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Topic: Are there any men out there....
LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Wed 09/09/09 06:11 PM
Are there any men out there, that are NOT just looking for a one night stand or webcam play? If so, how do you find them? I haven't had the opportunity to actually "meet" anyone, typically, it only gets to the point where sex comes up through messaging or email. You would think that someone would actually want to meet you first , before asking for something of that nature..... Any insight to this whole online dating would be appreciated. Ciao,,, I can't really address the behavior of what appears to be the majority of men on these sites -- because it makes no sense to me. My belief is that it's best to get to know someone over time, not rushing into anything, and certainly not trying to push anyone into anything. Sex is part of life, and if it's going to happen in a relationship, it should be in a context where both people are comfortable and have had time to make a decision based on knowledge and experience and feelings for the other person and about the relationship in general, not just "let's do it" after a day or two -- But that's just me, and I really don't see much sense in anything that most people do anymore. It's one reason I gave up on looking for anyone.

heavenlyboy34 Joined Fri 07/04/08 Posts: 17348	Wed 09/09/09 06:12 PM
<-----I have been on this and other sites for 4 years. And now I am just as synical as hell. I dont think there is an honerable, single and honest man out there. Just call me Lex2. After that long you get tired of the games, lies, disapearing acts and sex fiends. Now dont get me wrong, I like sex a lot, its just not the first thing thats on my list to talk to someone about before we even have coffee or see a movie together. Some day I do hope to be proven wrong. I'm honorable, single, and honest! I just don't have room in my life for a relationship right now, sorry. Maybe one day I'll take you on a date. Since when does one date relate to a relationship? Does "dating" have to lead to a relationship? Can't a couple of friends go out and have a nice evening together? ( This isnt just addressed to Heavenlyboy.) But when you are ready, pick a time and place. I am waiting for someone to prove my earlier statement wrong. Okay, I'll keep you in mind when I get my life together! See you then, sweetie. :)

Buttah Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 2382	Wed 09/09/09 06:22 PM
Yes, there are honorable men out there that don't just want one night stands. However, they are not online. That is a bit general. How about this, think about what the true reason is that people come sites like this. Many are social misfits, married and looking for something on the side, just here to chat with friends, or very awkward in various settings. Look at numerous profiles and count how many are either Engineers or have something to do with computers. I would guess at least 1/3. Then, think about what characteristics these "types" of people possess. I know, I am going to hear about generalizing...blah blah blah. I have scanned numerous sites over the years, some where I never spoke to anyone, but paid attention to "types" or similarities, if you will. There are common denominators to the people who frequent online/social websites. It is an incredible phenomenon! Of course I am not talking about all people, for all those who like to point such things out. You can draw your own conclusions, or not.

LewisW123 Joined Tue 06/30/09 Posts: 2403	Wed 09/09/09 06:26 PM
Yes, there are honorable men out there that don't just want one night stands. However, they are not online. That is a bit general. How about this, think about what the true reason is that people come sites like this. Many are social misfits, married and looking for something on the side, just here to chat with friends, or very awkward in various settings. Look at numerous profiles and count how many are either Engineers or have something to do with computers. I would guess at least 1/3. Then, think about what characteristics these "types" of people possess. I know, I am going to hear about generalizing...blah blah blah. I have scanned numerous sites over the years, some where I never spoke to anyone, but paid attention to "types" or similarities, if you will. There are common denominators to the people who frequent online/social websites. It is an incredible phenomenon! Of course I am not talking about all people, for all those who like to point such things out. You can draw your own conclusions, or not. Or they fall into category #12, like me: Ultra-cool dudes.

