Hi all, am really new to this. In 01 had a masc. that couldn't be rebuilt unless a very long, drawn out, painful procedure. This summer had the other removed because it was just a worry. (cancer of sisters, one passed).
I feel great, thought it through for years. My q's are- should I put this in my profile, does this REALLY effect men in the way they veiw women? Am a honest woman,I don't usually wear a bra because of the nerve damage of the first and finally feel comfortable in my own skin again. Am guessing am a little gunshy about all of it because ex had problems with the first (yes,, I know, I know...hence ex). Was hoping those with insight of the dating world would give me some feedback.

IMO, you did the right thing.
If a man had a hang-up with it and he read it in your profile, that will just save the two of you an awkward moment and possible unnesesary rejections.
Best to ya'.

Put in in your profile ,leave it out , I don't believe it would matter. I also do not believe any good man would base his decision to date someone based on the breast, those things are so over rated anyway Good luck.

Yes...this is true...just wanting some feedback...I 'know' sometimes a person wants affirmations from others, and reading alot in forums here, everyone seems pretty well grounded, honest and real...

Hey as they always say beauty is only skin deep you have got a lot to offer the right man and that right man will love you for who you are

Bloody good luck my heart goes out to you and all the best for the future, after what you've been through you only deserve the best

this comes to you heart felt all the way from Portugal

good luck

Dave

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The right man will accept and love you for who and what you are. Don't let anyone tell you that you aren't a loving and beautiful woman.

Hang in there, when the time is right you'll find that special guy.

That is a tough question. I probably would not include it in a profile. Too personal. When you have found the right person, you will know when it is right to let him know about this. (probably somewhat early-on). My heart goes out to you.

Dang, girl, wouldn't mean nothin' to me physically, but it'd sure mean a lot that someone was that honest: rare thing!

Nope I would'nt care either. But I think it only needs to be shared after a period of time .After all the physical is not as important as the soul !

I really appreciate you guys being honest with me, getting back out there is a little nerve racking to begin with and this is defffinitely something that will come up, or not. Real men (and women) are assets here, and in this world.

Do what I do.......wear a bra filled with fibre fill that makes you look like a DD......and when you take it off and they see your mosquito bites........say "Surprize"

<--------admitted Boob Liar....

<-------Goes to Boob Lying Anonymous regularly!!!

Sorry cute...but simply too honest to pull something off like that...respect to others is one of my things. And like said earlier- wearing a bra is way too painful even after all these years. Thanks anyway...

That is a hard question. I admire your courage for posting it in the forums.

I would guess honesty would be the best route to take and go ahead and put it in your profile. Guess you could go either way, but it would seem to me that if it is in your profile then it is "out there" and would not be a surprise later on if you have been talking to someone and started to like them (no secrets to reveal).

Good luck in your search and welcome to the site.

(PS: Gypsy was joking around.)

I agree. It's personal and only needs to be shared after a period of time.

I think being honest about it, is a good thing.

It will take care of all the weeds- so you don't have to.

The one that still shows interest in you, when they know about it-
will be the kind of man you want in your life!
The kind of man that will love you for you, no matter what.

B**bs do not make the woman.
Whats inside us, makes us who we are.

I find them rather annoying myself.
The older I get the closer to the floor they get.
One of these days they are going to start tripping me up.


I have been out front, and honest about being on Oxygen for a year
now. When I first went on, I was embarassed. Now I say, hey its part
of me. It weeds a lot of men out. They run like chickens.
But at least the one that does show interest in me, will be a really
good one! Whos interest is in me and who I really am.

The decision is up to you though and what you feel comfortable with
disclosing. Good luck and welcome to the site.

We have a couple of great ladies in here who have kicked breast
cancers azz and are taking numbers!

Yep, yep, yep! And we love her her madly...fiercely...& often!

I say be honest and let them know no matter how many say it does not matter why put your self through talking to them and have them back away.... If one thinks there are not men or women out there that would back away when they found out then those that think that need to take the blinders off.....

You have dealt with the decision you have made and if they can not deal with it then they need to turn and walk away and not waste your time......

I commend you for what you have went through a life is worth a lot more then body parts or scars ect..... you will find that one that will see you for the person you truly are and will not even let that matter to them in wanting to be with you...