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| Topic: Should you have to "make" your relationship work? | |
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if I have to make it work...
it's not meant to be... |
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i think that true love is liquid, consistent, and breathless.
if love is true then nothing else that can happen between the 2 could ever seem more important than the feelings they share with each other. so, no. i dont think love can be forced or molded. that willl just end in disaster and heartache and in an affair  eek. no thanks.
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it's not all touchy feely and warm and fuzzy after the initial infatuation starts to wear off and you're pickin up smelly socks and skidmark underwear for the 100th time or late for work cause you can't find your keys cause someone "tidied" for the 100th time or you want to watch the Colts and the Patriots and she wants to watch "What not to wear". You do have to work pretty hard at it sometimes or it just wont work 
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I would prefer it be a labor of love. I agree... you work at the rough spots, because you love the other person... and frankly, if you love something a lot, the work part does not seem so much like work... eh? 
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 Should you have to "make" your relationship work,or should it just work by itself with little effort from those involved?
The idea that relationships don't take work is fairytale, IMO. It takes two people giving 100%. Relationships should flow because of the work and the result has to be worth the work. That isn't to imply that a square peg/round hole situation is okay, either. Some things can't be forced and shouldn't be. But given that I'm single...what do I know??? 
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Hmmm.. All very valid points. As I've stated in the previous blog entry, there are the ups and the downs that are dealt with. Honestly speaking I think it all really depends on how one feels for another to continue the relationship at all. Nobody's perfect.
I happen to think that the "love" between two people will bring the hard work to keep things fresh, new and stable. Although communication,honesty, trust and loyalty has to be present in order for stability.
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I have been hurt so much I forget how feels "to be loved".........so whats with the whole "labor of love" deal?
I don't understand.....maybe thats my problem. Any more, I just don't even try bc I think I'm going to get hurt again |
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 Hi Ho Hi Ho it's off to work I go
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Edited by
earthytaurus76
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Sun 08/30/09 09:58 AM
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I would prefer it be a labor of love. I agree... you work at the rough spots, because you love the other person... and frankly, if you love something a lot, the work part does not seem so much like work... eh?
weeeellll. yess. But I am more thinking, work to please the other.. you know, doing nice thingsss, extra things.. being sweet, being attentive, keeping things exciting, or sexy or interesting. All requiring work. Immm.. not a WHOLLEE lot tolerant of someone giving me a rough time, now lifes events being rough, YES working hard to stay together through tough times, like money troubles, o yeah im in full on. I dont dooo like, name calling, blaming, stuff like that.. Im not into working on that.. lol. |
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I have been hurt so much I forget how feels "to be loved".........so whats with the whole "labor of love" deal? I don't understand.....maybe thats my problem. Any more, I just don't even try bc I think I'm going to get hurt again Ditto |
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If you care about the other person, and don't want your relationship to just dissolve over time, work, petty life things...
Maintenance is important to make it last. Shouldn't feel like work, but necessary actions, thoughts, and behavior from both individuals to keep it going smoothly. Should be done with genuine care and concern. Love isn't just going along through life on auto pilot... it does need those extra touches to keep it vital. Again, it really wouldn't seem like work if the relationship were based on a natural, easy going type of love to begin with. It would be something you wanted to do, not felt you HAD to do. |
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Forcing it or "making it work" no, but working together in a stable relationship is a healthy thing. |
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Forcing it or "making it work" no, but working together in a stable relationship is a healthy thing. Agree. Every relationship takes some effort. The more healthy, the less it will feel like work, because the rewards will be worth it. |
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Should you have to "make" your relationship work,or should it just work by itself with little effort from those involved?
You shouldn't "have" to make anything work. If are, then the relationship probably isn't working. And if THAT'S the case, then you might as well just put a fork in her, 'cuz yer done. |
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Hmmm.. All very valid points. As I've stated in the previous blog entry, there are the ups and the downs that are dealt with. Honestly speaking I think it all really depends on how one feels for another to continue the relationship at all. Nobody's perfect. I happen to think that the "love" between two people will bring the hard work to keep things fresh, new and stable. Although communication,honesty, trust and loyalty has to be present in order for stability.
Darknight, I agree whole heartedly. When you truly love someone, it doesn't feel like work. But all healthy relationships take communication, honest, trust and loyalty and that entails working at it. |
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if I have to make it work... it's not meant to be...
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... I shouldn't have to work ... full stop ...
... Much less on a relationship ... ... Has anyone seen my diamond tiara??? |
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... I shouldn't have to work ... full stop ...
... Much less on a relationship ... ... Has anyone seen my diamond tiara??? 
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You shouldn't HAVE to make your relationship work, you should WANT to make it work. Having to make a relationship works is like trying to dig yourself out of debt, You have to do that, it's annoying and you're always broke.
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