Buttah Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 2382	Wed 09/09/09 06:27 PM
Yes, there are honorable men out there that don't just want one night stands. However, they are not online. That is a bit general. How about this, think about what the true reason is that people come sites like this. Many are social misfits, married and looking for something on the side, just here to chat with friends, or very awkward in various settings. Look at numerous profiles and count how many are either Engineers or have something to do with computers. I would guess at least 1/3. Then, think about what characteristics these "types" of people possess. I know, I am going to hear about generalizing...blah blah blah. I have scanned numerous sites over the years, some where I never spoke to anyone, but paid attention to "types" or similarities, if you will. There are common denominators to the people who frequent online/social websites. It is an incredible phenomenon! Of course I am not talking about all people, for all those who like to point such things out. You can draw your own conclusions, or not. Or they fall into category #12, like me: Ultra-cool dudes. Damn, I knew I forgot one category

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Wed 09/09/09 06:29 PM
OR, they are incredibly busy people who find online chatting much easier.

LewisW123 Joined Tue 06/30/09 Posts: 2403	Wed 09/09/09 06:29 PM
Or they fall into category #12, like me: Ultra-cool dudes. Damn, I knew I forgot one category I feel better already.

Mr_Music Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 10677	Wed 09/09/09 06:29 PM
Yes, there are honorable men out there that don't just want one night stands. However, they are not online. That is a bit general. How about this, think about what the true reason is that people come sites like this. Many are social misfits, married and looking for something on the side, just here to chat with friends, or very awkward in various settings. Look at numerous profiles and count how many are either Engineers or have something to do with computers. I would guess at least 1/3. Then, think about what characteristics these "types" of people possess. I know, I am going to hear about generalizing...blah blah blah. I have scanned numerous sites over the years, some where I never spoke to anyone, but paid attention to "types" or similarities, if you will. There are common denominators to the people who frequent online/social websites. It is an incredible phenomenon! Of course I am not talking about all people, for all those who like to point such things out. You can draw your own conclusions, or not. So what category do YOU fall into?

Buttah Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 2382	Wed 09/09/09 06:34 PM
Yes, there are honorable men out there that don't just want one night stands. However, they are not online. That is a bit general. How about this, think about what the true reason is that people come sites like this. Many are social misfits, married and looking for something on the side, just here to chat with friends, or very awkward in various settings. Look at numerous profiles and count how many are either Engineers or have something to do with computers. I would guess at least 1/3. Then, think about what characteristics these "types" of people possess. I know, I am going to hear about generalizing...blah blah blah. I have scanned numerous sites over the years, some where I never spoke to anyone, but paid attention to "types" or similarities, if you will. There are common denominators to the people who frequent online/social websites. It is an incredible phenomenon! Of course I am not talking about all people, for all those who like to point such things out. You can draw your own conclusions, or not. So what category do YOU fall into? I guess I would fall into the "married, but looking for something on the side" category & "chat with friends" category. How about you?

artman48 Joined Sun 07/12/09 Posts: 933	Wed 09/09/09 06:35 PM
<-----I have been on this and other sites for 4 years. And now I am just as synical as hell. I dont think there is an honerable, single and honest man out there. Just call me Lex2. After that long you get tired of the games, lies, disapearing acts and sex fiends. Now dont get me wrong, I like sex a lot, its just not the first thing thats on my list to talk to someone about before we even have coffee or see a movie together. Some day I do hope to be proven wrong. not trying to make you mad---but why have you stayed so long????? If we are all so bad!!!

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Wed 09/09/09 06:39 PM
I'm glad I'm not an honorable, single and honest man or I'd be highly offended.

Mr_Music Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 10677	Wed 09/09/09 06:39 PM
Yes, there are honorable men out there that don't just want one night stands. However, they are not online. That is a bit general. How about this, think about what the true reason is that people come sites like this. Many are social misfits, married and looking for something on the side, just here to chat with friends, or very awkward in various settings. Look at numerous profiles and count how many are either Engineers or have something to do with computers. I would guess at least 1/3. Then, think about what characteristics these "types" of people possess. I know, I am going to hear about generalizing...blah blah blah. I have scanned numerous sites over the years, some where I never spoke to anyone, but paid attention to "types" or similarities, if you will. There are common denominators to the people who frequent online/social websites. It is an incredible phenomenon! Of course I am not talking about all people, for all those who like to point such things out. You can draw your own conclusions, or not. So what category do YOU fall into? I guess I would fall into the "married, but looking for something on the side" category & "chat with friends" category. How about you? Very simple. When I joined here, I had absolutely NO predispositions about why I was here. I was only here to catch up with old friends, and perhaps make some new ones. I had absolutely no intention of "finding a date"....in fact, that was the very last thing I cared about. By pure chance, as it's SUPPOSED to happen, I just happened to share a lot of common interests with someone, and we took that as a stepping stone. That aside, my only real reason for being here is to raise hell and see how many people I can piss off.

