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I was wanting to get a female answer (guys welcome to put in your 2 cents)
I recently decided to get back with my wife... Long story short, she cheated on me. I love her very much and I might be wrong in doing so but I have put myself out there for her again. She has finally taken 100% blame for what she did. Should I trust her again? What do you think. Sincere and blunt honesty welcomed.... |
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Only if you can both commit to counseling
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Only if you can both commit to counseling
We have agreed to doing so. What would counseling do exactly? Why does everyone point that direction first? |
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Because even if you take her back there will be feelings of resentment as well as major trust issues that need to be addressed and attended to properly during this healing time.
It's like breaking your arm and just letting it heal as opposed to getting a cast
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Counciling would be good. But, its also a problem of trust.
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Need to take it one day at a time, rebuild that trust....good luck
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Yeah, I'm sorry but if someone I married cheated on me clearly shows that person doesn't love you as much as they thought when they said "I Do".
Just to keep it short. I say if you decided to give her a 2nd chance don't get too torn up if she does it again. |
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Because even if you take her back there will be feelings of resentment as well as major trust issues that need to be addressed and attended to properly during this healing time. It's like breaking your arm and just letting it heal as opposed to getting a cast
I understand. I know that In order for this marriage to work, I must leave what happened in the past and not every bring it up. It does mess with the mind a bit though. I guess it's the trust thing that is the hardest. |
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Communication builds trust. Without those 2 things, nothing can or will work, and counciling will help the 2 of you learn to re connect. Good luck my friend. All my best to you and your wife!!!
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Need to take it one day at a time, rebuild that trust....good luck
I agree. And I know that it won't be easy to rebuil that trust since there is not much that I can do to help her rebuild it. She needs to understand that I need to LEARN to trust her again. |
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If she has not honestly looked inside herself as to why she cheated, and changed, she will cheat again. She is the only one who can change that, no matter whether she is with you or not. She has to look at why she did it, then make every effort to change herself. If not, you need to move on.
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You can tell yourself until you are blue in the face that YOU can put it behind you, but you need to be able to confront the fear/anger/disappointment feelings head on to get past them. That's what counseling is for.
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Been there done that .Do the counseling Mine would'nt ,She did it again want to know more email me !
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Things change --people change--over time and all that--If you love her more then anything ---give her a chance.
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Yeah, I'm sorry but if someone I married cheated on me clearly shows that person doesn't love you as much as they thought when they said "I Do". Just to keep it short. I say if you decided to give her a 2nd chance don't get too torn up if she does it again. See, that was my initial thought. This is why we were seperated for a while. I had decided that she was not worth my time and figured that if she messed up once, she would do it again (u know, "once a cheater, always a cheater") But I am not one to just say "the hell with my vows" My vows were put before GOD and I swore "for better, or for Worse". Call me old fashioned but I DO believe in that. |
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Good Luck.
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I was wanting to get a female answer (guys welcome to put in your 2 cents) I recently decided to get back with my wife... Long story short, she cheated on me. I love her very much and I might be wrong in doing so but I have put myself out there for her again. She has finally taken 100% blame for what she did. Should I trust her again? What do you think. Sincere and blunt honesty welcomed.... Look sweetie, the only one who can make that decision is you. Yes you can get advice from family, friends, even here, but you have to decide what is best for you. I was with a man who cheated twice. I took him back, he did it again. You do have to know the reason she did this and so does she or else you will always wonder if you go back with her. |
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Yeah, I'm sorry but if someone I married cheated on me clearly shows that person doesn't love you as much as they thought when they said "I Do". Just to keep it short. I say if you decided to give her a 2nd chance don't get too torn up if she does it again. See, that was my initial thought. This is why we were seperated for a while. I had decided that she was not worth my time and figured that if she messed up once, she would do it again (u know, "once a cheater, always a cheater") But I am not one to just say "the hell with my vows" My vows were put before GOD and I swore "for better, or for Worse". Call me old fashioned but I DO believe in that.  give it another go and take every day one at a time JMO.Good luck 2u mate and i hope it works out 4u
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Sorry, but you're the only one who can answer that question. Good luck to you.
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i'd bang her sister and even things up. everything should work out fine after that.
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