I've seemed to find myself in a bit of a bind. For sake of confusion, there are three friends who I'll refer to as the redhead, the brunette, and the blond.

We're all part of a social group that hangs out on the weekends. I was interested in the redhead up until recently, and the group thought we'd end up dating.

Around the time of my last topic post, I started realizing that the fling we had was nothing more than just a fling. After her ex passed away, I became nothing more than a friend in her eyes. I feel the same way towards her, which works out cause she starting dating a nice guy. I'm happy for her, and we're still friends.

About the same time, the blond joins our group (I'd known her only in passing prior to this). I was moving on, so I started flirting.

Well, here are my problems:

1. The group still sees me and the redhead as a "desirable couple." Despite the fact that I've lost interest, and she's started dating another guy. I'm worried this group mentality will have an adverse effect on my attempts to woo the blond.

2. The brunette feels her friend should date a puerto-rican, because she is so happy with her puerto-rican boyfriend; therefore making me "unacceptable". To which the blond confessed to me last night, she is not happy being told what race she's "allowed" to date.

3. Yesterday the brunette's bf comes to visit and brings his cousin, per the brunette's request, to hook up with the blond. This seriously upset the blond, who told me she felt like the brunette wanted her to just up and sleep with the guy (they're still arguing). So I found myself in an awkward situation last night, with this guy trying so desperately to sleep with the blond, and me continuing to flirt (conspicuously, this guy is pro boxer and I didn't want a confrontation with him) with her while trying to keep her from this "dusch" (her word, not mine) who couldn't keep his hands to himself. Even though the blond was calling this other guy a "dusch" and complaining about the situation her friend put her in, she still seemed to go along with it (though she didn't appear to enjoy it, and did tell him a few times to back off).

So, how do I get the group off my back about the redhead? How do I deal with the friend who thinks I'm "unacceptable"? And did I do right by running interference last night?

(btw, the brunette and blond are roomates, and since the bf and cousin are staying at their place for the next couple of days, the blond has moved in with her parents till they leave. This was confirmed this morning, by the brunette who bitched at me about being "left alone" for tonight)

things seemed so much simplier a year ago when I was shy LOL...

Wow.... Such DRAMA! I think Blondie is smart and little miss Brunette needs a good spanking.

don't succumb to peer pressure

do what you want to do when you want to do it

if they don't accept that then they are not really friends

Sounds like adults that acts like teenagers to me. Who cares what others think your old enough to know what you desire and need to do.

If they are to childish to accepts that your pass the Redhead then screw them, tell the blond how you feel and take it from there.

Who needs children as friends when your an adult unless your as childish as them then I wish you all the luck possible in this highschool drama.

Hmm

To be young and restless again!!

Thanks everyone for the help... I have a date lined up this weekend with the blond, so everything went well. -cheers-

she works in the bank and she works in the store and she don't go for that old stuff anymore.

Good luck!!

Sending love your way!!

well read half the post lol but from what i can gather just date blonde and if friends are real friends they will accept it
it might be different if redhead had feelings for you but she dont in that way you both know it so move on
just go with feelings and dont think on it so much

I'd start over and find me a "bald" one.

Wow.... this is drama.

Yeah, I was sort of wondering - how old are these people?

I'm guessing 18.

Do em all. Drama shop. Line em up and knock em down like bowling pins with your studliness. You can borrow my knife for the notches on your bedpost. Seriously my freind? I don't know what to say. More stink than crap in my book. I don't deal well with DRAMA. Best of luck.

Personally this whole thing sounds like a teenager issue, no offense here but hey, grown ups don't deal like this.

Second, if you and the redhead tell everyone that you are not a couple anymore how can they insist?

Third, the blonde sounds a bit two faced to me. If she really did not want to be set up with this guy, she would not have even been there to meet him unless she is only sixteen and can't drive or get around. If they surprised her with meeting him and she really wasn't interested she would have left the scene and talked to everyone later. So she wanted to see him and wanted to protest about it for some sick reason, who knows.

Drama never pays, except in the movies.

And TNT... TNT: We know drama!

like sands though the hour glass, so are the days of our lives



this is cottonelle and these are the days of our lives

O Jeebus! Just ditch them all and get a life of your own.


Noone can be THAT desperate!


Life has enough stress, and issues, and events, and situaltions thrown at you without having to bring crap onto yourself!


Simplify.. date an adult.. eventually.. after YOU are whole.. and arent seeking drama to fill in the void of an otherwise dreary boring existance.


Good lord. Give to a cause or something.

Go for the blonde and who cares what everyone else thinks! And you're better off with out the redhead, I hear they're trouble

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