Food for thought: Is it better to be Emotionally Secure or Financially Secure in a relationship?

This question I dare you to answer...

Because you have to ask yourself is it better to have someone love me no matter what: if I get old sick, poor, homeless...

Or to have an empty shallow life, yes all your physical wants taken care of; you could go shopping if you wanted to...but you are alone, and this person is never home.

So which is better?

I don't think one is necessarily better that the other, but if you had an ideal combination of both would be the best. Depends on what you want for yourself. For myself, if the heart is not in it, what's the point?

Besides, a lot of ppl fight about lack of money, but still love each other. I've heard a lot about how money can be the #1 destroyer of relationships.

Emotional security is more important. you can be poor but, sill find way's to enjoy your life together.

ITS NICE TO HAVE IT ALL BUT IT TAKES TO PEOPLE TO MAKE ANYTHING WORK.
MONEY CAN'T BUY EVERYTHING.

City girls just seem to find out early
How to open doors with just a smile
A rich old man and she won't have to worry
She'll dress up all in lace and go in style

Late at night a big ole house gets lonely,
I guess every form refuge has its price
And it breaks her heart to think her love is only
Given to a man with hands as cold as ice.

So she tells him she must go out for the evening
To comfort an old friend who's feeling down
But he knows where she's going as she's leaving
She is headed for the cheatin' side of town.

You can't hide your lyin' eyes
And your smile is a thin disguise
I thought by now you'd realize
There ain't no way to hide your lyin' eyes

On the other side of town a boy is waiting
With firey eyes and dreams no one could steal
She drives on through the night anticipating
Cause he makes her feel the way she used to feel

She rushes to his arms, they fall together
She whispers it's only for a while
She swears that soon she'll be coming back forever
She pulls away and leaves him with a smile

You can't hide your lyin' eyes
And your smile is a thin disguise
I thought by now you'd realize
There ain't no way to hide your lyin' eyes

She gets up and pours herself a strong one
And stares out at the stars up in the sky
Another night - it's gonna be a long one
She draws the shade and hangs her head and cries

She wonders how it ever got this crazy
She thinks about a boy she knew in school
Did she get tired, or did she just get lazy
She's so far gone, she feels just like a fool

My, oh my, you sure know know how to arrange things
You set it up so well, so carefully
Ain't it funny how your new life didn't change things
You're still the same ole' girl you used to be

You can't hide your lyin' eyes
And your smile is a thin disguise
I thought by now you'd realize
There ain't no way to hide your lyin' eyes...
There ain't no way to hide your lyin' eyes...
Honey you can't hide your lyin' eyes...

Have to admit that I have been on both sides of that fence. For me, if your not emotionally secure in your relationship, it's obvious that you don't actually have one to begin with. You can support any person off the street, what good does that do for a relationship? In my book that is the definition of enabling.

i've made sure all of my working life that i could financially support myself.

it'd better suit me to have a man who could handle a personality such as mine, as well as meet my emotional needs.

I fail to see how being alone is considered an empty shallow life...would seem from a logical standpoint needing to be with someone is more shallow than being alone, if you even wanted to take it further it could be considered a selfish concern, where you "have" to have someone at your side in order to accomplish something.

Emotional security weighs over Financial security, I think.

It would be nice to be taken care of physically but you will get tired and bored buying things.

With emotional security you will have that person with you, thick and thin, for better or worse...You can't touch and hold money, you can't kiss it, you can't caress it or make love to it.

Only that other person you can depend on

if you rely on some one for security, you are delusional

There is no better. I think we need a bit of both in our lives to make things work. With 2 smart and able people comes great wealth and security financially and emotionally.

ive just opted for emotional security, i had to choose and i couldnt live with myself. I have to be honest i was seriously considering the financial security and at my age, well, couldnt do it. I loved him dont get me wrong but having emotional needs met it more important to me.so i gave up the relationship, as hard as it was i fell much better.

Financial security is more important from a psychological standpoint.

Before a human beings begin to feel the urge to fulfill their need for emotional intimacy they have to first fulfill their more immediate needs of food, shelter, clothing and physical safety. When you are starving, your most immediate concern is getting something to eat, not having someone to talk to. When you are homeless or in danger of losing your home, your immediate instinct is to find and secure a home before you think about finding love. It's only when you have the important primary needs satisfied, which in a capitalist society requires finance, that you then seek to fulfill emotional needs.

Ding Ding Ding, we have a winner. Your set of free Ginsu steak knives is on it's way.

A person should be finacially secure and emotionally stable on their own. Being with someone else should be a sharing of yourself, not a reliance.

I dream of the day I find a woman that wants to use me for financial security.


Would be a dream come true.

Well

$$$ wise

I need no man. I have enough of my own

Emotionaly: I'm ok there too

There's a man there cause I "want" him there not "need" him

(in my case )

no relationship-i like my financial security-im emotionally fine with me myself and i

one without the other is nothing.