I'm thinkin' it is...

I think retract from physical affection. Just let it be - don't force the issue with any of that stuff. Keep the focus on her, be really polite and courteous.

No talk about future or long term plans. Just talk about now, make her laugh, joke around. Don't force the issue with how great you think she is and you can see yourself with her .

To me that is a part of coming on too strong -

at the end of the date - don't ASK for a hug - or anything - just tell her it was a great time.


If she liked the date, didn't think you came on too strong, she will want to go out again.


Thats what i think.

Ehhhhhhh - dont do that!



Don't ask her what coming on too strong is. or ask her if you can talk about sex!





Be a gentleman and show your interest and focus on her and have fun with it!

Common sense should tell what over the line is or isn't.


If you are doing everything right - playing it cool - and she comes at you with some coming on too strong BS - well, you dont want to date her anyway!


but dont ask her what coming on too strong is.


She put a for sure warning that she wants to take it slow, she doesn't want to mount you the first date, and just back off and get to know me.

Step 1: Keep your hands out of her pants, out of her shirt and off of her butt.

Step 2: Keep your lips off her lips and if you screw up put your tongue back.

Great assumption. I said dont discuss sex.. And YES ask her what she means by crossing the line, because everyone is different.

Yeah, if someones unsure id prefer thay ask me personally, because when they do, it helps the chances of a successful date. They screw up, and im out the door.

For some women, a hug or a kiss is an outrage.

Besides the physical, it could also be how you approach her. Men who start calling me baby or even saying they love me on first date send up red flags. Just be genuine, not rehearsed or "smooth talking." And yeah... hold off on the bj.

if its a first date, yeah, a kiss would be too strong.

Please do not tell her that you used Nair you know where, that might send her screaming

I know you didnt say not to ask her to talk about sex.....

my response to you was....

dont ask her what crossing the line is.



I feel like that is a doomed conversation. If you handle yourself like a gentleman, really it shouldnt be an issue and should be a total common sense thing.


I don't know.

To me, thats like putting your penis in the girls vagina and being like "ok, what do i do now? move this way? ok. what now? ok. now what do you want? "


I mean. it's clumsy and sloppy.


Play your game, be a gentleman, and you shouldn't cross the line.



BUT.


earthy - you are the woman. you know better than me.

i'm just a single dude like all the other single dudes.







You should probably listen to earthy.

nope no need to have her screaming in a bad way

Naturally I am pretty respectful and a gentlman, so I should be alright shouldn't I?

you'll be fine....

Yeahhh don't try to kiss her, don't talk about previous relationships, don't try to get in her pants (Or even joke about this!)

DO NOT confess feelings you may or may not have for her!

The girl is from Texas and grew up down there, any ladies from Texas in here that wanna give me tips?

Sure you will be fine.
Lots of advice right here on this post, how could you go wrong?

yes.

exactly.


you will be fine if you are like that.

Texas women don't like guys with hairy butts.

and you already have the cream...

LMFAOO!!!

Sadly that's happened to me.

Needless to say, I ended the date pretty quickly.

*shakes head*

I dunno... I mean IV, If shes some stupid *****, she will have no mercy on him for asking her what her dealbreakers are.. then YES like YOU said..

your rid of her, and dont have to date her anyway..


If ya gotta walk on eggshells not gonna work anyway.


But Ive thought it was kinda cute, and sweet, and smart for someone to say..

"OK.. you said there are certain things that you really DONT like on a date, or things that would bother you, and I dont want to cross the line, so.. what are those just in case?

I dunno, may sound ameteur to you, b ut it has worked for me..

Ill tell ya one thng though, it shows you respect her boundries.
Anyway OP.. good luck.

I have more common sense than that lol.