I said wisdom. You said fear. Interesting.

Well, good luck in whoever's search this is for understanding.

Good point! Women may have more options and are therefore more selective.



Teasing and challanging is flirting. It's sending mixed singles. It's when you lift one eyebrow, smile and say "I'm starting to feel attracted to you. Maybe you should stand on the other side of the room."

Did I misunderstand? Am I mising something?

Read the posts on mingle. A lot of men that need to grow a pair.

I've never seen so much whining.




Onto the subject matter at hand- I agree with Scoundrel.


A woman is waiting to overanalyze some situation. His job means he does not have the same interests- His relationship with his Mom is the tell all sign of how he will treat a woman- - He drives with only one hand so he must not be very protective.

Just ridiciolous crap.

I don't know any dudes that do this.

Scoundrel- am i thinking the same way you are ? or am i even talking about something else?

Hmmmm...I think the American dating and mating game is waaaay different to the aussie game...


I read some of the stuff on here...(this site) and am floored.


Perhaps we are more direct...less 'tiptoe' in approaches?

A guy approaches, shows interest, in the woman, leans in, asks questions, LISTENS to the answers...is bound to be attractive to a woman...(here).

Is it true that within the first minus 3 seconds we know if he is 'in'?

Yes.

('In'...as in, stands a chance, AFTER the intensive scrutinisation that occurs at light speed in a woman's brain, of remote interest)..

We all put out unconscious signals....the astute can read those...the body language, minute tics in facial expressions...the cues..

Here in Australia amongst the women I know...at a bar...

man approaches, strikes up conversation, with 'targeted female'...other females drop back with slight disinterest...'targeted female' allows polite chitchat, then cuts to the chase..." I am/am not willing to consider sex with you....do/do not continue to woo me/waste your time."


Men are more direct here also..."You're a top chick...wanna do the wild thing?"

Yeah, it's that kind of BS I'm thinking of IV. Everything means something else to women. His hands are too smooth, he can't fix things around the house. His hands are too rough... Everything is a test of some kind.

Let me break it down for you all in cave man terms...

Man = Testosterone (Hunter)

Woman = Estrogen (Prey)

It's in our physical and sociological make up, yo.

Word.

Nice picture by the way (((myka))).

To SOME women....in 'other' countries..perhaps.

Thanks hun

I have to take exception to this. Sorry,in my world what you just described is way to much work I quite honestly am not going to over think it. If I am attracted I am attracted, if I am not I am not going to stand there and try to figure out why. It just is.


Again way to much work.. I find this amusing since some of the men I have dated in the past used this type of behavior themselves,I dont' put up with it.


As someone mentioned "chasing a man.. I dont' look at it as a chase I look at it as a challenge or a dance if you will. That is part of the fun IMO

I must admit that I want a woman that has more going for her than just her looks. Why should I get involved with one woman vs another? What can she bring to the table?

As humans we have a deeper apperciation for the things we have to work for. We care little for the things that come too easilly.

Also, I want to say that I am not complaining. If a woman is testing me she IS interested in me. Otherwise she wouldn't bother. When I'm being tested I'm usually a happy camper.

Which is why no one should suggest that Women and Men are the same in the way they think and approach the situations like I had mentioned.



SitkaRains mentioned she has never done those type of things. Amen to her, that is refreshing.


There will be exceptions to every rule. But MANY women do exactly what I had talked about.

I would say 8 out of 10 that I have dated.

the ones that haven't are chill, very laid back, cool customers. The ones that do it, just annoy me.

And the fact that they do it - it's okay, if thats how they need to find a life partner, then do it - it is just not for me so it doesn't work out.

Most of us when we get to our age had better have more going for us than our looks they are going to start to fade rather rapidly. LOL

I can't speak for a man, I know for me, what makes me choose one over the other, well does he make me smile and laugh when he is no where around. Does he make me want to reach and make contact with him. Doe he stimulate my mind as well as my body. These are just a few.

Aww the age old question, I think each person will bring their own meal to the table the question comes down to do we want to partake of it. If there attraction and compatiblity is strong enough we will eat burnt toast and think it is the best fare in the land.


I agree with this statement as long as we as human keep out perspective intact and cut bait when the cost becomes to high.

I have to disagree somewhat, people will test another to just to get some sick sense of humor out of it. Kind of like watching lab rats going after the cheese just because we can.
IMO