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I always hear the term single mom as well (and have probably used it myself) when in reality we are divorced moms (or dads). Sometimes I think people use single because they think it sounds better than divorced. Divorce = failure. Single = available. I do agree that separated is NOT the same thing as divorced, no matter how many times someone tries to convince you it is.
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How does being legally seperated figure in???..... Separated is a LEGAL term, just as divorced is a legal term. You either are or you're not. A legal seperation is different than just a seperation. The only thing it does not allow is to get remarried. A legal seperation is a contract parting ways. All financial business taken care of. I hate ****ing legal terms.............. I believe legal separation is mostly to create a legally enforcable framework for support and visitation. You're still married and can file taxes as such. Yes but done with a reason. I just refuse to pay the money to file..... |
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michiganman3 was correct - when I decided to file for divorce it took less than 3 months Ditto......He left in January, we were divorced by April. Get 'er done! |
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I am not about to do seperated. I don't even like to date the walking wounded so I tend to avoid the newly divorced. I didn't drag people into my dramas so why let me drag me into theirs. I want a relationship not a "friend in need". I don't want someone who's basic personality is to put themself first regardless of how I might be getting short changed by his situation.
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I always hear the term single mom as well (and have probably used it myself) when in reality we are divorced moms (or dads). Sometimes I think people use single because they think it sounds better than divorced. Divorce = failure. Single = available. I do agree that separated is NOT the same thing as divorced, no matter how many times someone tries to convince you it is. The whole "Single Parent" monicer bugs me. It takes two to tango. Somewhere there was the other person and just because they are not doing their share they still have rights and responsibilites. I do noticed when a person is a Divorced Parent versus a parent that did not make their relationship or their parenting relationship protected and recognized by the community. While I think if you choose to put yourself at that disadvantage it is your choice. I think it is just selfish to do that to your own child. Past behavior often predicts future behavior. Makes me wonder how that person might look out for me if I became vunerable. |
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single not a pair separated = single (no longer a pair) divorced = single (no longer a pair) widowed = single (no longer a pair) married = not single (a pair) dating = not single (a pair) good luck This makes sense to me. I'm divorced but definitely consider myself single. |
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single not a pair separated = single (no longer a pair) divorced = single (no longer a pair) widowed = single (no longer a pair) married = not single (a pair) dating = not single (a pair) good luck This makes sense to me. I'm divorced but definitely consider myself single. |
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Not "hooked up" to a significant other.
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Excuse me if the topic has been done to death. I'm new to this. If you are separated and otherwise unattached are you considered single? In some cases people looking for someone not married accept unwashed separated types like myself. In other cases, they are quick to point out that separated is still married. (This reminder gives me panic flashes.) And how do you refer to the former light of your life? I kind of choke on the word wife but ex isn't legally correct either. And soon-to-be-ex doesn't trip off the tongue. Has Miss Manners written on this? peter Hello Peter. Those that wish to nit pick the finer details of online dating status, would probably drive you nuts anyways...so when they appear, you shall know to avoid them... If the divorce is imminent, and you are healed, healthy and remotely sane, have no 'nice guy' tendencies..(forum joke and bane of many's existence)...and are comfortable within yourself to stride out into the tentative world of crazy dating and relating....then the status of your singledom is irrelevant. yours in cyber ink, Ms Manners.(<-insert sensible shoes, and high collared frock here) |
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Single= Not married. Not dating. Involved= Have a signficant other Married= LEGAL TERM... you are married until the courts say you are not. Separated= MARRIED Divorced= You were married and the courts finally say you're not. Once divorced, you will always be divorced. You can no longer say you are single. Not correctly. I don't date separated people. I don't date married people, and married is separated. Once a person has one relationship resolved and over with... then after a bit they can enter into another one. But no way I'm getting involved with someone that has yet to finish what they started with someone else. Unless they are missing in action, get a divorce. Then date. To do otherwise is usually totally unfair to everyone. I like this... straight to the point! |
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I used to say I was single and it was the wife who was married.
It worked sometimes. I've been seperated for quite a while now. Sort of settling into it and really don't know if I'd even do the live together thing anymore. Dating, being friends and getting laid is an option I wouldn't turn down. |
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I used to say I was single and it was the wife who was married. It worked sometimes. I've been seperated for quite a while now. Sort of settling into it and really don't know if I'd even do the live together thing anymore. Dating, being friends and getting laid is an option I wouldn't turn down. How many options does a man have wearing a pink tutu....... |
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I used to say I was single and it was the wife who was married. It worked sometimes. I've been seperated for quite a while now. Sort of settling into it and really don't know if I'd even do the live together thing anymore. Dating, being friends and getting laid is an option I wouldn't turn down. How many options does a man have wearing a pink tutu....... maybe opened up brand new opportunities |
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In my opinion, you are either single or married!
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Excuse me if the topic has been done to death. I'm new to this. If you are separated and otherwise unattached are you considered single? In some cases people looking for someone not married accept unwashed separated types like myself. In other cases, they are quick to point out that separated is still married. (This reminder gives me panic flashes.) And how do you refer to the former light of your life? I kind of choke on the word wife but ex isn't legally correct either. And soon-to-be-ex doesn't trip off the tongue. Has Miss Manners written on this? peter Hello Peter. Those that wish to nit pick the finer details of online dating status, would probably drive you nuts anyways...so when they appear, you shall know to avoid them... If the divorce is imminent, and you are healed, healthy and remotely sane, have no 'nice guy' tendencies..(forum joke and bane of many's existence)...and are comfortable within yourself to stride out into the tentative world of crazy dating and relating....then the status of your singledom is irrelevant. yours in cyber ink, Ms Manners.(<-insert sensible shoes, and high collared frock here) Oh Jesus why can't you be a man! |
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I used to say I was single and it was the wife who was married. It worked sometimes. I've been seperated for quite a while now. Sort of settling into it and really don't know if I'd even do the live together thing anymore. Dating, being friends and getting laid is an option I wouldn't turn down. How many options does a man have wearing a pink tutu....... You just might be surprised. Try it. I'll loan you one of mine. |
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