TomL18 Joined Sun 09/06/09 Posts: 20	Wed 09/09/09 06:44 PM
I'm not looking for a hook up or web cam fun. I don't even own a web cam.

Monier Joined Sat 03/17/07 Posts: 3337	Wed 09/09/09 08:04 PM
Are there any men out there, that are NOT just looking for a one night stand or webcam play? If so, how do you find them? I haven't had the opportunity to actually "meet" anyone, typically, it only gets to the point where sex comes up through messaging or email. You would think that someone would actually want to meet you first , before asking for something of that nature..... Any insight to this whole online dating would be appreciated. Ciao,,, One night stands from the internet sound scary. Webcam play is boring to me. Never talk about sex when you're getting to know somebody, even if they are the one starting it, it ruins everything.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Wed 09/09/09 08:12 PM
Are there any men out there, that are NOT just looking for a one night stand or webcam play? If so, how do you find them? I haven't had the opportunity to actually "meet" anyone, typically, it only gets to the point where sex comes up through messaging or email. You would think that someone would actually want to meet you first , before asking for something of that nature..... Any insight to this whole online dating would be appreciated. Ciao,,, blame the sluts

sweetboy3030 Joined Tue 08/18/09 Posts: 1188	Wed 09/09/09 08:29 PM
Are there any men out there, that are NOT just looking for a one night stand or webcam play? If so, how do you find them? I haven't had the opportunity to actually "meet" anyone, typically, it only gets to the point where sex comes up through messaging or email. You would think that someone would actually want to meet you first , before asking for something of that nature..... Any insight to this whole online dating would be appreciated. Ciao,,, Is sex the only thing people can think about these days? my god, sure it's nice and all, but it's not the most important thing in a relationship, much less, why be with someone who tries to screw you right off the bat?

Averageguy1964 Joined Fri 12/05/08 Posts: 1710	Wed 09/09/09 09:35 PM
Sex popping up while flirting with some one I believe is not a sign of a person only wanting sex,this day and age sex is everywhere,but on the other hand if all thats talked about is sex then thats a pretty good sign that the person only wants to get laid and if thats the sign I get I simply ignore that person.

sweetboy3030 Joined Tue 08/18/09 Posts: 1188	Wed 09/09/09 11:02 PM
Sex popping up while flirting with some one I believe is not a sign of a person only wanting sex,this day and age sex is everywhere,but on the other hand if all thats talked about is sex then thats a pretty good sign that the person only wants to get laid and if thats the sign I get I simply ignore that person. so cold of heart? why not set him up with a nympho? Then you'll never hear from him agian.

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Thu 09/10/09 04:44 AM Edited by justme659 on Thu 09/10/09 04:46 AM
<-----I have been on this and other sites for 4 years. And now I am just as synical as hell. I dont think there is an honerable, single and honest man out there. Just call me Lex2. After that long you get tired of the games, lies, disapearing acts and sex fiends. Now dont get me wrong, I like sex a lot, its just not the first thing thats on my list to talk to someone about before we even have coffee or see a movie together. Some day I do hope to be proven wrong. not trying to make you mad---but why have you stayed so long????? If we are all so bad!!! I hope to be proven wrong, also, I am stubborn.

Bubba43 Joined Fri 09/04/09 Posts: 36	Thu 09/10/09 02:13 PM
Okay,....i'm only telling you one more time and the that's it!!! You got it??? I said three pages ago that NO>>THERE ARE NO MEN LEFT ANYWHERE!! So, go on now..It's all over forever and you are to die old and alone and miserable and unhappy and celibate and fridgid and all that chit. All us men are really really gone gone gone. I know it really really really really sucks.