hold. Seek God and all these things shall be added unto you. All saying that if you have a close relationship with God, he will give you the desires of your heart. And if that is True, then if you desire Love from a man, he will direct your path to the man you deserve. No I'm not this man, but he might be your next door neighbor, or the guy that runs the corner market. But you must first depend on God, and the rest will happem in his time, when he knows your ready for it. |
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 Ok I know you guys are wondering what is up so this is it.I meet someone on here four months ago and we became friends and as time went on we fell in love with each other.I truly thought I had found the one but turns out he may have a girlfriend because of the email I got today.It was a real blow to my heart.she claimed to be his woman and for me to back off.I had no clue this was going on in his life.when i got this I wondered what it was that I had done so wrong to be treated that way in life.I was nothing but honest and up front and compassionate and caring to him.I gave him my heart and yet it was today ripped out right in front of me.I have been nothing but true to him the whole time on here.I'm so to the point of giving up the dating scene right now.I'm to the point I don't know who to trust or believe in any more.you know I'm sorry I'm not the playboy bunny or the sexy barbie doll type and I have kids.I just can't understand why that's such a turn off to most men.I have only one saying in life don't judge a book by it's cover because unless you read what's inside and give it a chance and you turn it away you may have turned away what you have been looking for all along.I have a true heart to give to someone and when I'm with a man I'm with him not no one else.One thing my parents taught me in life and that's to be true to the one your with and love them unconditionally.They had a great love and most could learn from what they had because it was awesome and really what love was all about.In return this kind of love was given to me to share with a partner one day.But right now I'm not sure of anything. If anyone can help please let me know.Hurting and still confused.
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Any truth to this lady's story? There are the evil ones who enjoy this kind of thing! If so, my sympathies, many have been in this boat! But if the thing turns out to be a lie, then push forward! Above all pray for strength, knowing you are never in the boat or out on the water alone!!
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What your going through is completely normal. First off, your heart is being broken by someone who may not be as much of a God fearing man as you had hoped for, so if that is the case, your not following Gods lead, and you need to move on and look for that special person that God has for you.
If you want to make sure, you will need to already have a good knowledge of the Bible in your heart and mind, then you can judge your perspective mate by what you know, by asking them questions, and testing their faith. Only a True Christian will be able to answer those questions of faith. Make sure your looking in the right place. Remember Soloman was condemned because he had wives of different religions. This is what disqualified him from being a blessing giver to the people of Israel. The Kingdom of Soloman was destroyed, and taken captive to Babalon, because of Solomans sins against what God told him Not to do, and that was Not to marry people of other religions or faiths, but he did anyway, and it lead to the captivity of Israel. |
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Any truth to this lady's story? There are the evil ones who enjoy this kind of thing! If so, my sympathies, many have been in this boat! But if the thing turns out to be a lie, then push forward! Above all pray for strength, knowing you are never in the boat or out on the water alone!! |
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 Update I want to thank all who have had me in their prayers.You guys are awesome.I talked with a friend last night till wee hours in the morning we cried and prayed alot.He truly helped me see the things the way it should be and prayed for me.He told me in this video this is how he saw me becoming in life and standing for God and going fourth for Jesus.I thought I would share this video with you.Take Care to all my friends and now I'm going fourth for God and doing his will now. Blessing Hugs CGIRL777 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MVD0N1XdWEs
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Hi CGIRL777,
I just tried to e-mail you and it wouldn't except it since I am not a guy. E-mail me if you want to talk or pray together! God bless you. 
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Overcoming is the word sister, I suppose all of us have had relationships that have either gone bad or were not good from the beginning. I think however, it is important for us to find good in them, for our own sake.
I think sometimes if we could learn to respond rather than react to situations in our lives we would be allot better off. Our loved ones around us would be too, I am sure. I suppose I am learning to respond to my conflicts, if I allow: it may be that my Father will use this to remove old attitudes and/or selfish motives from me... etc:: Just maybe, If I were willing to learn, a negative relationship to help bring positive change. I have noticed allot what happens is an old hurt had surfaced having nothing to do with the present person involved, and then because of the situation we were able to realize the needed change and have a healing. I think if I really do trust my Lord; than some pain is gain, sort of speak. I sure don't want to marry someone that is still stuck in their past hurts, I don't want to have to pay for their Ex’s sins, and nor should they have to pay for my ex’s sins. How can you find true peace when you’re walking around on eggshells being hurt/angry over another person’s past that you are now being punished for? So I suppose What I am suggesting, is to forgive and use this as an opportunity to grow and learn how to love and be loved for who you are today. So our Lord can truly bless you with a wonderful tomorrow. Don't get in a hurry, trust the God you believe in when you’re "both" ready to be in "unity" Than things will happen. If we get in a hurry we will more than likely really mess thing s up for us... The really sad part about that is the innocent hearts that are tagging along behind you, usually pay the higher price. Here are some important key points that were once shared with .and really helped me. Forgive, this does not mean to pretend that no wrong was done it means to turn loose of, send away the offence, it is not necessary to trust them again either, you‘ve counted the cost, you acknowledge the wrong, and you choose to release them through the grace given unto you through Christ. Recognize that The Holy Spirit will allow some people in our lives only for a season; they were never meant to be a permanent .The things we dislike in others may be a picture of our own soul that we haven't yet come to terms with. Negative relationships can become positive ones when we grow, adjust, and make changes in how we treat others; the person closest to us is often the most neglected make sure family is loved and cared for. This one is really important don’t do the blame game....This is a sign of immaturity so rise above accusations and a critical spirit it never helps anyone. And try to remember to understand the freedom of being delivered from people, so that you may be sent to people in purity and love. Sorry to go on so long, but anyway..Hugs and love, In the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus the Christ |
