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Topic: Single at 40
buttons's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:20 PM
Edited by buttons on Tue 09/01/09 10:21 PM
gawd some people are donkeys!

alonenotlonely's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:23 PM

Thank you Cher.. Scoundrel doesn't mean any harm, he just has a way of looking at things that doesn't always jive with some...


D you better not lie to me... tears


If I do, you can call off the wedding!

IndnPrncs's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:24 PM


Thank you Cher.. Scoundrel doesn't mean any harm, he just has a way of looking at things that doesn't always jive with some...


D you better not lie to me... tears


If I do, you can call off the wedding!


:laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: that was cute...

Tuck4x4's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:29 PM
Edited by Tuck4x4 on Tue 09/01/09 10:32 PM
There ya go, match made in heaven.

Honestly dont think I need to add anything else. Class wins out over time.


BTW when did i say there that Id only had 3 dates? I dont think you actually read it.

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It's so very unattractive to see an adult man being so boo hoo."

Not to mention im not trying to attract you. I prefer women that dont kill their clothes or drive their homes around.

Jess642's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:31 PM
Edited by Jess642 on Tue 09/01/09 10:32 PM

There ya go, match made in heaven.

Honestly dont think I need to add anything else. Class wins out over time.


BTW when did i say there that Id only had 3 dates? I dont think you actually read it.



"This week alone Ive had 3 dates."

Yes I did...and in Australia, if you walked into a pub and said what you have here...the blokes would belt you, tell you to suck it up, and grow some.


No different.


We australians really dont have a lot of time for whiners...


IndnPrncs's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:32 PM
In my opinion, it is not necessary to be "in your face" all the time... There are times when some are so dense they just don't get it and a little in your face might be a wake up call.. There are time when someone wants to express how they are feeling and do it in a way they are comfortable, it is not necessary to call them names, tell them they are not being a man or are acting like a child.. A little human compassion is a good thing... It's not like he goes around posting these threads all the time or whines about being a nice guy...

alonenotlonely's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:34 PM

In my opinion, it is not necessary to be "in your face" all the time... There are times when some are so dense they just don't get it and a little in your face might be a wake up call.. There are time when someone wants to express how they are feeling and do it in a way they are comfortable, it is not necessary to call them names, tell them they are not being a man or are acting like a child.. A little human compassion is a good thing... It's not like he goes around posting these threads all the time or whines about being a nice guy...


True. Even the toughest have their times. All my closest friends are combat veterans and we have night terrors and sometimes the little things get to us. Still, I say a slap in the face is sometimes needed - just not automatically all the time.

mscherbear's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:36 PM
Edited by mscherbear on Tue 09/01/09 11:34 PM

In my opinion, it is not necessary to be "in your face" all the time... There are times when some are so dense they just don't get it and a little in your face might be a wake up call.. There are time when someone wants to express how they are feeling and do it in a way they are comfortable, it is not necessary to call them names, tell them they are not being a man or are acting like a child.. A little human compassion is a good thing... It's not like he goes around posting these threads all the time or whines about being a nice guy...


Exactly! flowerforyou

buttons's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:42 PM
i agree.. i didnt take it as that at all just wants advice of maybe why this happens as it does seem to be turning into a pattern.. tuck maybe you arent giving it enough time to know them before you date them abd maybe you are being to hard on yourself also , for if a date doesnt work out oh well it wasnt to be and dont take it too personal..

Tuck4x4's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:48 PM
Ah :) Frankly I just think im picking wrong. Like you said if you see a cycle, figure out what your doing wrong and change it.

Im not out there actively looking for dates, I just usually meet someone, talk and we go out.

But man can i pick them!

Yah Bear, this'll get deleted, no doubt about it, I kind of think its a neat example of exactly why guys dont mouth how they feel out loud.

For every 9 guys able to discuss stuff, theres always gonna be one cowboy, treechopper that reminds them we dont do that.


At my base im a man and when someone pokes me, i poke back. I think a woman expects that.

I once heard a perfect man described as silk covered steel.

BTW, Im ex military and one thing that being around 200 other OORAH guys teaches you is that there IS compassion among men. After we cry ***** and moan, we just end up punching each other to make up for it.


buttons's photo
Tue 09/01/09 10:55 PM
but picking takes some more time than just meeting them and saying lets go out.. talk to them a bit etc..and that doesnt always work either.. its happened to all of us im sure at one point or another..

no photo
Wed 09/02/09 01:10 AM
Edited by daytime on Wed 09/02/09 01:11 AM



The woman in question thas has the mental disorders is the reason you stated you moved. People like this tend to move on to there next drama, or end up in legal issues, jail or psychiatric wards. I do not understand how long you have to stay where you are.
I would also seek the advice of an attorney.

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 09/02/09 02:20 AM
Trying to express your feelings in forums can sometimes be a good exerence other times you will feel like you got kicked in the teeth.

Sometimes dateing/relationships stink no matter what your age.

Being lonely pretty much stinks too.

What I have found is by investing in friends usually I am a happier person and thus attract more friends includeing dates with people who like me. Yes I still look on line because I believe there are compatiable people there also. But I had to figure out what kind of person who would make me happy to start.

Kind of consider your idea to marry on the third date as tongue in cheek but the feeling that all relationships are more or less the same misery will surely come true with that thought frame. People generally live up to or down to your expectations of them.

That you have been abandoned once tends to make you expect it and that is hard to live with.

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