Most people really dont know who they are, much less in what they need in a relationship. Unconscious motives rule thus a lot of people making the same mistakes over and over again. We live in a competitive society and use pretty much the same style in looking for a mate which is extremely inappropriate in matters of the heart. I am often amazed how cruel people can be to one another. People who have shared thier bodies together , a life, maybe even shared vows and made children and cannot even be civil to one another and speak so disrespectful where they are the mother or father of thier children. What is boils down to is basic respect. I like to date, because it really doesnt take too long to see what is someone really about. The respect coming from getting to know the person without the distraction of being sexual with them. When you become sexual, you bond with that person, even if he/she is not right for you. Thus unhappiness. Havent you known in your heart this person is not for you, but you still want to be with them even though they make you miserable? Everyone, Everyone has had that experience. Whether it be our intimates or our family members where we are bonded to. True happiness comes from within. I learned this the hard way, Somehow the average life of a person is longer that that of a relationship, while the average life expectancy of people has increased, that of relationships has decreased. However it is not quite clear to me whether having more than one relationship during a lifetime is good or bad . . . At our early lives we may need some trial and error, later people may change, and with them their relationships also change . . . Things become probably more stable at an older age. The important thing is not to get old alone

"The important thing is not to get old alone."

How about, "The important thing is to learn to like oneself when you are alone"?

i like my self but whats the point of getting old alone

A person can be happy with somebody and they can be happy alone too. That's what I was trying to get at.

eh, whats the point of getting old at all...

ya but some have a hard time being alone i frist girl i dated i was 15 and we was togather untill i truned 18 years old then i moved down state and met my babys mom was with here from 19 to 25 she just left 1 week ago kinda sucks i hate being along some one to come home to at night when i get off the road or back from a fight

I guess the point of getting old alone is the same as getting old with someone... It's all in your perception of it...


If people are with people just to not be alone, do they really love who they are with or are they with that person b/c it's better than being alone? Personally, I'd rather be alone than with someone just so I won't be alone and I sure don't want anyone to be with me b/c I'm a better choice than being alone... yuck...

Yes, that can take some to take to getting used to. Are there many things that you can do alone where you live? You can meet people that way.

all good points this is just my view on stuff and everyone having kids and not staying to gather

you're not used to being alone... it takes time to get used to it.. Slow down, breathe, take time to get to know "you", then worry/work on dating.. believe me you'll have a different perspective...

I agree, Winx! Being with the wrong person just to avoid "growing old alone" is a preposterous notion!

A person should learn to be comfortable alone first then know how to attract the right person for a functional relationship, and only then is there a SMALL chance for long term success.

Being married or having kids will NOT guarantee you still won't be alone when you are in the twilight years.

the thing is i know who i am and know what i wanted in life.

i got a long life story and im only 25 grow up to fast. had to learn life the hard way took me some time to find out who i was and what i wanted but i did it thats one of the reason i do MMA

At 25 you "think" you know who you are and what you want.. At 35 you'll look back and say "wow, did I really think that?"... Believe me life changes and so do you.. The things we think are important at 25 aren't so important or desireable at 30,35,40, etc.

Enjoy life, be who you are, do what you believe in but don't try to push or rush things b/c that is not the way life works, if it does you won't always be happy with the outcome down the line...

good point well for now ill just keep Knocking them out and see were it takes me something will come out of it

I have been alone 10 years, by choice. It's not so bad, a lot of growth can come if you allow it. My 25 year old son is terribly restless, and struggles also. In time you will become comfortable with yourself..

Enjoy your life, don't try to rush things. It really matters not if you rush, only frustrates ya, doesn't make anything happen any quicker.

my naxt fight is in PAW PAW MI if anyone around the area come check it out its behide the bar

There are worse things than being alone.And one is having someone and still being alone!J.M.O

There you go being smart again.

So true Lady... We live and learn..


Good luck Dustin...

ya i felt that way for the last 3 years of being with my little ones mom felt like i was still alone