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  This was about someone else ok Hugs
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Overcoming is the word sister, I suppose all of us have had relationships that have either gone bad or were not good from the beginning. I think however, it is important for us to find good in them, for our own sake. I think sometimes if we could learn to respond rather than react to situations in our lives we would be allot better off. Our loved ones around us would be too, I am sure. I suppose I am learning to respond to my conflicts, if I allow: it may be that my Father will use this to remove old attitudes and/or selfish motives from me... etc:: Just maybe, If I were willing to learn, a negative relationship to help bring positive change. I have noticed allot what happens is an old hurt had surfaced having nothing to do with the present person involved, and then because of the situation we were able to realize the needed change and have a healing. I think if I really do trust my Lord; than some pain is gain, sort of speak. I sure don't want to marry someone that is still stuck in their past hurts, I don't want to have to pay for their Ex’s sins, and nor should they have to pay for my ex’s sins. How can you find true peace when you’re walking around on eggshells being hurt/angry over another person’s past that you are now being punished for? So I suppose What I am suggesting, is to forgive and use this as an opportunity to grow and learn how to love and be loved for who you are today. So our Lord can truly bless you with a wonderful tomorrow. Don't get in a hurry, trust the God you believe in when you’re "both" ready to be in "unity" Than things will happen. If we get in a hurry we will more than likely really mess thing s up for us... The really sad part about that is the innocent hearts that are tagging along behind you, usually pay the higher price. Here are some important key points that were once shared with .and really helped me. Forgive, this does not mean to pretend that no wrong was done it means to turn loose of, send away the offence, it is not necessary to trust them again either, you‘ve counted the cost, you acknowledge the wrong, and you choose to release them through the grace given unto you through Christ. Recognize that The Holy Spirit will allow some people in our lives only for a season; they were never meant to be a permanent .The things we dislike in others may be a picture of our own soul that we haven't yet come to terms with. Negative relationships can become positive ones when we grow, adjust, and make changes in how we treat others; the person closest to us is often the most neglected make sure family is loved and cared for. This one is really important don’t do the blame game....This is a sign of immaturity so rise above accusations and a critical spirit it never helps anyone. And try to remember to understand the freedom of being delivered from people, so that you may be sent to people in purity and love. Sorry to go on so long, but anyway..Hugs and love, In the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus the Christ Nice very nice --Thank you! |
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I know it must be hard, but thank God that you found out before you where totally invested in a relationship, it is a blessing that the Lord protected you though it may not feel like it right now, I pray that God may grant you the desire's of your heart, God bless sis.
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Ok I know you guys are wondering what is up so this is it.I meet someone on here four months ago and we became friends and as time went on we fell in love with each other.I truly thought I had found the one but turns out he may have a girlfriend because of the email I got today.It was a real blow to my heart.she claimed to be his woman and for me to back off.I had no clue this was going on in his life.when i got this I wondered what it was that I had done so wrong to be treated that way in life.I was nothing but honest and up front and compassionate and caring to him.I gave him my heart and yet it was today ripped out right in front of me.I have been nothing but true to him the whole time on here.I'm so to the point of giving up the dating scene right now.I'm to the point I don't know who to trust or believe in any more.you know I'm sorry I'm not the playboy bunny or the sexy barbie doll type and I have kids.I just can't understand why that's such a turn off to most men.I have only one saying in life don't judge a book by it's cover because unless you read what's inside and give it a chance and you turn it away you may have turned away what you have been looking for all along.I have a true heart to give to someone and when I'm with a man I'm with him not no one else.One thing my parents taught me in life and that's to be true to the one your with and love them unconditionally.They had a great love and most could learn from what they had because it was awesome and really what love was all about.In return this kind of love was given to me to share with a partner one day.But right now I'm not sure of anything. If anyone can help please let me know.Hurting and still confused. First i want to say i am very sorry u had to go through that. I too had a situation similar to urs but i wont go into it all but we dated for about 4months and then i found out he is married and they were still living together. Sick is not a good word for it, but u cry and for me i got mad thats when i was able to move on, now im fine i have realized the there r ppl who all they want to do is lie and deceive but if we pray and trust in the Lord he will get us through. The only advise i can give is dont lump all men in the same boat when someone contacts u if u r interested go for it but just be careful dont give ur heart away to fast thats what i did. Hope it helps to know u r not alone in that boat. blessings. |
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Update I want to thank all who have had me in their prayers.You guys are awesome.I talked with a friend last night till wee hours in the morning we cried and prayed alot.He truly helped me see the things the way it should be and prayed for me.He told me in this video this is how he saw me becoming in life and standing for God and going fourth for Jesus.I thought I would share this video with you.Take Care to all my friends and now I'm going fourth for God and doing his will now. Blessing Hugs CGIRL777 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MVD0N1XdWEs I can only say I am sorry this happened to you and to be careful as to who you believe and what their really about..Good luck |
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